My husband is a little comfortable with it but the ex is a few states away!
2007-09-14 06:27:55 · 25 answers · asked by ~Charity~ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is just as friends and I have even writen to his wife. My husband has all of my passwords so he has complete access to my business. But..he is uncomfortable. I absolutely love my husband..no doubt.
2007-09-14 06:38:25 · update #1
I'm talking with my ex-boyfriend on a regular basis. Granted we broke up 15 years ago, and we were never engaged, so it's not exactly the same, but close. He is also several states away.
My husband doesn't have a problem with it, but I also let him know when I'm talking to my ex, and have told him on more than one occasion that if it ever bothers him, to let me know.
Open communication all the way around is the only way to deal with it, IMHO. If mistrust starts entering the picture, then it gets ugly.
And if it comes down to a question of "the husband or the ex" then the husband wins, hands down, no question.
2007-09-14 07:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are above board with the friendship then it is not wrong. Ex's can be friends. I mean you were together for a reason and it isn't always just lust.
You husbands feelings are important. So are yours. He can ask you not to have the contact but you are not required to do so. You are responsible for your own happiness. Not even your husband is in control of that.
2007-09-14 06:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you're saying and how often. I think an occasional - hey- how are you- what's going on- is ok a couple of times a year. I still hear from my ex around the holidays. But if you're talking to him frequently- then it's not right- you should be having those conversations with your husband.
2007-09-14 06:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by RSJ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you were my wife and continued talking to an EX, needless to say fiance, you *** would have been gone!!! A long time ago.
You are lucky your husband is comfortable - or a little comfortable as you put it. But if I was the guy in this situation and felt comfortable with my wife talking to her ex, it would probably be because I really didn't care for her in the 1st place and more than likely I would be talking to another woman that is all about me, and only me. Good luck.
2007-09-14 06:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it depends on the context and purpose of the communications and how open you are with your husband.
If your communications are simply ones of one friend to another and you aren't trying to start something up or your ex-fiance isn't, then I don't see the problem.
But if your husband begins to feel uneasy about it, you need to consider which "relationship" is most important- hopefully the one with your husband- and act accordingly.
Ultimately, honesty is imperative.
2007-09-14 06:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by bmattj121 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is uncomfortable about this, you need to stop it. There's no real reason for you to e-mail your ex, or his wife. Leave these people alone and get on with your own life. You have a husband who loves you. Consider his feelings and stop your foolishness!
2007-09-14 07:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you and your husband are Both comfortable with it, and your ex does not think there is any intentions of getting back together, as well as your only friends with him. No problem. Women and men can have a friendship type of relationship.
2007-09-14 06:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by Dee 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is easy. If your husband is uncomfortable with it, stop. What means more to you -- your relationship with him, or a few emails to an ex?
2007-09-14 06:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by Yogi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you are talking about... if he's an ex and your remarried, unless you have kids together or something, you should probably stop. Put yourself in your husbands shoes.. you wouldnt' like it if he was talking to his ex... I guess in my opinion, and ex is an ex for a reason. Leave him in your past and get on with your life.
2007-09-14 06:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by Sugar 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-10 10:45:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋