I have three children from 2 differant guys. Neither one of the children have their fathers last names and none of the fathers are on the birth certificates. The two who share a father have no contact with their father. He doesn't pay child support and there is no assosiation with him. My other ones father is in Prison. I have meet a wonderful man and we are soon to be getting married. He wanted to give my boys his last name and we wanted to do it the cheapest way with it still being legal. Does anyone know how I could go about doing this. Our budget is pretty tight so we wanted to do it simple and inexpensive as possible.
2007-09-14 05:09:50 · 10 answers · asked by margiesue_84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I "believe", because I am in a similar situation... you can change the names quite easily... just go down to the courts and apply for a name change... not sure which court... get in your yellow pages and ask =) or call the local police station for the local court number... =) I believe it will cost 100 or 150 bucks per name change... you can do this w/o a lawyer, and after you change the name, you should notify social security of this also! again, this is the state of Ohio... most states should be the same... also, even though you are changing the names, you can still get child support from the previous "sperm donors"... the only way you would not get it is if they sign over rights AND your spouse officially adopts them =) good luck! =)
2007-09-14 05:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this done.
What you have to do is go up to the courthouse - and ask for a 'name change' application.... you do not need a lawyer to get this done.
You might need one for both of your children if you are doing both..ask them.
You fill out both papers - and you will need to fill in the biological dads name - and then send a certified letter that says you are changing the name... you will need this certified because you need proof that you sent it to the father - incase he wants to contest the name change (doubt they will if they are not paying child support to begin with).
then - you might have to go to court (I did , only because the father did contest it - and sent a lawyer there - but, in the end, i won) - it was really no big deal, I went there alone - and did not need a lawyer. i only had to tell them why I wanted it done(so my child would feel more like family unit- by having the same name as the rest of the family).
the amount will be about 100- I think each.. they will give you that information when you pick up the forms .
**for those that say you need to talk to a laywer, you don't..the forms are self explanitory).
it will be worth the money.
If you eventually decide you want child support- you can still do that - because your new husband is not 'adopting' you are only doing a name change.
2007-09-17 16:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford to do something right then wait until you can. You need to talk to a lawyer. The fathers must agree to give up their parental rights, no matter what the past history. Your soon to be husband has to legally adopt them. If the kids are old enough, they may have something to say about it too.
I'm glad you have met a wonderful man but you don't have a very good track record with men. You're the one who got pregnant three times with men you now call losers. They weren't losers when you were sleeping with them, apparently. I think you would do everyone a favor, the kids and the soon to be husband if you wait a bit and find out if this guy turns south too. Usually women like you are too selfish to think of others firsts, so in that event, get a lawyer.
2007-09-14 12:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Go to your local governemnt agency that deals with Registry of Births, Marriages, and Deaths and ask for the appropriate forms.
Or,
consider legal adoption via a lawyer that weill do the work pro bono.
2007-09-14 12:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would ask you to please wait a while before changing their names, only because you need to find out if the marriage will last. If anything, allow him to adopt the children therefore making him the named father. That way if this marriage doesn't work he will be legally bound to support them, giving him a good reason to continue a relationship with them. They really need some stability and adoption could give that to them. Good luck!
2007-09-14 12:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to your COUNTY RECORDS office, have them pull up the records of their birth certificates, and CHANGE THE NAMES. It is relatively inexpensive to do. THEN, you have to contact Social Security, their Doctors, Schools and any other place where there records would be.
2007-09-14 12:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are legal forms, pleas, notices, etc on line, then you have to go thru the courts for a judge to judicate changes. I think this is a wonderful thing for you to do.
2007-09-14 12:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by Conrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally ALL of the bio fathers will have to sign away all parental rights. You will probably have to take them to court to do this...Then this "wonderful" guy will have to marry you and go to court and adopt your kids.
2007-09-15 04:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
take them to court and deal with the judge
2007-09-14 12:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by BlueLucario 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he can always adopt them
2007-09-14 12:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋