My bf of one month had a notice that they will sell the house that he is renting...He sugested that since we get along so well and we see each other every day anyway....He could put his stuff in a storage and move in with me while we can look for a biger place together......I like him...But I have never done this before and I'm scared....Anyone any opinion on this...Thanks a milion....We are both in our 30's
2007-09-14 05:58:26 · 24 answers · asked by Juliet 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont know.....my fiancee and i have been living together since the day we started dating (long story) - we've been together for 4 years and so far so good... i think we got lucky though.... you HAVE to comprimise!!! - if you are still in some selfish immature ways, then there is no hope.... be open to other people's way on cleaning. cooking, way of doing laundry, little stuff like that may be irritating... like my boy leaves the bathroom light on all the time and he forgets his dirty clothes on the bathroom floor after he takes a shower... but im sure i do things that annoy him too.. you just have to pick your battles and know that you and him both are NOT perfect and NOT the same person.....
2007-09-14 07:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by russiansgirl5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can tell by all of the answers so far that NO is the answer. You may want to help him out and all but you don't really know each other. One month is not long enough. You say that you spend so much time together anyway, maybe you should keep spending time together to get to know each other better before you move in with each other. And being in your 30's doesn't always make some automatically mature enough.
2007-09-14 13:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by Chihiro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has there been any discussion on how the household expenses are to be divided? You need to have this discussion and agree to terms prior to the move-in. I would suggest not to do it- one month is not that long of a time. Your relationship could flourish if it didn't have the pressure and strain that the move will probably cause. Does he have a guy friend where he could stay? One month is too soon to see things in the long-term. Try to keep dating, and maybe around 4-6 mos you'll know exactly where the relationship is and if you're ready for the next level.
2007-09-14 13:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by RSJ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes i have some advice.... when we meet someone and like them, we need to take the time to get to know them... after a month we don't really "know" the person that well. it usually takes more than 8 - 15 months to begin to know them well, in fact.
what do you know about his past? does he pay his bills on time, or does he neglect them? what about his habits? you probably dont' know if he has intolerable habits yet...
also, people can put on a good "act" for quite a while before their true colors shine through. i'm very experienced in these things, because i'm a 50 year old single woman who has lived and learned the hard way. i've "let men in" my life before i knew them well enough, and i paid a big price more than once.
then, there is the matter of expenses... what if he refuses to help pay his share?
you really need to protect your best interests. and while you LIKE this person and he is a potential long-term partner, do you really know him well enough to invite him into your home on a permanent basis?
and later on, if he wants to live together, and you feel you know him well enough, he can foot the bill for a place that the two of you find mutually satisfying. it's nice to share expenses, i do know that...
please take the time to get to know this guy before you jump into something you might regret in the long run. right now you have your peace, can come and go as you please and your own space....
2007-09-14 13:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really up to you and how you feel about him. Are you ready for this kind of commitment? Living together makes it a lot harder to break up. Granted, my BF and I moved in together after a little less than a month and have been married now for 15 years. We were both in our 30s also and knew we were ready for that kind of commitment.
2007-09-14 13:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by squidsgirl97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if this helps or not. But I did the same thing. My bf now my husband moved in with me and my 2 kids after only dating about a month. And now we are married going on 5 yrs. So it does sometimes work out. The only difference is that I know we loved each other and he was and is great with my kids.
2007-09-14 13:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by baylees 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you test a relationship with something that is not a true test?
It is kinda like saying you know how many miles a car will go beforeit breaks down by test driving it for an hour.
Relationships and people take a whole lot of time to show their true colors.
Have you gone on a date with lots of his friends? What about with lots of your friends?
It is easy to impress someone (put on an act) in a one on one situation but take that person into a group of people and you will see more of who they really are.
2007-09-14 13:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by kathy w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. Do you really know this guy?
If the house he's renting is not sold yet, what's he worried about. When it sells, it usually takes about 30 days to close, so he has at least a month to look for another place.
2007-09-14 13:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by ron-D 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well sounds good but just make sure he puts his stuff in storage and not at your place...tell him just bring cloths...that way he don't have so much when its time to leave...and also make sure its under stood he will pay 1/2 of every thing and this way you can put some money in the savings too...and then if it don't work out at least you got some party money...but i do hope it works and yall can get a bigger place together....but after just 1 mo. i wouldn't be making no big plans and such yet. you will get to know him better to see if it is going to work out he may be a slob or something...lol.....good luck....
2007-09-14 13:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is something you really need to sit a think about. I mean do you love the person, and can you trust that he will help with the bills, and other household chores? My fiance, and I moved in together after a couple of weeks, and it worked out for us. Who knows if it dosen't work you could alway's kick him out.
2007-09-14 13:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by diablo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋