Marriage & Divorce - 5 September 2007

admitted to having an affair with our tour guide and surf instructor... she said she promises to not do it again. I'm trying to buy her a gift for her honesty......... and suggestions

2007-09-05 06:55:51 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance has a twelve year old child he has been raising since the child was 3 years old. The mother occasionally sees the child and she has 2 other children from two separate fathers. My fiance does not have legal custody of him. Basically it was a mutual agreement. I understand she has other kids but birthdays and holidays come and go and she does nothing. Meanwhile, since he & I have been serious at least a year I finance all the costs. I have no problem with this at all, I feel it's my obligation as his parent/guardian but I feel society wants to crucify men who do not pay child support. Should this not apply to women as well? Is there anyway to legally bind her to pay something? We could use that to save for college for him someday. I do not propose that by her paying it absolves us of our responsibilites but it does help. Any advice?

2007-09-05 06:52:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been through so many issues (cheating, addiction, abuse, all on his part). We are now in marriage counseling and have gone to two sessions. The ironic thing is that all of those issues have stopped and my husband is truly changed now, but when he was doing all of those terrible things to me I didn't want to leave him, now that he's "changed" I feel like I truly want to leave him. It's really weird and I don't understand why when he was doing these terrible things, I stayed with him because I though I really loved him, but now that he has stopped these things it almost feels like to little to late and I'm over him. The marriage counseling is not changing anything and I'm just so over it, but I stay for my child and baby on the way and because divorce is not something that anyone in my family has ever done. I'm just waiting for some kind of "miracle" to occur in the counseling but it doesn't. Any suggestions?

2007-09-05 06:48:33 · 11 answers · asked by allie s 1

Would you marry your spouse again if given the chance?

2007-09-05 06:45:51 · 24 answers · asked by PrincessJ 3

We were together 10 years. After trying everything I could think of to help pur relationship survive, he left me for his addiction to meth. He quickly realized he had nowhere to go. Prior to his leaving, things had gotten bad: lying, yelling, screaming, threatening, stealing, cheating, all on his part. He wanted to come home; I said no, not if we're going to make each other miserable, as our new hobby. I loved him, still love him, with my entire soul. I believed we would be together forever, we were the best of friends. his addiction took it all away.
i haven't heard from him in 18 months; I ask about him everytime I can, it's important to me that he is ok. he won't hear of me or speak about me, until last week. He sent me an email telling me that he "hates me for abandoning him when he was sick" and telling me he still misses me in the same sentence.
I can't cope, emotionally, with the hate and hurt he holds toward me in his heart.

2007-09-05 06:43:22 · 13 answers · asked by mzindica 4

My spouse has just asked for divorce. We have two children, ages 3 yrs and 6 months. Her request was a shock to me. Sure we had some problems but nothing to get to this point. My biggest hurt is that she has been denying me time with my kids. I live with my parents right now and she does not like my mother. My mother has tried hard to get along. They have never had words but she just does not like her. She wants me to sign an agreement basically keeping my children away from my parents and really limiting my time with my children. I have not signed. I think that this is being spiteful. I work until 10pm most nights as I manage a restaurant so my parents have been picking up the kids and caring for them until I get home. I leave for work around 12ish each day. I believe that since she wants the divorce, she should file but she does not have the money and wants me to. I have not done so. Please give me some advice on how I can deal with my situation regarding my children.

2007-09-05 06:41:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

seems like people give up more easily these days. Do you think that sometimes it takes the bad times to appreciate the good? that sticking it out & working together to get through the difficult times makes a marriage stronger?

I don't believe in divorce. My husband & I have had our share of bad times, but the good times far outweigh them. I for one could never walk away from the promise I made to him & to God. What do you think?

2007-09-05 06:29:59 · 24 answers · asked by PrincessJ 3

He's really ignorant and kind of controlling, and I'm pretty sure he's going to be abusive. Also, he tried to make out with me at a party, which caused a fight between them. He lives 1000 miles away... you can imagine what he does over there.

2007-09-05 06:28:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

im engaged and heard so many times that i shouldn't so it because everything changes after you say i do.....
true? and what kinds of things change?

2nd - my fiancee is really irresponsible and still in his selfish phase... he's not patient and wants everything now..... including cars / bikes / etc.... i try to get him to see that if he can save money that it'll be better for him in the future...
he thinks im trying to control him, but im just trying to give him some helpful advice.... his defensiveness makes it ALMOST impossible to get him to heed advice from the people that care for him the most.
He's 23 years old... will he grow out of this? or do you think that its a personality trait that cannot be changed?.... i don't want to have to deal with this immaturity for the rest of my life...

2007-09-05 06:20:15 · 57 answers · asked by russiansgirl5 2

2007-09-05 06:20:01 · 24 answers · asked by boohoo 1

A friend of mine got pregnant to a guy she was only seeing for 6 months, they originally met in Jamaica.

She gets pregnant, he emmigrates to Canada she comes to England.

The father only met his sone of 20 months only last week. He was not with my friend during her pregnancy.

Now she has announced that she is getting married to him, she has never lived with him.

I asked her if she knows what he is like in an arguement. She said she has no idea what he is like!

What do you think of this?

2007-09-05 06:13:44 · 14 answers · asked by Rebz 5

2007-09-05 05:58:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found out (although I had a strong idea) that my wife of many years had an affair with her boss in the months leading up to our wedding. Finally, many years later she admitted to it and said it was just a crazy thing and she had full intentions of breakingit off and marrying me. We have kids now and for most part a pretty decent marriage. However, with this out in open she is relived but I really have morequestions. She was with the boss at least 10 times.

I just want to get to point where I stop thinking about it and can move on. I had thought about ending the marriage but with the kids and my wifes strong desire to keep it going I am kind of stuck. I just would like some advice on mentally moving ahead from anyone who may have had similar experience.

2007-09-05 05:49:02 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here is my situation
I left my husband in January because his drinking was taking over his life and our families lives. We agreed that by me leaving it would help him sober up. I never left to get a divorce. I left because I wouldn't let my daughters see that anymore and I wanted my husband to get better.
To make a long story short,my husband ended up meeting someone else and now she is pregnant. He never tried to get help. I am so hurt by this but I know I have to move on.Everytime I think about what he did to me I get so upset because I do everything for our daughters.Whenever I talk to him on the phone my heart races because of the anger I have towards him. He is coming this weekend to give me my stuff and I was wondering how should I act when I see him?How do I get over what he did to me?

2007-09-05 05:34:46 · 32 answers · asked by lvbrdy4vr 1

I've been with my girl for 4 months. She is a divorcee, reasono being she cheated on her EX husband. She dated the guy she cheated on her husband with for over a year, they broke up because she said he couldn't commit. that was 9 months ago. Now she kept his cell # in the phone and recieved text and calls from him, including times when we were in bed together sleeping, and she would answer them, but not tell me who they were from (i looked over her should one day because she was secretive about it and saw who it was). Asked her to remove the # because it made me feel uneasy. She said she was still friend but that he took advantage of her and ruined her life. After the 5th time of asked and her putting up a fight each time, she caved and did it. only to add it back the next day and call him with a lame excuse to get a personal homemade DVD back that had sentimental value. But i asked her is she called him and she said no, but admitted it only after a 4th time of asking.

2007-09-05 05:33:47 · 15 answers · asked by hero 1

I ve been married for 13 years together for 17 years. we have 3 kids I have been un happy for 5 years and I see no happy ending hes negitive and verbally abusive to the kids. And quite frankly he does not know me he only sees and hears what he wants, we have not been together in over a year I sleep in a seperate roomI want out and have told him but he doesnt belive me How do I walk away He depends on me for every thing

2007-09-05 05:33:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-05 05:31:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-05 05:16:01 · 23 answers · asked by phillip h 1

I work from home most of the time, I don't fool around or flirt. However he has been questioning what I am doing A LOT lately. Yesterday we went together to get our hair cut, he wanted me to get my hair cut short....so I did, no biggie...however was this a way for him to make me uglier to others? Kinda bugging me today.

2007-09-05 05:13:55 · 7 answers · asked by Rein 5

My wife is not affectionate! Especially during the week. We are only intimate one time during the weekend. She always says she feels pressured if I ask to be intimate during the week. This is very frustrating. Ladies is this normal?

P.S. I do my share of the house work and help with the kids.

2007-09-05 05:13:09 · 8 answers · asked by akbar s 1

I need an inexpensive idea of what we can do on our anniversary, nothing cheesy please, and nothing dirty either

2007-09-05 05:10:16 · 15 answers · asked by Sammi H 1

I was in an abusive marrage for six long long years. Then just before I was smart enough to get away i got preg with twins. He went to jail and didnt get out till three days after I had my daughters. 7 & 6.6 lbs at birth!! Obviously I let him come back breifly. Then tragity strikes and one of our twins died at 8 months old. Medical examiner could find no real cause of death just cold-sleeping no kind of foul play. As if that wasnt bad enough, i find out that he was with someone else during one of our routine separations. She was pregnant and didnt know if he was the dad or not. So I left him. we stayed separated for a year and a half. then in a moment of pure weakness i caved and we somehow ended up living together again.but he is still the same old him abusive in a lot of ways. tell me someone why do we allow these kind of things? I know part of it for me is because i feel like he might be the only one who knows how i feel about my baby. Just looking for feed back.

2007-09-05 05:09:01 · 9 answers · asked by Jynn 4

My fiancee and I are getting married at the end of this year and he would like a prenup. This is a second marriage for both of us. He had a business with his ex-wife that he had to buy her out of and does not want the same situation with me. He would like to protect his business in the event that we would get divorced. He is also wanting me to quit my job some time next year and either work for him part time or find somthing that is less time demanding then my current career. I haven't thought much about prenups before so not sure how I feel one way or another. I certainly would not expect half of his business like his ex wife was entitled to, but I want to be certain that if I quite to stay home and take care of his needs as well as our three combined children that I'm not going to be finding myself unemployable or completely broke. What type of a prenup could be drawn up that would meet both needs and be completely fair.

2007-09-05 05:06:51 · 15 answers · asked by sweetnsexy46530 1

2007-09-05 05:03:41 · 8 answers · asked by butterfly 4

I don`t come into the equation.She shows me no affection and there is next to nothing on the physical side.
What can I do to make her realise that I exist !!!!!!
confused,
Michael

2007-09-05 04:56:24 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm now married, would it be good to phone him up and tell him or should I just ignore his phone calls

2007-09-05 04:56:12 · 23 answers · asked by emily_jane2379 5

My best friend is in this relationship (has been in it for almost 5 years now) and is living with the guy, and is planning on getting married someday and stuff. I like him for her too, he seems really nice and sincere and I know he adores her, which is cute, ya know? It seems like they get along and stuff, and before she met this guy she was the type that never had a serious relationship so I know that means love for her. Anyway, my friend just got her Master's degree and that has me wondering how important a partner's level of education is because her man is a high school graduate only. I think this used to bother her but then in the begining, but i guess as she got to know him she decided what was important was who he is not his education level, but i do think now it is begining to bother her again...she says that she would ideally want him to get his BA but he doesnt seem that interested in going to school. i do hope they can make it work, but what do you think are their chances?

2007-09-05 04:55:33 · 13 answers · asked by mama2be 3

So, hacked into my fiance's e-mail account because we're having problems and I suspected he was emotionally cheating on me with his co-worker. I found some stuff that was questionable and I fessed up to it and asked him about it. how wrong is this?

2007-09-05 04:53:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-05 04:42:48 · 14 answers · asked by Angela W 1

I tried ignoring him completely, but then he started letting the door slam in my face and things like this. This is a problem, because we have to work together. He's cool with my husband, and his wife was cool with me, but now she gives me dirty looks. I don't know why because I don't like him! How can I show this??!!!

2007-09-05 04:38:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous