My husband and I have been married for 4 years, he's 29 and I'm 30. We have sex everyday and have been like that since day 1.He is always home with me and our 2 year old only once in a while he would be out with his family members to watch boxing. I nag alot and always accuse him of cheating.lately we have been fighting alot he says i'm pushing him out the door that he doesn't know how long he is gonna take it. we have even talked about getting a divorce. one time he told me he was going to see a fight at his cousin's house (right after work in his dirty work clothes) but when i asked him who won the fight he said there was no fight he was just hanging out with his cousins. why did he have to lie to me? you think maybe he had another set of clothes in his car and went out with another woman. a week later he had a weird # on his phone. when i asked him he said it was his cousin's phone# and gave me permission to call. is he cheating on me or am i going crazy?
2007-09-14 04:57:31 · 38 answers · asked by Janice 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds like a decent guy.He will get tired of being accused,though. See a counselor to see why you are so insecure. Good luck!
2007-09-14 05:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by bittersweet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may not be cheating but does want to get a way from you once in awhile. I'm having the same problem. I'm 27 he's 29 and we've been married for 4 years. And get this we have a 2 year old. I was just about to post my question about my husband's new idea of going to a boxing match with his friend from work that he never hangs with. After reading your post I'm thinking maybe mine and your husband need to get away from us for a while. Like your my husband is usually at home when he's not at work and I think that's alot to deal with especially if we're nagging. I admit I do nag. He probably only lied because he figured he needed to present to you a good excuse in case you try stop him from going. He gave you permission to call the number on the phone so don't worry about that anymore. To answer both our question I don't think he's cheating but probably will eventually if the nagging and accusations don't stop. Good Luck to you.
2007-09-21 05:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by closure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD CHILL THE HELL OUT!! Women like you push us out the door.. you have to have faith in your husband.. nagging never gets women anywhere.. your just insecure with your out look of your body after having your child. if he is home with you and go out once in a while be thankful.. cause you know what he can cheat on the way to work or after work. and Why are you going through is phone anyway.. people call wrong numbers and he is not your child. He is your husband. a man needs to bond with other men from time to time and you should get you some business and you wouldnt have time to notice every thing your husband does.. I think you should find a hobby and get off of your husbands back before you run him out the door.. And believe me he will do it.. If you always accusing him of Cheating and he is not doing it and you have not left after Those harsh accusations he will cheat on you cause he knows you will not leave.. I would never bring that mess up unless I was prepared to do something about it and have actual facts... Which I know you have none of...
2007-09-21 04:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister! you are the problem in the marriage. Your husband sounds like he is truly a family man and you are trying to push him out off the door. listen, be careful what you do, because what you call trash the next woman call gold, and if the next woman gets him, I'm not sure you will get him back and that is because of your jealously. Give him his free time to be with the his cousin and Never nag a man, it could come back too haunt you. Not all men cheat.
2007-09-20 18:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by pope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to shut up and listen to what you are saying to him. A man can only hear so much and he will lie to get away, and have some peace and quiet. He isn't cheating, he is trying to live life with someone that he loves, but doesn't love him enough to stop being a fishermans wife. Do you want a divorce, because if you don't change, that's what will happen. Go get some counciling for yourself, and find out why you are doing this. Did your mother do this, grandmother, aunt., think where this is coming from. I hope things get better, but only you can do this.
2007-09-19 15:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are crazy I don't know if he is cheating or not but the lie about the boxing match it just seemed like he told you that lie not to hear you bi tch and moan about him going out.
but if you are so unhappy you should leave because this can't be healthy for you or your child to see so much fighting between the two of you.
I am married and just yesterday my husband went out with his cousins who are staying with us they are from out of town. I kissed him at the door and told him to have fun. I called my husband like at 1 a.m. and told him that I was going to sleep and could not wait up for him because I had to leave the house early today with the kids and I still don't know what time he got in but when I woke up he was there. I kissed him as I got out of bed and asked him if they had fun and he told me they really had a good time and i left it like that. I thanked him for not waking me up and I went to work. I totally trust him and it's the same thing with me I have not been out in a few months work and kids have been crazy but the last time I went out I had a ball with my sister we went to different bars, to a new casino that opened and back to a bar then breakfast I got home at 5:30 a.m. the only thing my husband told me was try not to wake the baby as I was getting into bed.
I think we work because we have trust and he knows he can tell me anything Now don't get me wrong he can be and *** and still cheat and I probably will never know but I can't live my life wondering or thinking that because I would go crazy.
2007-09-21 07:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by My Three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a Job! and a life! He does not sound like he is cheating on you..You said yourself that he has sex with you everyday, and he is always home with you..
What's your problem? You need to listen to his response.." You are pushing him OUT the DOOR)! Let up already..give him some space to hang out for a few hours with his family or friends..
Why are you so insecure? What are you doing? Just trust him and try to work on keeping your negatives remarks to yourself. Then he might change his mind about leaving.
A person may love you..but can take but so much bull S...! So cool it for a while...
2007-09-19 11:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like he's cheating,but it won't be long before he does or packs his bags and moves out.
Why are you nagging? Take some time out for yourself to go to a movie or something and then make some alone time for the two of you.
And get help if you can't stop nagging or accusing him of cheating!
2007-09-21 16:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You admit to nagging alot, nobody enjoys listening to that. I don't know what it is you want to ***** at him about, but try stopping for awhile. Perhaps he will find his home time enjoyable again. If not, he has warned you that you are pushing him out of the door.
It's not all one sided. You probably have something to gripe about. Have you guys tried talking about it? Get a babysitter and the two of you go out to dinner together. Try to have some couple time regularly, maybe things will improve. Sometimes after the kids come along, couples get all caught up in that and the relationship suffers.
2007-09-20 01:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex every day and he works.... you need help! I know your type. Did your last man cheat on you and now you new man is paying for it? Do you have thoughts of cheating and maybe reflecting this on him? He lied cause he didn't want to come home from work AND he didn't want you to join him. OR he is a cheating dog with alot of sex drive and he keeps clean clothes at his "cousins" house and he has sex with you and four other women everyday. Plus he's dumb enough to let them have his phone number knowing you are seriously insecure. Sorry if I seem to be too hard on you but come on....for real....smell his underware when he comes home!
Case closed.
2007-09-20 17:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by mein1962 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why were you nagging him if he was home with you and the baby . Second of all you need to get a grip and give him a little time to hang with family and friends you dont want to start hoovering because of course they will turn to a female. but if he do leave you it will be your fault because you started nagging him when he was chilling at home. Dont start snooping for things cause you will find something you dont want to find and talk to him and work it out. be resonably and dont go fussing. And Damn lady who finds the time to cheat if yall are having sex every day. **** he ant got no energy left.
2007-09-20 08:18:09 · answer #11 · answered by tee tee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋