2007-09-14 19:15:00 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try using toys..
2007-09-14 19:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Felix 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Candles and roses will not really help with an orgasm! Liquor makes people interested in sex, but the funny thing about wine or any other alcohol is that it will desensitize you and make you less likely to experience an orgasm, or it'll be weak.
Orgasms are as much your wife's responsiblity as it is yours. It's not something you can make her do without her help. Psychology plays a huge role in sexual arousal and orgasms. Unfortunately many women are trained to believe that sex is an emotional experience rather than a physical one. This is due to many historical factors and the traditional submissive role of women in society. Because of this, you're taught to give flowers and candles, but this really distracts from the reality of sex, which is merely physical. Your wife needs to learn that sex is a physical act not 'making love'. Making love is a euphanism meant to cover up the reality of sex, that is hardcore f-ing!
Talk to your wife about what turns her on, physically. Candles and roses might allow her to allow herself to be turned on, but you need to know about her body. Ask her what she likes physically and don't be afraid to experiment together or use toys.
2007-09-15 02:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Candles, wine, and roses will induce romantic feelings, but not orgasms. For an orgasm you need a more hands-on approach.
Did she have them before? If she’s never had one, then you just haven’t found the right button to push yet. If she did have them previously and then suddenly could not, then (after 3 years) she might want to consider talking to her doctor about it.
2007-09-15 02:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women have had childhood trauma,
and have a hard time having orgasms. She
should see her doctor,and see what the Dr.
says. Sometimes sex toys, or a little porn
may help out, the wine,candles & roses.
2007-09-15 02:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by trebor2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hate to put this bluntly, but the truth is, if she can't figure out how to do it by herself, then you likely aren't going to have much luck. If she hasn't had one at all in 3 years, I have to assume, she hasn't tried to have one when you aren't around.
There is more I could say, but that seems to be your base problem. She needs to figure out what does it for her. Then she can "show" you. Then, no more problem.
BTW, it sounds like you are doing a good job with the romance side, but perhaps you should read a few books about women's sexuality. Your question is too vague to pinpoint what else you can do, but arming yourself with information never hurts.
2007-09-15 02:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by sage 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's a hint; contrary to what the male ego believes it is not the man who gives the woman an orgasm. The woman is in total control of her orgasms herself, some women don't realize this and American women tend to be a bit more prudish when it comes to their bodies and as you've seen here regarding masturbation, they don't know HOW to give themselves one. For one thing they don't relax enough, they are so focused on getting an orgasm that they deny themselves the actual pleasure of getting to it. And if you think you gave her the orgasms three years ago...rent the movie "When Harry Met Sally".
2007-09-15 02:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doing things like candles, wine and roses will not help sexually. Thats just the romantic stuff you do to get her in bed. Once you are there its all about your technique. Make sure you do lots of foreplay.
2007-09-15 02:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by godsynthesis 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay is important, and communication is as well. Ask her what her turn on is. Is there trouble between you two? If there is, it will perhaps stand in the way of your love-making. I hope you aren't keeping secrets either, 'cause if you are, and she found out, it will come between you as well. Is she upset about the "problem" of not having an orgasism? If not, I would be worried she just "not into you", or perhaps she is need of medical attention or hormones. Just communicate, that is the best answer.
2007-09-15 02:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by heart&soul 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really should sit her down and tell her that you are aware that she is sexually unsatisfied and that you want to know what will bring her to the place where she is turned on enough to orgasm? Her answer might be something that would hurt you if she said it but if you want her to open up to you sexually bad enough, ask her to tell you. Say that you want to know what she needs and that you are prepared to hear an answer you're not comfortable with, but you will keep your mind as open as possible and work with her to achieve her needs. She may even want something sexually that would be confusing to you, like putting your hands around her neck, spanking, etc. Ask her to be honest with you.
2007-09-15 02:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
have you tried Viagra ? if you dont have E D then chances are you will last an hour 3 to 4 times in a row,back to back.also too its a good way to get 6 pack abs.
2007-09-15 05:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it looks like u have ask this 3 times. consecutively.. so I would think u have all the ans's u need...
but one thing u need to no..
women are so different than men..
we are emotional attracted.. and w/out that it is hard to achieved..
so u need to be kind and loving 24/7.. not just for 30 mins in the bedroom..
not sure what the situation is??? but ck with the professionals
2007-09-15 03:09:59 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋