I just now saw that Yahoo! has an article that's supposed to give women advice on how to keep their men from straying. To say the very least, I find this VERY off-putting, because it carries the assumption that it's the woman's fault if her husband or boyfriend cheats and that men somehow aren't responsible for their own behavior.
2007-09-14 08:43:49 · 17 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The previous answers given here are really disturbing. Since when does one's actions determine how someone acts? do we not have control over ourselves anymore?
People in my opinion, like to point the blame on others. If someone is not happy in the relationship/marriage. You have no obligation to stay. Don't waste the spouse/partner's time by cheating, because I am sure that other person would rather move on as well.
cheating is ALWAYS motivated by selfish ways, and we should NOT excuse that.
To the newer answers: If she is not doing it for you, why stay with her?
2007-09-14 08:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't blame or place the fault on the woman, after all he made the decision to cheat. I do feel there are things that can help prevent cheating. This goes both ways. statistics say that more than 54% of women have cheated in a relationship and 31% were the other woman. Oh only 48% of men confess to cheating in a ralationship, and 20% are multible cheaters.
food for thought ladies.
2007-09-14 15:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by cmrwash 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the article is just written from a man's point of view because the person writing it is a man...and frankly, I think it would be tough for a man or woman to give advice about what's in the mind of the opposite sex...we just don't think alike and don't have the same needs and wants.
Based on the article I read, I don't think he's saying it's always the woman's fault or anything like that, he's just covering his half of the equation.
2007-09-14 16:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by rpaitse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not read the article, but I will say, people need to take responsibility for their actions, and part of that might be that your actions may have contributed to the issues in the marriage that lead the other one to stray. Ultimately the decision to stray is made by the cheater, yes, and many times the cheater is simply a selfish jerk, but sometimes if they really aren't a jerk, you can start to discover that their spouse helped contribute to the issues in the marriage.
2007-09-14 19:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is her fault. I haven't read the article, but there are many, many reasons a man OR woman cheats. And as much as we like to place all the blame on the person who actually goes out and commits the act of infidelity, the fact is that the behaviors of the other person often lead a spouse to cheat. I haven't read the article, but based on what you've said here, it seems that it is written from the biased viewpoint that it is only men who cheat.
2007-09-14 15:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by meagain 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That makes no sense at all, you can't keep someone from straying if it is in their nature. Man or woman. A better article would be advice on how to spot and avoid those ppl before the fact. If two people are committed to each other, you want to make the other one happy and you don't need advice on how to keep them from straying. They are where they want to be in good times and not so good times.
2007-09-14 16:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men want, sex, trust and their freedom once in a while ... is it so much to ask for? What do women want of their mate? attention, time, affection, understanding, support, take them out, let them *****, or vent, or complain, do the chores (now), be strong but sensitive, jewelry, patience, ..... and the list goes on and on ... what do you think we are ? mind readers and 24/7 robots?
Men have feelings to and we do not ask much ... really we don't. A woman can make a man's smile all day long with very little ... it would take a psychic to know how to make a woman smile for 5 minutes.
Really sorry but i am just growing tired of the stereotype.
2007-09-14 16:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by caliguy_30 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is not that it is the woman's fault, but the vast majority of the time, she is at least part of the cause. What upsets me is that everyone automatically blames the person who did the cheating. It is very rare that this is justified. The vast majority of the time (in every instance of which I am familiar) the person cheating is the victim. Their partner either did or stopped doing something that caused them to feel they needed to go elsewhere. Before you say "just split up then", remember, true love makes leaving a very hard thing to do. However, if, as is normally the case, there is something missing that is needed, eventually that thing will be sought.
2007-09-14 15:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by s1lvermidnight 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
they say 85% of cheaters are women i dont know what make people tic also women seem to think the man has an ugly or screwed up wife at home not always the case there are three sides to the story his hers and the truth.
2007-09-14 15:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by nicole l 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why people write such crap. "Another woman will do it if you don't" this statement makes men feel justified in there cheating and makes me as a women feel as though I need to do whatever to keep him.
But there are some things I will not do for love.
2007-09-14 15:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋