My mom is 41 years old, my step dad is 34 years old. They live in my house on a army base. I've been married for one year most of that year they have been there. My husband is goin to Iraq in 6 months we need some time alone BUT my mom wants to divorce my step dad.(yeah my life is fun) BUT shes been saying that for 5 years. (They have been married for 12 years). She says she doesn't want to move out "i hate him." My dad thinks everythings fine. He was in a car reck so he's not all there if you kno what mean. What should i do tell her to grow up and get a divorce or tell them to move out? I don't want my mom to be unhappy. My husband is the best. I just want to be with him for the little time we do have together before he goes.(sorry if my spelling is wrong please help me)!
2007-09-14 09:16:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Before you do what sunbun suggests, think about this. You said your hubby is being deployed in 6 months. I'll bet you'll have many a lonely nights when he's gone. You may just want your mom around during his deployment...Just a thought.
2007-09-14 09:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set down and have a talk. Give them a dead line. You and the husband need some happiness. Not to be mean but it is great now that the step kids are gone. Just let them know how you feel. Be nice be firm. Help them make plans to get out weather seperate or together.
2007-09-14 16:23:14 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all your mom and step dad live in your home you and your husband have know time together and you want them out just tell them that they need to go whether it makes them unhappy or not you have your own family now and you should not be unhappy because of them.
best of luck
2007-09-14 20:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you want your mom to be happy, it is unfair of her to think you are responsible for her happiness. Your marriage and your happiness should be of upmost priority to you. Your mom made the decisions that created where she is at in her life, you didn't. You owe her nothing but to be just a loving daughter. Tell her mom, I need you and my step dad to begin to make plans to find your own place as I feel it would benefit my marriage with my husband for him and I to begin to build our lives living together without outside interference. You mom obviously loves you but has blindly taken advantage of your kindness. Best of luck to you!
2007-09-14 16:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah def tell your mom that she needs to move out, and maybe even be honest with her. Take her out to luch or dinner and have a talk about this all.
2007-09-14 16:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by Inessik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply talk to mom and tell her what you have told us here...time for her to move out and get a life of her own so that her daughter may have a life of her own---then set a very specific date of which you expect them to be moved out by.
2007-09-14 16:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kick them out...or just move out, do ur things with ur husband...then go back ...
2007-09-14 16:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by Alfred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start breaking it and they'll know when to leave :D
2007-09-14 16:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by Barca Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋