He spent our 13 year marriages cheating (solid proof--he chalked up many scorned girlfriends that I have communicated with) and trading in some really gross porn. An investigator came to me the other day to interview me for his higher-than-God clearance and I told all--not to get back at him, but because I thought it was my duty to tell the truth. Now I feel guilty, why?
2007-09-14 04:30:14 · 18 answers · asked by colebolegooglygooglyhammerhead 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't worry I am sure that his cheating won't affect his clearance. they just want to know if he does drugs, drinks alot, has secret converstaions with russians and seems mentally stable. believe it or not a lot of military personel cheat, and a lot don't cheat, but you never know.
2007-09-14 04:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by sa_183327 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
In the Army until an officer makes Flag rank he are governed by the same uniform regulations as all other Soldiers. You kind of get used to not having a beard so it would never occur to one to grow one out. Plus it would be very difficult to have any credibility with your junior officers if you were sporting a beard just because you can while criticizing someones grooming. There is also the chemical protective mask reason. If your mask can't make a good seal, you might be the coolest, bearded guy at a funeral. Most people don't realize that AR 670-1 does not apply to Army General Officers. Edit: I tried to shoot Hollifield an email but couldn't. If you pick up or download AR 670-1, check in the very front. Every Army Regulation has an "applicability" section. 670-1 clearly states that it does not apply to general officers. You can't make this stuff up!
2016-05-19 04:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel guilty because you just cost him his career... Military men and women will be kicked out for an affair, no matter what kind, physical... cyber... emotional. If there is proof. He may also do some jail time too. There really isn't much of a reason for you to feel guilty though. The guy cheated, repeatably, on you. Karma sweetie...
2007-09-14 04:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Out of spite You are still married to him I do not think I would want to be in your shoes Always remember what goes around comes around He already messed with his karma by cheating He could lose his career over it if the military finds out Left with liitle of nothing demoted in rank and pay Then you have a chance of loseing him if he finds out you are the one who told When talking to women remember misery loves company They will consider his conduct that not of a officer Counseling would have done you better if it was worth working on Your telling the truth will save him from him self and the humiliation of his dirty laundry comeing out in the future
2007-09-14 04:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by chameleon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing. but maybe you still love him and feel bad because no matter how wrong he done you, your apparently not the type of person that enjoys seeing another person suffer or go through hell. i would imagine that his life is about to get turned upside down from what you said and you hate that for him. i think thats why you feel bad. your a good person and even though you cant see it happening you will be blessed for being honest and doing the right thing. god bless.
2007-09-14 04:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think deep down you know that part of the reason is to get back at him but you did the right thing.
2007-09-14 04:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
good for you, you did the right thing. i don't know why you feel guilty, except for maybe he's instilled that in you over the 13 years in order to get away with his affairs
2007-09-14 04:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes its hard when people that dont truly know you (or your husband) think there perfect.... while everyone else is thinking he is so perfect, you are sitting back dealing with the ways he has hurt you! I dont think you did it just to be mean, I think sometimes you just want to shout to the world that someone is not perfect especially when you seem to be the only 1 that notices that
2007-09-14 04:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by JJ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't feel guilty at all. How did he not get in trouble while you were married? The military doesn't look highly on infidelity.
Whether your intentions were to get him in trouble or not, I see it as karma.
2007-09-14 04:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by Leah 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
why should you feel guily, you told the truth. it is his fault for making bad choices and it is your duty to tell the truth.
2007-09-14 04:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by daisy322_98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋