Marriage & Divorce - 14 September 2007

non- exciting. i get up 5 days a week and do the same job. i get up at 530 am. get ready for work and leave for work at 730. i get home from work at 630 pm. i eat dinner, spend a little time with my wife and two sons. watch television for an hour, go to sleep and repeat. my wife seems to often be unhappy with things. i make enough for her to stay home with the kids. yet she always wants more. she wants a bigger house and all these things yet is completely uninterested in sex with me. i often feel like i walk on eggshells around her. the only thing i really find i enjoy doing anymore is spending a little time with my sons or the occasional workout/ exercise. i feel jaded about work. i have an mba and earn over 100k but am getting to the point that i don't care about the job that much anymore.
how does someone in such a huge rut feel passion about life again? is it possible to feel this way again or is it generally a downhill fall from here on?

2007-09-14 07:21:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

she used to text him all the time and delete it or tell me that she didn't do it until i get the bill and see that she did and created a new hotmail account that she never said anything about. she cuts hair and he is her client and so is his wife but she says because of the problems that were having that she needs someone to talk to and he is nothing more than a friend. they actually went to the movies together after she got off of work and she said she was going to the park to "think". i love her but im torn on what to do because we have 2 kids together. can someone please help

2007-09-14 07:19:34 · 22 answers · asked by ray a 1

i got engaged to a guy last month. at that time we dint know about his general conduct as we couldnt find out. now we have come to know tht he is too bad guy. he is involved in all the types of wrong things, uses bad language, drinks excessively, chain smokers. our marriage date is also finallized....... i m very scared now.......... help me

2007-09-14 07:17:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am really hurt and upset. My boyfr. of 3 years broke up with me half year ago. It's been really hard since. Every time I told him I am going to move on, he always told me that it upsets him too much and that we should stay in contact and still talk to each other. He said that for now we are broken up but in the future we could get back together. I met him about a month ago and we did have a nice time but I realised that the only way I can move on is to say good bye to him. I did but he was telling him how he is scared of loosing me and that I should not do that. But at the same time he told me that he doesn't want to continue our long-distance relationship and we could try again later when he moves closer. I told him that I need to cut all contact with him but he could not understand that. Now he is telling me that i need to make my mind up about what I would like to do about this but he says that we should have no contact until we feel stronger. I am so hurt about this.

2007-09-14 07:06:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

30 years of determined future with lots of problems and limited freedom - why would you want this?

2007-09-14 06:57:46 · 15 answers · asked by dupcioszek2 d 1

I'm currently separated and I'm planning on a divorce..How has a divorce affected your child?

2007-09-14 06:54:50 · 20 answers · asked by MARGO 1

He has been chatting with a women on his myspace account which I had no idea he had.I found it by accident and woke him up to confront him.He says he knows it was wrong and knew it was wrong when he was doing it.He says he loves me and our two boys more than anything and he just got caught up in it.He says he wont do it again and that it would never have went any further he swears.Believe me I am no pushover and I am angry and sad but I feel like it was not the worst thing he could have done,but not the best either.Anyone in a similar situation?Any advice?

2007-09-14 06:50:21 · 27 answers · asked by willandgabe 1

2007-09-14 06:49:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Like a year ago I found a LOT of emails that my husband sent to different girls saying he was hot and wanted to have a date with any of them..is those I don´t know..places were they can see pics and then write to each other..When I found this I was so nervous I couldn´t believe my eyes..I was shaking all over..Then I confornted him, and he said he was just playing to see if those adds were true..that he never had nothing with anyone..He told me he was going to erase that email address, now like a month and half, I tryed to get the password for that address because I got suspicious he was using it again.I finally got to go in hes mail, and there I saw again that this time he was chatting with people..I actually talk to one girl, and she thought I was him..She was saying that she was in love for what she had seing on the webcam..and trying to get together..I went again and told him...He denayed it again..saying that he never did that, and don´t really know what else...Don´t know what to

2007-09-14 06:45:57 · 15 answers · asked by BabeA 1

My husband's ex spends the child support my hubby sends on her bf. She has admitted it! She pays for his car note--- is this right? Of course not. I wonder of all the people out there getting child support, what really goes to the kids.

2007-09-14 06:38:13 · 24 answers · asked by Lucci 6

He wants me to become a muslim. Im a christian and believe strongly in God i could never become a muslim. He says he will leave me he says i have a choice to become a muslim or be without him. I couldnt even think about becoming muslin if he really loved me he should accept and love me for who i am. i dont know what to do? he is the only guy that i have ever loved this much he has my heart i cant see myself without him. he says i have to decide soon.

2007-09-14 06:37:15 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

been having an affair with a woman from another country that he had met online. Through his emails, I discovered he fell in love with her. I forgave him and gave him a choice either me or her. He told me that he loved me more than he loved her but I'm doubting it. He told me that he needed to keep in touch with her only for a couple of months to make sure she was ok. She had no idea he was married. I agreed only because he was telling me he was going to do this for a couple of months. It's been 6 months. When he's with me he's very dedicated to our relationship but looking at the phone bill, he's the one calling her. Sometimes he'll call her several times in one day. I need for men to come forward who have fallen in love with the other woman but have stayed with their wife to tell me the truth. I was a couple of months pregnant when it happened. i told him not to stay with me bc of baby. he told me that he with me bc he loves me. i don't know if thats the truth. i feel lost!

2007-09-14 06:29:34 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

now if i am going to cheat on my husband, i am going to pick a person that is ten times better than him.

so, like many of you, just have to know who and what this other woman is about. i started asking him and damn near harassing him to give me information about this chick. i know he could say any thing to shut me up.

i asked how is her hair, he says she wears a weave. my "real" hair goes to the middle of my back. i asked was she fat or skinny, well in that department she got me beat by a few pounds, so i am like whatever. then i asked what does she do for a living, he says she is a dental hygenist (so now he's messing with a broke, bald headed hoe).

i am like dude, why would you get someone that doesn't even compare to me. you know what this fool says "because she listens to me and give me good conversation." wtf is that. i listen to his dumb @$$ all the time and his conversations about what, he ain't even talking about nothing.

why do i even bother?

2007-09-14 06:29:16 · 23 answers · asked by karMA_DAME 4

My husband is a little comfortable with it but the ex is a few states away!

2007-09-14 06:27:55 · 25 answers · asked by ~Charity~ 6

2007-09-14 06:26:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

been to pre-marital classes yet, but feeling overwhelmed on just giving up the single life and having more responsibility as far as a husband and children are concerned. My question is, is it normal to be nervous, doubtful and just plain old scared. My fiance has been married before and is the father of two boys ages 10 and 13 who will be living with us. I have no children and have never been married. Please serious replies ONLY. Thanks in advance for your responses.

2007-09-14 06:23:55 · 25 answers · asked by AnneMaria 3

just one thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!


i wont answer...not enough room for details. hahaha

2007-09-14 06:22:59 · 39 answers · asked by Francesca 5

are you good?

i am really good!!!!!!!

2007-09-14 06:21:20 · 21 answers · asked by Francesca 5

2007-09-14 06:10:05 · 24 answers · asked by jyoti s 2

tell me about it

2007-09-14 06:10:03 · 13 answers · asked by Francesca 5

In response to my question, my wife isn't a virgin and i was, i found that the bulk of women that answered told me that this was 2007 and things had changed. that i should get over it and forget about the traditional way of doing things. Why then do women insist on wearing a white dress to get married? If virginity and purity no longer matter, then why wear the white that symbolizes it? Does tradition matter after all, or is it only good when you can have your cake and eat it too?

2007-09-14 06:07:51 · 38 answers · asked by Casey M 1

Do I confront him about it right away even though I may be accused of being nosy or wait it out a couple of days to see if maybe he mentions something to me about it. Like, maybe he ran into an old friend or doing work with this person.

2007-09-14 06:04:45 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous

My bf of one month had a notice that they will sell the house that he is renting...He sugested that since we get along so well and we see each other every day anyway....He could put his stuff in a storage and move in with me while we can look for a biger place together......I like him...But I have never done this before and I'm scared....Anyone any opinion on this...Thanks a milion....We are both in our 30's

2007-09-14 05:58:26 · 24 answers · asked by Juliet 5

A friend of mine cheated on her boyfriend with one of his good friends while he was away. She said it just kind of happened. She now feels so guilty and wonders if she should tell her boyfriend the truth or is she being selfish by only telling him to let go of the guilt? She and the other guy are just friends and nothing further but she can not stop thinking about how wrong she was. How does she get over this??? I have NO idea what to tell her. HELP

2007-09-14 05:53:55 · 22 answers · asked by chloe 2

what things do you draw??? I doodle all the time

2007-09-14 05:47:43 · 15 answers · asked by Francesca 5

am seeking larger women for email dialogue/talks in general. Seeking to talk to those who either have ocd or think they lean that way and if on the larger body frame that much the better. If you think you would be ok with this ...please respond!

2007-09-14 05:46:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay this is yet again the problem. he has decided to leave me cuz his "hearts over there" but my feeling is that he is just doing this cuz he wants to be there for his kid not the mama..even though we are married i feel like he can still be with me and take care of the child?! what can i do? i try to be supportive but at the same time i dont wanna lose him im trying to be strong and we have been trying to have a kid since we were married 8 mo ago and still no preggo here and it makes me feel like im being punished that he is leaving me for her cuz they have a kid and i dont? should i feel this way what is going on in the world why do i have to suffer? and yet he still also tells me I still love you and im not going to file for the divorce unless i know for sure it works out with me and her and if not then i wanna take our time n gettin back together what the heck does this mean for me? should i charge him for bills even if he wont live with me since he left me whil e i am unemploye

2007-09-14 05:16:05 · 14 answers · asked by mrandmrsmedina07 1

I have three children from 2 differant guys. Neither one of the children have their fathers last names and none of the fathers are on the birth certificates. The two who share a father have no contact with their father. He doesn't pay child support and there is no assosiation with him. My other ones father is in Prison. I have meet a wonderful man and we are soon to be getting married. He wanted to give my boys his last name and we wanted to do it the cheapest way with it still being legal. Does anyone know how I could go about doing this. Our budget is pretty tight so we wanted to do it simple and inexpensive as possible.

2007-09-14 05:09:50 · 10 answers · asked by margiesue_84 1

i have one friend hu lives in bhutan (its legal,accepted but VERY rare there)and she has 2 hubbys at once they live in same house and she had 1 kid from one. he calls both of them dad and seems to be ok about it when i chtted to im once.(we chat over net on online MMORPG game like WOW or maple story/neopets/runescape)
i personally dont mind polyandery/gamy but your ideas guys?

2007-09-14 05:09:07 · 24 answers · asked by noob hustler 2

He and I have both been separated from our spouses for over a year. One interest we both have is seeing Iceland before it melts away.

Should I go?

My H is now with a woman he is introducing to friends.

It would be for a four night trip.

2007-09-14 05:06:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous