and not tell his wife because i just think it would be easier and quicker for the divorce im afraid that he might change his mind and they'll try to work it out am i making the right choice to keep it quiet for now?
2007-09-14 17:18:32 · 23 answers · asked by MO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok first im not saying i let him get a divorce please read the whole question 2nd they were seperated but she does not know i got pregnant by him 3rd i never said i wanted him to leave her for me we are not in the same state and yes he is providing child support for her
2007-09-14 18:35:03 · update #1
Regardless of what this man decides to do with his life, your concern should be with your child not his marital status. If he is not financially supporting his child because of the "divorce" or fear of his wife finding out that is unacceptable. Your priority should be with that situation more than his relationship with his wife. Besides this is a man who cheated on his wife and got another woman pregnant, do you think he will change this pattern for you?
2007-09-14 17:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by angel119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this your first time on this post? If so let me give you the best answer. Cut out this crap. How on earth can you possibly be in love with a person who is part time? You are not in love with this guy only your concept of him. You don't know him , not really. if you did you would be sexual with him and if that were the case you are a liar and a cheat. You really should make a decision to be married, forsaking all others, or give your husband some insuight into the the mind of the person he is with. Be honest with him about what is going on in your head and let him work it out with you ar throw you to the curb where you belong right now. there is NO EXCUSE for you hiding this from him any longer. Your behavior and longings for this other guy are despicable when viewed in terms of your husband who as YOU DESCRIBE as "wonderful". You also describe him as very close. How close is he really in your mind that you let this other bull crap get into your head? Answer this question, What has your husband done to deserve your attitude? If the answer is not much, you really must review your willingness to hurt him like you seem bent on doing. Karma will assure that you may not achive the happiness you think is out there because of the pain you inflict and the wrong you are doing. Perhaps the best advice was above, GROW UP.
2016-05-19 23:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, think...if the table was turned and WIFEY poo was GF and pregnant,, and a cheater, and YOU were the WIFE would you want to be told, or kept in the dark???
You've made your choice to help him commit adultry, bring an innocent child in the middle of his already painful problems, and what do you think he's gonna do, the whole, "baby lets get married thing now?" WRONNNNNNNGGGGGG!!
He'll be single and free, and you'll be stuck with a child made from the whole BS act you committed!! Damn, too bad for the baby!!
You were just a piece of *** to him and now have to support and be there for the child for the rest of your life, no matter what the hell he does or doesn't do.
Not only are you a HOMEWRECKER, but now a HAVE TO BE RESPONSIBLE PARENT, TEACHER AND FRIEND to the child.
BOY, aint you something your mama would be proud of???!!
2007-09-14 17:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by THEMrsMinLa&Momof2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know matter what you do you were wrong to get involved with a married man. To have a baby with this man I'm sorry but you deserve what you get.I don't like women like you that go after a married man,i don't care what line he feed you you knew he was married and that's what is important.Go a head tell the wife see what happens see how fast he turns on you Then you will find out just how much he loves you.Did you really think anyone would be on your side no way your in a site where we are all married women and a lot of us have had our husbands cheat on us by women like you. Shame on you and shame on you for letting yourself get pregnant in order to get your man.
2007-09-14 18:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU have no right to tell his wife anything anyway. Being "in the process of a divorce" is not being divorced. They are two differen things. He is still married. You basically whored yourself and produced a child and NOW you want to try to threaten him by telling his wife? That's funny. He has every right to try and work things out with his wife and keep his marriage entact if he so chooses...You have no rights. You should have thought about the consequences of your actions before you spread your legs. Besides I'd be willing to bet his wife knows more than you think she does...She's not the stupid one in this situation.
2007-09-14 20:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL...you are just too funny.....you let him get a divorce from his wife???
Why does it matter if you are making the right choice? So if you do tell his wife that you are pregnant with his baby....what will that accomplish? Whether they work it out or not is of no concern of yours. You both will get what you deserve in the end....I BELIEVE IN KARMA.
EDIT: I think YOU need to read the whole question...I have read it many times...and to me it still reads that you "decided to let him get a divorce and not tell his wife because......" Do you not see it?
2007-09-14 17:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are asking this question NOW?!? When you had a
BABY with this man? Come on...You need to grow up and care for the child now and stop trying to be a part of this divorce!
2007-09-14 17:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl!! my first question to you is why did you sleep with a married man in the first place ? I think you are stupid to not tell the wife she has the right to know. If you think that if this man does follow through with the divorce that things will be all rosy your fooling yourself !! If he cheated on his wife he WILL cheat on you somewhere down the road lepards do not change their spots.Smarten up get him to suport your child and get on with your life for the babies sake .Think about it hon.I know this isn't what you want to hear !! But its a fact of life
2007-09-14 17:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by lore29 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you need not to protect his feelings after all he could be just saying all that to you and still go back to wifey. Honey I am a married woman who's husband cheated and he finally left that trick alone and work things out with me and we have been together for 13yrs. So I say you keep it real and tell her the truth
2007-09-14 18:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by danaispeace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right choice would have been to NOT sleep with a married man. You have to accept the consequences of your actions now. If he decides to stay with his wife, you need to let him go.
2007-09-14 17:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by ncgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋