Have the rough spots in your marriage made it stronger despite how rough it got or because of how rough it got. I feel the worst ends up being the best. My wife and I went through some of the worst stuff a married couple can deal with and as a result, I think we're better off for it.
What are your experiences in this regard?
2007-09-14 16:12:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been married for 25 years. Frankly, we could have done without the rough spots just fine, but a great test of the strength of the union is the ability to get through the rough spots and still love each other. So far, so good.
2007-09-14 16:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the middle of the road on this one. I do think (from experience) it can make a couple stronger. However, I have been married for 9 years and when we have another rough spot, not nessasarily a major one, things tend to add up. Not that anyone is keeping a score board, you just tend to get worn out. At times, when you look back on the hard times because of a recent rough event it makes you wonder will the non-sense ever end. I haven't given up and do not intend on ever quitting just because it is difficult, but we are only human. Unfortunaltely we can forgive..... most can't forget.
2007-09-15 00:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing you already had 14 answers at the time of my post, I still felt I had something germane to add. It hasn't been the "rough spots" themselves which have made us stronger, but in the recovery. We both brought some ugly baggage to the table. Most of our married life has been incredibly challenging and we have faced "worst stuff" material. On the other side of pain, seeing that the other still wanted to work things out was very beautiful. When I've been the jerk, seeing him still standing there has been a source of strength to heal and grow. When it's him, seeing me still here, enduring and moving forward reminds him that it is US together against the storm. To grow is my motto and I live each day working to be a better wife, mother and human than I was yesterday. We both have been made stronger by our challenges, but we're more in love than ever because of our commitment to one another.
2007-09-14 23:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by baxter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last summer and fall were terrible for us. It was unpleasant to say the least. We worked real hard on ourselves and our marriage to keep it together. We hung in there and by the end of April we were completely over our difficulty. Although I hated going through what we went through, I am grateful. It has made us better people and given us the opportunity to have a stronger and more healthy marriage.
2007-09-14 23:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby and i are going through some tough times right now. it's starting to get better and i was just thinking the other day about how much stronger this is going to make our marriage. i'm not glad that our problems happened, but in a way it was the only thing that would have made us stronger.
2007-09-14 23:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely made it stronger and brought us closer. We laugh now when things get tough; as though - hey we made it through so much already, this isn't anything. It is at those times that are the hardest that you need to bond and not blame or get angry or frustrated, but work as a team to handle whatever comes your way.
2007-09-15 00:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think that if a couple makes it through really rough times, they are stronger.
2007-09-14 23:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree, tough times do make us stronger. I'm glad that I can say that we've been married for 18 yrs.! We've had mirserable seasons, but got through them. If it wasn't for our faith in Jesus, we would not have made it at all b/c I would have bailed. We've been surrounded by family and friends who we could go to and say that we need prayer!
Our toughest experience was when our oldest daughter passed away just 2 yrs. ago, she was 15. Talk about trials that followed on top of grieving our loss!! But, we made it, thanks to the Lord.
2007-09-14 23:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by ellen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, we have had alot of rough spots in our marriage/relationship but I don't really think they have helped to make our relationship stronger. We are gong thru hell right now and I am afraid it is really taking its tow on us and I hope we can make it thru...life is very rough....I cannot wait to see the rainbow again.
2007-09-14 23:16:59 · answer #9 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you get through the rough spots it gets better i think !! when you;ve worked it all out you are more stronger in your relatioship and i think it is more likely that it will last !! You feel more happy and more secure in your marriage too !
2007-09-15 00:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋