I tried ignoring him completely, but then he started letting the door slam in my face and things like this. This is a problem, because we have to work together. He's cool with my husband, and his wife was cool with me, but now she gives me dirty looks. I don't know why because I don't like him! How can I show this??!!!
2007-09-05 04:38:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
be cold to him all the time and try to never look at him again.I had the same problem.The man probably blamed you for "making him"look at you and think dirty thoughts and he told his wife.Try to avoid this turdhole at all times and try to not look at him hardly at all(if you can help it)hopefully he'll quit this behavior and things will go back to normal.
2007-09-05 04:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, this guy is a dork. And you have to take into account the Dork Complexity with Women.
Here's a quick run-down: Any mildly attractive woman that is polite to a dork will give off a sense of interest. The dork will then think that you are interested and become infatuated with you. When you do not respond to his "advances", he is hurt and then becomes hostile.
The best method of approach with this is to be friendly towards him, but not overly friendly. The easiest and quickest way to show him that you are not romantically interested is to only show him any attention when it is not just the two of you. Involve him in a conversation with another person and he will start to get the drift.
He will soon understand that you are a nice person and that is all. The work environment should become much more tolerable.
2007-09-05 04:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Toby D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, first off I would tell my husband. Then I would tell the other guy to not be angry with me because I'm the one doing the right thing by not flirting and pursuing someone who's married. I would then clear things up with the wife and tell her that "hey, I wash my hands of this crap, I never did anything inappropriate nor do I plan to".
2007-09-05 04:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your company big enough to have an HR department? If it is, report him accordingly. What he's doing is a form of intimidation and sexual harassment.
If you're company doesn't have an HR, then tell your supervisor, who in turn should speak to either him (if you both share the same super) or speak to HIS supervisor. Again, don't just sit back and take this. It's wrong and he needs to be told as much.
2007-09-05 04:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you can speak to the wife directly. Talk to her one-on-one before talking to him. Let her know you are irritated by his "playfulness" [don't call it flirting] and that you want him to leave you alone.
Talking to her rather than him eliminates a weird situation. If you talk to him, he may not take you seriously or, most likely, will interpret your one-on-one talk with him as a secret desire or something.
If you talk to her, he will get the point very quickly, because it will be a situation he is completely responsible for [he has to explain to wifey what he was up to] and will leave you alone.
2007-09-05 04:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me experience the spouse is treatin me that way i might get him in front of alot of ppl and tell him . seem im uninterested in u gazing each step I make and each pass I make Im married and pleased with my husband so might u pls pass away me the hell on my own or i gets u for harrassment . yet first have been given and record him then if he dont end then do this to him I wager he will end then . reason im optimistic u no longer the only one he does this too however the others no longer steppin up . and doubtless as quickly as u do step up they might instruct u help and tell that he does them the comparable . stable luck
2016-10-10 00:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by newmans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a meeting with everyone , your husband, the man and his wife, and say what u gotta say right there in the moment let everything come out he'll surely leave u alone after that if he doesn't well let the authority get involved let them handle him
2007-09-05 04:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by darkangelbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull him to the side and give him a piece of your mind. Tell him you are to old to play anykind of childish games. Tell him to be a man and be with his wife and quit trying to play the field.
2007-09-05 04:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by tarat0710 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
file a claim at your HR office for harassment. Then talk to his wife - fill her in - she might think you have 'feelings' for him. Also talk to your husband - he should be actually the first one that you need to talk to, then the HR & his wife
Good luck to you, don't try to avoid the situation, it will only get worse.
2007-09-05 04:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by chris91068 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only as sick as his secrets.
I suggest next time he does it, just walk up to him and ask why he's looking at you . . try to do it when his wife is there, but anytime people are around is fine. Try to ask nicely . . after all, it's just a question that seeks the truth.
The truth shall set you free.
2007-09-05 04:46:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋