when the wife asks her husband to do one thing he acts as if your asking him to do a ten mile run. For example Can you stop by and grab me something to eat. or if your wife has changed her mind and its just 5 min that passed and he acts as if he has a hot date with the chair
2007-09-14 08:15:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Believe it or not, men feel the same way about their wives. For the first example, have you considered that maybe he doesn't feel comfortable picking out the dinner? Has he ever been told that he bought the wrong thing? Would you want to be asked to do something when you think you are going to be told you did it wrong? I don't understand the second example. What does her changing her mind and 5 minutes passing have to do with each other? Are saying that she said she was ready then she decided to do something else so he sat down? Well, I for one hate standing around. If I am on my feet, I am usually walking. When I stop, I sit down. It has nothing to do with the other people and everything to do with my feel hurting when I stand in one spot for a long time. Now, if someone changes their mind several times in a short time period and have to stand up and sit down a lot, I get annoyed. When a man gets ready to go somewhere he focuses on himself. Once he is ready, he just needs to know when the other people are ready. If you aren't ready, don't come tell him that you are, or that you will be soon. Just get ready, make sure you are ready and let him know when you are ready.
Men like to follow a path from beginning to end. If you want him to do something, you either have to find something along that path that will not cause him to deviate or you have to wait until he is ready to start a new path. If he is walking out the door, he is on a path. If he is watching a game, he is on a path. If he is coming home from work, he is on a path. Some men can start new paths and have their paths changed more easily then other men. If you ask for something and he reacts badly, don't make a huge issue of it. That will cement the feeling in his head and make it harder to get him to do something later. If you can never get him to do anything, talk to him in a calm manner at a time when neither of you are trying to do something else and he isn't on a path. :-)
2007-09-14 08:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't care for anyone that lumps people all together...yes sure there are SOME men that expect their wives to bend over backwards for them...just as there are SOME women who expect the same from their husbands. Sorry that you are married to one of those men....
2007-09-14 08:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most men are very selfish people and its not until they have had a couple of big knocks in life, do they start learning how to give. I say this all the time to broken marriages as the male has to learn to give and the female has to learn she can survive without a male. So its usually around the middle of their life do they start to become better people. I suggest you say to him that a marriage is a two way street and that your not his slave. Sure do nice things for each other, but not this wait on your partner business.
2007-09-14 08:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well husbands can only expects and wives never oblige and even if they do ..they want their hubbies on the toe for the eternity for this small favor. but tell me why do women have to change their mind when they have made a choice after spending the eternity.
2007-09-14 08:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by interactive guy30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most men are selfish and most women nag and vacillate too much. We both get on each other nerves. I say try the barter approach." I will give you what you want, provided you give me what I want." For instance, you can have a football day without any interruptions from me, if you watch the children while I go shopping next week.
2007-09-14 08:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by Nettajay 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some men are this way, it's a run over from their mother's or former girlfriends spoiling them. Not all are like this and your husband probably won't change till he's good and ready.
2007-09-14 08:26:10 · answer #6 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh, I know. I dote over my husband and couldn't even get him to give me a shoulder or back rub or go for a walk with me or go get me craving food (not even once) while I was pregnant and in grad school! Ridiculous.
2007-09-14 08:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally i enjoy to bend over... in either direction he makes the big big bucks and I'm the banker.
2007-09-14 08:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband doesn't act like that at all.
2007-09-14 08:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by Leah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you say "husbands" I assume your talking about one man? Or do you have multiple husbands?
2007-09-14 08:21:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋