Do I confront him about it right away even though I may be accused of being nosy or wait it out a couple of days to see if maybe he mentions something to me about it. Like, maybe he ran into an old friend or doing work with this person.
2007-09-14 06:04:45 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask him about it. There's nothing wrong with asking, just don't accuse him of anything.
2007-09-14 06:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by mamabear 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I Think If You Do Laundry Then That Would Be A Great Time To Do It. Put The Number Back && When You Go To Do Laundry Hand Him The Number And Say You Washed Clothes And Found It. See If He Mentions Anything. If He Doesn't. What's Done In The Dark Soon Comes To Light.
2007-09-14 06:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by Shyne 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, were you being nosy? It is common and acceptable for you to clear out pockets before doing laundry, etc, or were you snooping? If snooping, stop that. There could be 1,000 legitimate reasons why he has a girl's name and phone number. If you and your husband really have such little trust going that you are suspicious over a name and phone number, it sounds like you might want to consider therapy. I see three possible choices that make sense, 1) trust that it is not a problem and let it go, 2) ask about it without accusing or 3) seek therapy for serious trust issues
2007-09-14 06:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait 2 days and then you call the number. Don't be scared to because you are the wife and he is YOUR husband. The girls are probably some naive fools and by you calling them will turn the light on in their head. But really has common is it that you run into two girls you know on the same day? Stop it now and be forceful. Don't be like "honey, why do you have numbers in your pocket?" After you call the numbers and you find out for yourself then you can attack him from the get go....he has no right to disrespect you like that. Good luck with it, girl.
2007-09-14 07:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a few days, then if nothing mentioned from him, nonchalantly bring up- I was doing laundry and found this in your pocket. Do I have a cause for concern? As many know- that if he cannot look you straight in the eyes- PROBLEM, if he takes a quick look up to the right- means he is searching for an answer to make up. Creative side of the brain. (kids are especially good at it)
Quick resolution if he cannot look you in the eyes or you think he is lying. Call the number with him standing right there. If he will not allow it...problem.
Could be innocent, you will know in your heart of hearts, intuition usually kicks in.
2007-09-14 06:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by tbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could very well be innocent. Ok- do you usually go through his pants pocket? Like, do you do laundry and usually check pockets before putting in the wash? If that's how you found it- then bring it up. Be casual- hey- I noticed this paper in your pocket- looks like a phone number- I set it on the counter for you. Then, you can get some reading from his reaction. But if you can't bring it up like that- then just drop it for the time being because you're going to appear nosy and untrusting.
2007-09-14 06:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by RSJ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reverse the situation in your head and let that be your guide!!
I would definitely not let this eat you up inside. Ask him about it definitely ASAP... but do not accuse!! Say I found this hunny... do you remember getting this? If he freaks out then maybe you have something to worry about.
It is either something that isn't a big deal and he may not ever mention because he forgot about it right after it happened. Or it is a huge warning sign to you that you and your hubby need to communicate. Also clear your mind... most people with spouses that cheat have a "feeling" something is going on before something goes on.
2007-09-14 06:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by crissygirly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being nosy. your husband has a girls phone number. First thing you do is call the number and tell the girl that he is married....let it go and wait to see what he has to say about this when the other girl tells him about the call. Did he cheat on you before....did you feel that he was cheating ? go with your heart. did he buy new clothes new cologne ? Is he working a lot of over time now ? does he smell like he just had a shower....Guys will clean up before they go home...I always did. does he have new friends and wont let you meet them ? He is not going to say anything about this. Dont let him get away with this. you know the old if it looks like a duck its a duck.
2007-09-14 06:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by recon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would call the number. Once you get that answer, you'll know how to approach your hubby. But then again, he is your husband, you should be able to ask him and speak to him about it. If he tries the whole...are you snooping through my things...stance, then tell him, as his wife, you have every right to be wherever you are. And that includes in his pants. The only thing i'd be worried about is what type of lie would come out when confronted, but...that's why you need to be face to face...so you can see his true reaction. What if it was just the chick trying to get HIS attention and he just took the # to be nice....but do it sooner than later, so you don't have to torture yourself with all this wondering. Good luck!
2007-09-14 06:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by karamell08 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suggest asking him well,after copying it down. A man would on no account preserve a woman's number in his pocket unless there used to be NOTHING going on. He is typically naive however now not stupid. Be high-quality about this. Believe is a 2 manner street and to be upset will exhibit that you do not trust him. Now you continue to have the title/number. If you are not joyful with the response that you simply obtained, that you may google it ,name it ,put it aside for extra proof,throw it away,or take it to the next degree. Excellent luck!
2016-08-04 15:58:54 · answer #10 · answered by glandon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show it to him and ask: "What's this number?"
If he hasn't been up to something, he will look at it and you will be able to tell he's thinking then he'll respond with an honest answer.
If he was up to something, then he will barely glance at it and reply rapidly with "oh, it's nothing" or some other very quick response professing innocence. He may even stumble on his words.
You see when people do things that make them feel guilty, they will have it on their minds and won't need to study it. He'll know at a glance the paper has a woman's number on it.
He may have even rehearsed a response.
But if he isn't up to something, you will feel it in your gut whether or not he's telling the truth.
Cheaters always get caught because their own guilt eventually shows them up.
2007-09-14 06:12:47 · answer #11 · answered by KD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋