What should I do?? I found my husband writting hot things to girls in Internet?

Question

Like a year ago I found a LOT of emails that my husband sent to different girls saying he was hot and wanted to have a date with any of them..is those I don´t know..places were they can see pics and then write to each other..When I found this I was so nervous I couldn´t believe my eyes..I was shaking all over..Then I confornted him, and he said he was just playing to see if those adds were true..that he never had nothing with anyone..He told me he was going to erase that email address, now like a month and half, I tryed to get the password for that address because I got suspicious he was using it again.I finally got to go in hes mail, and there I saw again that this time he was chatting with people..I actually talk to one girl, and she thought I was him..She was saying that she was in love for what she had seing on the webcam..and trying to get together..I went again and told him...He denayed it again..saying that he never did that, and don´t really know what else...Don´t know what to

Answer 1

You know what you saw, know what you read. Don't listen to his denials- he's lying straight to your face. He didn't stop the first time you found out. You deserve better. I'd leave him.

Answer 2

He's cheating on you!!

Your relationship is destroyed. There is no more trust or honesty. You know it in your heart. You don't need him to say it. If you want confirmation, listen to everyone here.

Now, this doesn't mean that the both of you can't repair your marriage. But it means your in the hole and need to make it back to square one. It's not easy but it can be done. You'll probably need help from a third party because this will involve the two of you (and neither of you is impartial).

Have respect for yourself and do whatever it takes to stand up for your feelings. Use your feelings as a guide for whether or not things are heading in the right direction.

Remember, his actions has hurt you. If he says "sorry", he's next line should be "what can I do?". Don't accept anything less. Then you can decide where you want to go.

Sorry and good luck.

Answer 3

I go in chat rooms a lot and 90 % of the men are married and their wife is always asleep in the next room.Everyone of them starts to talk about sex with their wives and how unsatisfied unfulfilled they are. Most of them want to find a female with a web cam so they can see and talk dirty while playing with himself. I let them know I'm not into that and they move on to the next female who is. I'm telling you this because your husband is lying to you big time. Does your husband have a web cam if he does it's only used for one thing to see who you are talking to and to get off. I don't have one just for that reason i don't want no pervert looking at me.Your marriage is in a lot of trouble and your husband not being honest with you tells me he doesn't want to stop with the girls and you confronting him is only making him want it more and to hide it where you won't find it again. If you want to save your marriage get read of his computer or do something to it where he can't use it when your not there. If you do nothing but just talk he will contnue and eventually he will tell you he has fulling in love with someone else and he is leaving you.It happens everyday to different women all around the world it happened to me.

Answer 4

Well, if you actually talked to some girl and she verified it then he is lieing to you, right!! I would ask him if it is not true then to change his email address and make sure that you have the password as now their is a trust issue, and marriage can not work without trust and he has to build his trust with you again....I would hope that he would not mind changing his email if he loves you and cares as he does not want to make you upset....I hope it all works out...don't let him make a fool of you, take it from someone who knows, I did go thru something similar....!! You don't have to jump to leave him, the internet is causing so many issues in marriages right now as it is making it so easy to cheat and meet other people, and men and women are on their advertising free sex like it is nothing....God, I don't understand why people are still raping, or attacking children, have you seen Craig's List, that's a good one to find sex....Man crazy!! But, it can be worked out if he actually has not acted on anything and has a internet sex fiend problem....Hey it is possible, my husband loves porn!! I have to watch him!

Answer 5

Your husband is lying to you about stopping this....he is hooked and I bet he has a sexual relationship with these girls thru the web cam and sexy talk--you know what I mean? He probably has met with some and had sex. Does he know that police are watching these sites? He will play around long enough and get in deep enough, that he will lose everything and sit with his can in jail.

Give him the option, get rid of the computer, work with his problem, try to save your marriage----give him a chance and then decide if you want this in your life?

Answer 6

I will give you a reality check on this. He can't be unfaithful to you and he is fooling around with other women on the internet. Don't believe him when he says that he is playing with them and those women mean nothing to him, he is telling you what you want to hear. How do you know that he will not meet women in person, which can lead to sex? This is a high risk. Your husband can't respect you and your marriage and he can't be monogamous. He is also addicted to the computer and the internet. Can you live with this kind of person for the rest of your life? You deserve happiness and he can't give it to you. You can donate his computer to the thrift store and when he comes home, it will not be there anymore. Therefore, he will not be having internet sex. Of course, he will end up being angry and resent you for it. Doesn't hurt to try right? hehehehehe

Also, I will not tell people to leave their relationship or their marriage because it's up to the person to decide. When one can not stand their spouse any more, they will end up leaving them on their own. Unfortunately, some people stay in a toxic relationship, for whatever reasons, causing them to get sick, physically, mentally, and emotionally. Stress and negativity in relationships= illnesses and disease.
I hope you do make the right decision for yourself.

Answer 7

What do you think you should do? Read your question and then you answer it like it wasn't you!!!

You would say, sorry girlfriend your husband is cheating on you and lying to your face. If he isn't physically cheating yet he is thinking about it.

You have to make a decision whether or not you can live with your hubby lying to your face. I hope you leave him because you don't deserve that. And hunny, it won't get better if you look the other way.

Answer 8

I would save and print all the evidence I can, stick it in a nice envelope and put outside near the door (save a copy for yourself in case you need a lawyer) along with a cute box of crushed web cam. Change all the locks in the house.
Let him take care of himself for a while, he's got plenty to read

Answer 9

well I was one of ths guys doing this dump crap and I did the same thing he doing I learned the hard way My wife had put me out even though I never had a sexual relations with any of them (Untill I was put out then I gone nuts with the sex) it in the long run was not --worth it so I would gently explains my husband even though it's not in his mind in yours you believe that this is a form of infidelity and that hurts you very much and then please stop before this escalates into something that we will both regret and then he should consider some form of counseling to see why he's doing what he doing there is a reason that he doing this that he may not even understand if he does not agree to counseling either individual or the two of you then he needs to go before something happens in your marriage this may be enough to wake him up to go to counseling or go on your separate ways you lost noting in either case

Answer 10

Welcome to the real world. Guys will do that sort of thing as long as they are breathing. It is something like that, internet porn or strip clubs. Keep it above board and will will always know what is going on. Freak out and he will take it further underground and you will never find out, until it is too late.