I ve been married for 13 years together for 17 years. we have 3 kids I have been un happy for 5 years and I see no happy ending hes negitive and verbally abusive to the kids. And quite frankly he does not know me he only sees and hears what he wants, we have not been together in over a year I sleep in a seperate roomI want out and have told him but he doesnt belive me How do I walk away He depends on me for every thing
2007-09-05 05:33:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Put his stuff out
Change locks
File divorce
don't look back
Don't let him back into your life.
2007-09-05 05:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put you and your children's well being before all else. If he is verbally abusing your children, you need to get him away from them before he causes any damage. The children didn't do anything and dont deserve to be treated that way. You should settle this in a legal matter, file for a divorce and tell him he needs to start being independent and not depend on you for everything. Why be stuck in a relationship that isn't going to work, it will just keep getting worse and worse the longer you wait. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-09-05 12:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have some where to go?
Just leave. Leaving is the hard part. Once you are gone however just give him a call and say "I'm not coming back, you'll get the papers in the mail"
Once you are out, it won't seem so scary. You will realize you had it in you all along. If he depends on you for everything you don't need him financially. You will be fine.
2007-09-05 12:44:17 · answer #3 · answered by blueink 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just walk away. Him depending on you is not your problem once you walk out the door. He'll be forced to depend on himself once you're gone. He's verbally abusive, you don't need to stay and you don't owe him anything. You should go see a lawyer and start looking for a place to live, and just go. When he's served with divorce papers he'll believe you.
2007-09-05 14:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to just do it. He is a grown man and should not be totally dependant on you for his own survival. Things may change dramatically after that many years of sharing a home, money, and children but, he should still be able to feed himself. Once you are no longer there, that responsibility is his and his alone, it's not for you to have to worry about. He is not one of your children!
2007-09-05 12:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Sweet♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a grown woman. You know what you need to do. And as far as your kids, I can't believe you allow him to verbally abuse them. That alone is reason for me to leave his needy butt. And you're not his mother...this "depends on me for every thing" crap is bs. Who cares. I thought he was supposed to be a man.
2007-09-05 12:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by ron-D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to love your kids enough not to let then grow up in that and end up repeating that behavior. You also have to love yourself enough to get out. You have to let him know enough is enough!
God Speed!
2007-09-05 12:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by Team 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
uhhh
you file for divorce
that's how
it's not that hard
just do it
don;t make empty threats
just do it
just make sure
you have a place to stay and
income
then do it
2007-09-05 12:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
very sad
2007-09-05 12:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋