Question about a PreNup?

Question

My fiancee and I are getting married at the end of this year and he would like a prenup. This is a second marriage for both of us. He had a business with his ex-wife that he had to buy her out of and does not want the same situation with me. He would like to protect his business in the event that we would get divorced. He is also wanting me to quit my job some time next year and either work for him part time or find somthing that is less time demanding then my current career. I haven't thought much about prenups before so not sure how I feel one way or another. I certainly would not expect half of his business like his ex wife was entitled to, but I want to be certain that if I quite to stay home and take care of his needs as well as our three combined children that I'm not going to be finding myself unemployable or completely broke. What type of a prenup could be drawn up that would meet both needs and be completely fair.

Answer 1

See an attorney about this. You do need to protect your own interests as well, say an amount of stock goes to you for every year you work the businses, so you will at least have that and you would've earned it fair and square.

Answer 2

he's smart for wanting a pre nup
but personally if you got a great career going
then don't quit
and why get married?
there is nothing that benefits him
only you in the event of the divorce
and if you do not have an attorney present when the pre nup is drawn up and he has his own separate attorney present
then any good divorce attorney can render the pre nup null and void
so the question remains why get married?
if you divorce and have children, he'll have to pay child support one way or another, alimony and split assets earned while under a marriage,
so the only question as to why you would marry , that would be for alimony and assets issues.
to that extent keep your job, set aside your own money ( retirement )
so if you part ways you still have your OWN financial security and not relying on him
to say you wouldn't want half of he business is what all women say
then later caught in a bitter divorce the gloves come off and the shark divorce attorneys go after every bit of money they can find, women think they are entitled to the hard earned money that a man makes, look at Shaq he has just filed for divorce, and you know she will get a very aggressive attorney to rake him over the coals for some ridiculous sum of money that she did not earn, she is entitled to some money, just not 1/2, and the fallacy that she is entitled to keep her standard of living is just a farce, since when did a standard of living become a constitutional right? but the courts think that way and to that end Shaq is going to pay heavy for his extravagant lifestyle, other celeb reties have paid heavy ( Micheal Jordan ) for making the same mistake

Answer 3

nicely I comprehend the two components of the argument. individually I have not have been given any difficulty signing a pre-nup. I comprehend which you will desire to shelter your self in case you do break up, I propose we try this with existence insurance, scientific insurance etc., you intend for the unpredicted in case it takes place. A prenup is the comparable in my eyes. yet i won't manage to sign a prenup that isn't honest. in accordance to the regulation, a female or guy is entitled to each thing accumulated in the time of the marriage (not previously), this is considered community belongings so if a prenup reported i become not entitled to something accumalted in the time of the marriage i does not sign it.

Answer 4

These people are insane. A pre-nup is being realalistic. Divorce happens, and you have to protect your assets. Get the prenup. If you truely love him, this won't stop you from getting with him. I was married 7 years, and I devoted everything to my wife, now I'm $40K in debt and she has 18% of my military retirement because I married her in good faith that we would last forever. I can understand not wanting to drop your current job for him though. You need something in return if you're going to be dropping everything for his business and him.

Answer 5

ur very lucky that u have a career and not just a job...if u like it stay w/ it...why cant u have a career of ur own? and why does he want u to work for him? is it so that he doesnt have to pay someone else to do the work that he wants u to do? if he's askin u to sign a prenup because of what happened in his past, then i dont think he should've ever asked u to marry him...he's already thinking about the divorce!!! and if he doesnt want to have to split his money w/ u or anyone else, then he shouldnt be askin u to give up ur career...

if he wants u to quit ur job, then he shouldnt be askin u to sign a prenup...sounds like hes lookin out for himself...u should do the same, u and ur kid(s).

Answer 6

you need to read the prenup before you sign and make sure you have appropriations put in there that YOU want for yourself. the prenup is not all about him with your situation. just think abotu what you would want/need should the marriage disolve and tell him what you would like in the prenup. then, i'd get yourself a lawyer to review it for your own protection.

Answer 7

You are so right. It's nice that he would like you to be at home with the children. But he can't expect you to do that if he isn't willing to offer you some kind of financial protection. Talk to a lawyer about what viable options might work, and then sit down with your fiancee and hash it out.

Answer 8

I wouldn't go work for him if he wants a prenup. Nor would I quit my job.

In a PreNup you can say what you want and how things will happen.

Answer 9

I'm strongly against pre-nups cause it hurts both of you and I believe that once your married each persons belongs belong to both of you no matter what if you trust one another enough you both should not have a problem and just cause the other person you or he was married to does not mean it will happen again if you both are trust worthy you'll be fine . hope this helps

Answer 10

Considering marriage is a commitment of love and life between to people, it's very sad when the two of you are already thinking about divorce.

Besides statistics show that after a first marriage any marriage thereafter has a less of a chance of surviving. I hope the two of you put God first. That's the only way you have a chance.