My husband's ex spends the child support my hubby sends on her bf. She has admitted it! She pays for his car note--- is this right? Of course not. I wonder of all the people out there getting child support, what really goes to the kids.
2007-09-14 06:38:13 · 24 answers · asked by Lucci 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well i can speak from limited experience with this issue. i had a little girl that i took care of VERY well. turns out DNA said she wasnt mine, but thats another topic.lol
before my eyes were opened to the truth, i went to visit "my daughter" before work.(i did every day and kept her on days off) the mother asked me for money to buy diapers. i gave it no problem. i'm off the next day. i go to pick up my daughter. give me 3 or 4 diapers to hold me over until i can get to the store. i didnt buy any. okay give me the $$ back..ummm i bought me these stainless earrings with it. WTF!!!!! okay okay..flash backs..lemme get back to your answer..
as far as what % child support actually goes to the child is hard to say. the arguement about the $$ going into the general fund is a good one but at the same time its hog wash. yes it does cost money for gas , utilities etc etc. the money is "support". some parents(women) try to use it as penalty. we not together i dont liek you now so imma piss you off and use the child support for everything else. AND i'mma do it in your face. like someone mentioned. who really spends hundreds of dollars a month on food and clothes on any child. (not including the 16 year old 250lb high school linebacker)
the one person made a good case with the break down of bills. she halfed them all. and the childs portion of the bills amounted to $425.00. that number should be halfed again. as an adult you should be able to pay your own bills without ANY child support. if the child uses utilities and comsumes food. whatever that total is should be divided by both parents.
(i'll say mother since thats usually the case) the mother has more day to day responsiblility for the child. sure. thats your child to support too. because the child gets hungry and couple times a month eats an extra piece of chicken. thats not a good case to ask for a child support increase. or say that the current amount is pittance.
if child support is $50 a week. let him take that same 50 and just bring groceries. that same child could eat for two and still have food left over. remember, the child support doesnt have to be enough to feed "you", or your new boyfriend or (if any)your other children.
let the non live in parent just bring by what the child needs and not bring money and see how that works. will find that even tho the child has everything he/she needs that still wont be enough. i said all that too say IMHO its not even about the child and alot of women use child support as punishment for men. do all i can to get it as high as i can. and run tell if you dont pay it all. IVE SEEN IT.
one quick exmaple before i leave. say a celebrity goes out and has a one night stand. the woman gets pregnant. okay mr celebrity, you made $10 mil last year. i order to you pay 10,000 a month in child support. with every tv on in the house 24 hours a day with a ps2 attached also on the light bill wont come close to that. who benefits more from that support? mother or child? if mr celebrity just said lemme know when the child needs something and i got you. she'd have a fit. because she like most women see $$$. i got this child by you and i want some $$$.
2007-09-14 08:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by cuffem916 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very age old question.
Here is my take on it.
NO matter how much the check is for, the children have a roof over their heads, and food in their belly. They get clothed and sent to school with what ever school supplies & they are driven to and from whatever activity they participate in.
The CS check goes into the general fund of the running of the household.
Turthfully if most ex's wanted a breakdown of what it takes to raise a child they would find that their little pittance of a CS check rarely covers what it costs to raise the child.
For anyone to sit here and say "she spends it on her nails" is rubbish.
Are the bills from the CS money marked so that you know that she spent that actual money at the nail salon.
Give me a break people..
Try raising a child on $50 a week, which is usually what most men pay..
Let me break it down some more.
Lets assume that I am a single mother of one girl.
My rent is $600 a month, half of that ( the child) is $300.00.
My average monthly food bill is $250.00 and this child can eat let me tell you. but half of that is $125.
My child showers twice a day and never wears her clothes more than once. Laundry bills ( soap etc ) and hot water is enourmous but to be fair electric bill is $110. half of that is $ 55.00.
So far for the month this ONE child has cost about $425.00.
Do I really need to keep going here.
Get a grip.
If you are an ex or the wife of one, know this. The child was there first..Quit being so bitter..
2007-09-14 07:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by psstoffagain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A question no-one can simply answer. Some say nothing. Some say a little and some say all of it. All of it does in a way. You still provide for the kids even if it's not the actual dollar bills handed to you. You may have your nails done or buy something with it even pay bills with it. Indirectly as it may be the funds still benefit your household so things are easier on you and the kids.
So exes quit your whining about child support unless the ex doesn't pay to start with. That's where the deadbeat "dad" law comes into effect.
"dad" shouldn't that be deadbeat parent??
2007-09-14 07:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by wcs_n_ms 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a well dad you would recognise that four youngsters takes way over $995 per thirty days. Food, apparel, refuge, scientific, and a couple of treats right here and there and residing in California - is greater than the quantity you are paying. If you remarry there is not any cause to believe that your help in your youngsters will develop. Of direction your possess residing costs will upward thrust, however that are supposed to don't have anything to do along with your former spouse and the help of your youngsters. She can regularly come into court docket pointing out that she demands more cash, however considering the fact that you understand how the courts paintings - you'll additionally post your revenue and fee declaration displaying that you've way more costs now (new spouse) and your revenue has been steady.
2016-09-05 14:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the courts can dois award it and enforce the court order, the support collections agencies collect and send the money to the assigned parent and what happens after that is anybodys guess but majority of it does not reach the kids by all allegations. Some states are now issuing credit cards with the monthly amount to track the money, but until better accountability laws come into effect to track the money, the kids suffer at the hand of adult games
2007-09-14 07:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to generalize because there are so many different kinds of people. I know that out of the child support my dad pays my mom about 30% of it probably goes to my brother (I am much older & lived with my dad anyways). He is ordered to pay nearly $1000 a month and my mom doesn't pay for much of anything for him besides a roof over his head and food. And is remarried and both have good jobs... On the other hand I have a friend that 100% of the money goes to her daughter. It just depends on the morals and character of the mother/father who is recieving support.
2007-09-14 06:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the person. Rightfully, child support is used to help pay utilities, food and supplies for the said child. But we all know that most of the time it doesn't work that way. Too often, child support is used to benefit the custodial parent.
2007-09-14 07:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by squidsgirl97 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give me a break. SO-- if this is true - that it is going to the car note.. of the boyfriend...
who exactly is paying hers and the childrens:
mortgage?
food?
electricity?
cable?
internet services?
AKA: roof over their heads.
school supplies?
gas bill? kids need to stay warm...
get my point????
She is!!!! which... it doesn't matter if your child support is going to pay the so called note.... money is still coming out of her pocket to pay the other stuff...
So--- as for all the people out there that receives child support:
I get c.s..and I spend.
70 a month on school lunches..
I feed the kids everyday.
they have a warm house to live in.
we have cable
we have internet.
they have xboxes.
they have tvs
they have beds
blankets
school supplies
nice clothes
they get to go to movies
games...
etc etc etc..
pretty sure my c.s goes to the kids.
2007-09-17 08:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some don't give any to the kids, or just a little bit goes to the kids needs, others...spend it on themselves... I wish I knew a percentage... there are debit cards here in Ohio that tracks what it is spent on... people don't know it, but, the State of Ohio has copies of what is spent on these debit cards, lol! boy, some moms around here are going to get busted good, lol! =) others spend it on bills and what is needed... for those who never married, the absent parent should help, but, not provide totally for the child... the custodial parent should provide most things... also for those that never married, it's the absent parents responsibility to help out w/ the child financially, but, not their responsibility to take care of you too... remember, you were never married! now, for those that were married, sure, screw the man over if he cheated on you or left, but, if you cheated on him or divorced for selfish reasons, then, the support should all go to the child! =(...
2007-09-14 06:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's bonus money in many cases. The custodial parent already pays their rent, gas, and electric. No one spends hundreds of dollars a month on food and clothing for the kids. So where else would the money go? Down the drain. This is why there should not be a 'standard' guideline for support. Screw making it easier for the courts. Make it right, not easier.
2007-09-14 06:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋