He wants me to become a muslim. Im a christian and believe strongly in God i could never become a muslim. He says he will leave me he says i have a choice to become a muslim or be without him. I couldnt even think about becoming muslin if he really loved me he should accept and love me for who i am. i dont know what to do? he is the only guy that i have ever loved this much he has my heart i cant see myself without him. he says i have to decide soon.
2007-09-14 06:37:15 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is obvious that he wouldn't do that for you. He shows TOTAL disreguard for your feelings. Certainly not someone with insight. He would make a lousy parent...let alone spouse. I bet he has angry, hostile, aggressive traits.
Very narcissitic personality ...as he wants you to choose him over your "higher power". This is just a sociopath testing to see if he has total control over you. What loving person would want to rip away your lifelong belief system?
What a LOSER! ...better pick up your doll rags and run (dont look back either!). Takes my breath away! Even a muslim clergy would tell you what a loser this guy is. Trust me next it will be your family and friends he will control and tell you you can't see (if he hasn't already)
This is a good example of how your religion could save you from a living hell. This is a true test of your faith. He has given you an easy out ...take it! No explainations needed.
You owe it to yourself to see a couselor or therapist to find out why you would even entertain the idea of giving up your identity, yourself...."Dependent Personality Disorder"
I would say the same thing if you were Muslim and he were Christian...so it isn't a Muslim versus Christian thing. I am a male too ...so it isnt a female having a hissy over a male dominance thing either. I will eat my keyboard if you don't get 50 answers telling you to dump him! Guess I am passionate about protecting you!
2007-09-14 07:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you, he would not ask you to give up your faith. If he is a devout muslim, good for him. But being a devout Christian is important to you and it's also a good thing. If his faith requires his bride to be a muslim, he should not have even started a relationship with you until he knew where you stood with your beliefs.
As hard as it may be to let him go, it seems like that is the best thing to do. You cannot abandon your relationship with God for any man. And since you are strong in your beliefs, you know God will take care of you.
2007-09-14 06:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Muslim men are actually allowed to marry Christian women according the Qur'an....so he either doesn't want to marry a Christian or his family won't let him.
The most important thing is what you want, if you don't want to convert then don't and don't feel pressurised from him either. I'm sure your situation must be very difficult and I truly sympathise but you must appreciate that none of us here can't tell you what to do, it's your choice. Although I would say it's very selfish of him to say 'you must decide soon' and I think if he truly loved you he'd look over the fact that you're a christian and marry you. At the moment you are both choosing your religions over your relationship. I just want to say that there are plenty more men who will respect you for who you are and what you believe in. God will show you the right path.
2007-09-14 06:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by don't stop the music ♪ 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
OK... I'm Christian but I know a little bit about other religions (have many friends who are of other faiths). The God of Christianity is the same God that Muslims pray to so don't be giving me the 'false' God stuff... there's only ONE God. It's coming down to: do you want to follow the teachings of Christ or those of Mohammad? You seem pretty clear on that so I think you should follow it. Other problems will arise if you marry someone who is asking you to make big changes for him (what's next?). I know you love this guy but please think about this... you don't want to make a big mistake and have to end it all down the road (perhaps when kids have come along). There are other guys out there... you need to give them a chance. This will be VERY hard but I think, from what you have said, that you know what to do. Stay strong. Best of luck.
2007-09-14 06:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by spiffy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, here's the deal...you both love each other and your faiths. And that your faiths come before your relationship (an admirable thing, in my opinion).
Since neither one of you wants to sacrifice your faith for the relationship, you need to sacrifice the relationship. Religion is a very important part of a relationship and if you don't agree on this, it will cause a lot of problems in the future.
And the New Testament says to not be "unequally yoked". While Paul is specifically writing about business relationships, the principle could be applied to marriage - a Christian should marry another Christian. Someone that would encourage you in your faith and the practice of it. I don't think a Muslim husband would do that for you.
2007-09-14 06:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Wayner 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
If you really strong in believe in God, since the first time you will know that he's not for you even both of you were in love. If he try to push you..how about with your life in next after you marry with him? Just think with your mind, don't think with your heart. There is a time you should think with your heart, but there is also a time when you should think with logical mind. And if you beliefe strongly in God like you said, so don't worry..HE will give you the best one, the best of the best. God bless..
2007-09-14 06:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by fanny g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is asking you to abandon and change your core beliefs. That isn't fair to you and should also be an indication of how he feels about you. Interfaith Christian marriages are difficult enough; imagine what it would be like to turn your back on God. You say right now you could never become a muslim, so there's your answer.
(And, personally, I think that is the right one. If you convert to his religion, not only will you eventually come to resent him, but you will most likely feel guilt and regret for doing so.)
Good luck.
2007-09-14 06:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by Yogi 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You just have to decide how far you're willing to go to compromise your faith. If your faith is important to you, I think there should be no question in your mind that you need to demand for it to be accepted - and if it's not, to move on. You WILL find a man who loves and respects you for who you are; but you will have a very hard time giving up the whole framework that supports your existence. I would choose god over man any day of the week.
2007-09-14 06:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is simple and clear, He shouldn't started dating some one that doesn't belong to his religion in the first place. Second, I think you are pretty strong on your decision to not convert to Muslim and he is strong about "You" or his "religion", so I think its obvious this marriage is not going to happen. Sorry I sound rude but I'm being practical, this is a big issue and I don't see neutral ground here. Are you willing to raise your kids Muslim too? 'Cause if you ever get married to him you have to commit to raise your kids under his religion too. So pick up the pieces and decide. Good luck!
2007-09-14 06:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by Kent-B-True 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you better run from this one. A difference in religion, especially this big of one, will be lethal. If you marry, he'll want the children to be Muslim. Pretty soon, he's going to ostracize you because you're not like the other Muslim women. I'd say it's time to seriously think about where you are and who you are.
2007-09-14 06:44:09 · answer #10 · answered by Kyle 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋