This is for the fellas out there...?

Question

When a woman asks you to share your feeling or just share your thoughts... why do you look at us like we are asking for a pint of blood..or as if you dont understand the question?

its not like i want my husband to say "im thinking of you my beloved sweetness"... just to know sometimes what he is thinking... he will make plans and after things are completely worked out he tells me. not that the plan was not good. he is very intellegent...but i would like to have just a small bit of input. especially if it effects me.... like our vacation..

Answer 1

There reason is that it is absolutely unimportant for most of us to care what someone else is thinking if they are not talking about it. It is a fundamental difference between most men and most women. It doesn't mean we don't care. We are biologically programmed to be reactive to the environment around us. Sure, we plann ahead and anticipate contingencies. We just assume those around us will relate important information directly.

Women, on the other hand, have a penchant for trying to read minds or, in reality, faces. It has been scientifically shown that women can read much more emotional expression from a face than a man can. Dribes both of us crazy as a woman cannot fathom how a man apparently cannot see how she feels, like he doesn't care enough to notice.

The bottom line is that if your inquiry had an answer we were both willing to provide and (more importantly) of any importance, we would have already brought it up. What we don't understand is why you are asking us. It is not silly and we aren't unfeeling or secretive. Much to the contrary.

Answer 2

If this doesn't answer you question, nothing will.

Now here are the rules from the male side.
These are our rules!
Please note... these are all numbered "1"
ON PURPOSE!

1. Men are NOT mind readers.

1. Learn to work the toilet seat.
You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.
We need it up, you need it down.
You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.

1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon
or the changing of the tides.
Let it be.

1. Shopping is NOT a sport.
And no, we are never going to think of it that way.

1. Crying is blackmail.

1. Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!

1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.

1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.

1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a Problem.

See a doctor.

1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument.
In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days.

1. If you won't dress like the Victoria 's Secret girls, don't Expect us to act like soap opera guys.

1. If you think you're fat, you probably are.
Don't ask us.

1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of them makes you sad or angry, then we meant the other one

1. You can either ask us to do something
Or tell us how you want it done.
Not both.
If you already know best how to do it, then just do it yourself.

1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.

1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.

1. If it itches, it will be scratched.
We do that.

1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like nothing's wrong.
We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle, besides we know you will bring it up again later.

1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.

1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine...Really.

1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as baseball, the shotgun formation,
or golf.

1. You have enough clothes.

1. You have too many shoes.

1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!

1. Thank you for reading this.
Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight;


But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping.

Answer 3

Well when you ask this it is hard to do.Why because most women do not really what to hear what we would say. I've been in trouble a lot of times for saying what was on my mind. Some of us men do not know how candy coat your words so it dose not hurt you feeling. So that is why we look like you are you are going to take a pint of blood.

Answer 4

Usually if a girl asks me what I'm thinking, and if the answer is "Not about You" then she gets mad.

Guys are an intricate piece of work. We can say what's on our mind when we have something on our mind to say, or usually we just don't acknowledge what we are thinking because we haven't had a lot of time to think about the question.

Answer 5

Well, most men have made the mistake and answered that very question openly and honestly. The problem is that it usually leads to the woman crying and or yelling. Please, remember the old saying "be careful what you ask for, you just might get it"

Answer 6

We men are not very much in touch with our feelings, and we like it that way. When women want to discuss our thoughts or feelings, it agitates us because we generally don't think about our feelings, and we don't want to.

Why is it important for women to discuss feelings and thoughts all the time?

How come women never want to talk about hockey or bass fishing?

Answer 7

It's a loaded question. My girlfriend constantly asks me what I'm thinking. Typically I'm relaxing and not thinking about anything important but in the rare occasion that I'm thinking about her and it's something negative and I tell her she can't take it. She's extremely sensitive...

Answer 8

Yes you are right, I would look at the girl who is asking, thinking in my mind, Why me? Please...... also I get intimidated that what should i say, and I am not very good on fashion or food taste or relationships, so I actually have nothing to add, I kind of go by what my girls thinks and thats fineiwth me ,so i am kind of dumb when such questions are thronw at me, i hope i could help your in finding hte answer duh

Answer 9

Guess it depends on the question that you are asking. How do you feel about me? Sweety I love you... That is about as much in depth as we want to go ... We then do not want to hear. Awww you love me .. Tell me the reasons that you love me. Men being men

Answer 10

well not all us guys are like that i personally never shut up about my feelings:P just remember we men don't think with our emotions so when your asking how we feel it requires a fair bit of digging, alot of the timewe bury ourfeeling so that we can do everyday things.