So, hacked into my fiance's e-mail account because we're having problems and I suspected he was emotionally cheating on me with his co-worker. I found some stuff that was questionable and I fessed up to it and asked him about it. how wrong is this?
2007-09-05 04:53:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sure some people would say that it was wrong to go through his personal email...but that person is not me. If you had concerns that he was cheating on you...you have every right to look into it a little. Just like he would have the right to look into your if he suspected something.
Just remember...if you look to hard for something then you will find it.
2007-09-05 05:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do the same thing, right or wrong. You had reason to suspect, found out what you wanted to know. The only thing it sounds like that you forgot to do was figure out what you would do with this information. What I do when I am in a situation like this, I think of what I would tell some one else that i would do about it....helps think more clearly. Good luck.
2007-09-05 05:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is beyond wrong, it is total betrayal of trust. You showed that you have absolutely no respect for his privacy, no regard for his word, and no trust in him.
Where there is no trust and no respect there is no relationship. You found "stuff that was questionable" because that is what you were looking for. But the truly questionable thing here is do you have a bit of honour? Doesn't look that way. Time for your fiance to cut his losses and move on to someone who has a sense of ethical behavior!
2007-09-05 05:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he actually was cheating then he isnt worth ur time ...but snooping and breaking into the others stuff because u lack trust..doesnt show very much on ur side either..and u say questionable....is that meaning u might b lookin a little deeper into what was said between the 2...to make it excusable for digging into stuff..how would u feel if he went through every drawer u had and ur purse all the time..because yall are having probs..u wouldnt like it and u would want him to trust u...
2007-09-05 05:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by lil country gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were wrong to hack into his email, and if you don't trust him, then its time to move on. If he is interested in a co-worker then he's not ready to get married.
2007-09-05 06:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, two things here. You are either insecure and overly jealous and you crossed the line. OR his behavior and mannerisms have given you reason to doubt him. So which is it? How questionable were his emails? Time to reconsider the entire relationship, good thing you figured this out before you got married....
2007-09-05 05:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have to hide things from each other. You should be able to look at each others mail anytime. But would be good to know instead of going on behind someones back.
2007-09-05 05:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not wrong at all, I don't think...if you felt that something was going on, you just needed proof...
Better to know now ...then after the wedding.
2007-09-05 05:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by blue moon lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋