my husband had ocd ,he got rehab,dicharged and now shows signs of bipolar.i have suffered for 15 yers and have 2 children. he does not work sleeps the whole day and talks of doing big one day,but does not lift a finger .i am unemployed too and from a poor family.my parents have passed away and my brothers dont want my burden.can i leave my childre with my in laws who are rich and go back to my country.I will request my in laws to raise my kids who have 3 more yrs of schooling ,am i doing right.if i stay with hubby whom i love but he does not reciprocate i will go mad and we all go hungry.i dont have very cordial relatons with in laws due to my husbands bad habits. i am thinking of suicide i am so stressed.i have no relatives no friends please can someone help me .
2007-09-14 19:35:30 · 9 answers · asked by niki s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it's that deep take some time off, his illness cannot become your illness, why can't you find a job and raise your kid's with or without your husband? has he been diagnosed and or treated? Can you get counseling?
2007-09-14 19:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by reggie29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem. do not even go that route. Your children would be devastated. If you cn not take any more, either leave him and take the children into another place to live or if absolutely necessary, to your inlaws. There is help for a woman raising children on her own. Go to the welfare office in your community. They can help you with food stamps, and other assistance if you wish to stay in this country with your children.
Do not let this man ruin the rest of your life. Do what you feel is necessary for the survival of your children and yourself.
2007-09-14 20:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is bipolar... ????
then leave.. but take the kids with u... u can file for divorce.. go to legal aid.. they will help with the expenses..
file for custody of the kids.. u can get help there tooo
unless u just do not want them.. you can not assigned whoever u want to the kids..
ur hubby will most likely get them .. until u can prove why he should not have them
bi-polar can be dangerous..
he needs to see a Dr and find out asap.
who has 3 more years of schooling u or the kids??
good luck.. and i can tell u are stressed out.. don't u have any friends house to go to for the w'end??
how do u no in laws wants ur kids?
read about bipolar.. it is strange.. but can be managed with meds...
2007-09-14 19:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your in-laws are willing to take your children in and raise and educate them and support them, by all means, give your children a chance. But don't go running home. Get yourself and education and support yourself.
You posted this in the US section so I assume you are in the USA. If so, you can leave your husband, get governmental assistance and help finding a job and going to school and even help with housing and food while you do. This would allow you to keep your children.
2007-09-14 19:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mental health issues are always tough. But you may have the right answer in looking after the kids. There is no shame in giving (Not leaving) the kids to someone that can care for them. For everyone's sake, give the kids to the inlaws. They will care for them and you can find some peace of mind. They will appreciate this when they grow up. Good luck.
2007-09-14 19:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i suggest that you ask your in-laws to raise your kids until you can support them, yourself, and your husband. you could probably suggest to your in-laws that you want to stay with your husband, and that you don't think that you can handle him and watch your kids at the same time.
i don't know much bipolarism, if that is a word, but i do suggest that he gets some kind of help for it.
whatever you decide to do, do NOT commit suicide, it is definitely not the answer. also, try to work it out here, as i do not think that running away in any way will help out your situation.
i do wish you luck, in whatever you decide to do. and i will pray for you.
2007-09-14 19:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by wing.xi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job to provide for yourself and your children. Get a divorce and he will have to pay child support. This is how you do things here!
I`m sorry but I can't relate to someone who wants to leave their children behind cause they can't afford them.....they're children not puppies!
2007-09-14 19:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to think of your children first, right now they need you and your husband is a adult he can do for his self. go and get welfare, and food stamps, make sure you get your bills paid to have water, electric, etc.... then get free counceling at churches etc.. for you andyour husband . your children can also get counceling as well.
if this is as bad as you say call 911 NOW and tell them you are thinking of suicide and have children, they will sendsomeone NOW
2007-09-14 19:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE! DO NOT DO SUICIDE! MOVE ON!
YOUR HUSBAND SOUNDS REALLY MESSED-UP AND NOT ONE TO BE WITH ANY CHILDREN.
I'M SORRY THAT YOU'VE NOT HAD MUCH OF A MARRIAGE BECAUSE OF YOUR HUSBAND'S PROBLEMS!
I CAN ONLY PRAY FOR YOU!
2007-09-14 19:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋