A friend of mine got pregnant to a guy she was only seeing for 6 months, they originally met in Jamaica.
She gets pregnant, he emmigrates to Canada she comes to England.
The father only met his sone of 20 months only last week. He was not with my friend during her pregnancy.
Now she has announced that she is getting married to him, she has never lived with him.
I asked her if she knows what he is like in an arguement. She said she has no idea what he is like!
What do you think of this?
2007-09-05 06:13:44 · 14 answers · asked by Rebz 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think she should get to know him some more first! Marriage is a big commitment, they should spend some time together first, and not marry just for the sake of the baby. Single mothers do fine!
2007-09-05 07:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by matthewmooregirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend needs to think about her decision and get to know this guy before they get married. They know very little about each other. The child will not benefit if they cannot get along in the long-term. The only way you can determine this is by spending time together before jumping in.
2007-09-05 06:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she is making a big mistake but it is her life and she has to make her own mistakes. Just be a friend and be there for her when it's all over - don't judge her or say I told you so or you could lose her as a friend
2007-09-05 18:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your friend should wait a while and get to know this guy before getting committed she may not like how he truly is.
just because she had his baby doesn't make him her type.
or the marring type. she needs to be sure. what if things don't work out in such a short time? she needs to know who this guy is
2007-09-05 06:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by KAT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she got pregnant to a guy she bearly knows so why not get married 2 him !
2007-09-05 06:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Loz♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is one of those people who just have to learn things the hard way. She doesn't sound like she has her head screwed on straight. The day will come when this relationship will end and she will want to cry on your shoulder. I'd tell her that I didn't want to hear it.
2007-09-05 06:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhh she doesnt kno what she's getting herself into...the fact that he wasnt there throughout the pregnancy and now 20 some odd months later there getting married...it maybe a little late to say but, slow down...
2007-09-05 06:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by I Love Me!!! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend and not a guidance counsellor. She will only resent you for it, make sure you are there for her and her son and be the good friend that you are
2007-09-05 11:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by gillie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope for that childs sake that he's a good person. But your friend is an adult, this is her decision to make.
2007-09-05 06:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by PrincessJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be making a very big mistake, but if you say anything it probably wont be appreciated. Try to keep quiet, but be there if she needs you.
2007-09-05 11:54:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋