Marriage & Divorce - 23 August 2007

I need to file for divorce and don't know where to start?
Someone plese help!!
Thanks

2007-08-23 09:36:56 · 4 answers · asked by kam 1

My husband and I fight constantly. Many times it's small stuff, but sometimes I just don't think he "gets it" regarding finances. He spends money that we don't have on things for himself and justifies by saying it was "leftover from our vacation fund" (the vacation that put us about $4K in debt) or "it's something we both can use".

Another big issue is my weight. Recently, I made a comment that I wanted to lose weight. Instead of something like, "I'm behind you and will support you", he said there are things "I can't wear anymore and he misses that". It made me feel like a cow, which I'm not. I was a lot smaller at one time(after dieting and losing 60 lbs.), but I had an eating disorder that went along with that size. It scares me that I could get out of control with my eating once again. It seems as if he doesn't understand that fact. He pressured me to gain weight when I was skinny and now it seems he's holding it against me.

I'm frustrated and not sure what to do.

2007-08-23 09:33:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and i have been together for 15 years, married for 3. When we married i knew him and his past. Through out the years, he hasn screwed anyone that iknow of, but things that lead me to believe so. He comes home after work, no weird phonecalls, so i have no physical evidence. I have been faithful. Nothing for him not to trust me. He lies to me and others constantly. I cannot trust him. I love him with all my heart, but no longer know if I am in love with him. How do u know? I am considering laving, and for my own piece of mind id like to know how u know if u r still in love. From his past issues,i feel i dont want to live like this for the rest of my life. But then i have ppl in is fam that say i bail when things get bad and that marriage is something that needs to b worked on. We have issues, we talk about them, he changes for a bit then goes right back to the norm. I know im all over the place with this, but my mind has been not straight for a while now. HELP PLS

2007-08-23 09:22:22 · 10 answers · asked by mizchif2729 2

I found out 3 weeks ago that my husband was having an emotional affair with a girl across the country he met on a website. She is married too, 20 yrs old w/ a 2 yr old son. They both had a profile stating they were single, no kids etc. After talking to her for a month, they exchanged numbers and began texting each other daily. They eventually turned only into sexual conversations. She later told me (Ive talked to her) that after the text convos for a while he said he had one child (we have 2) and that I am his ex girlfriend and I found the cell phone bill and was asking questions. After catching him, he denied it of course, but after I threatened divorce he confessed everything. Now an important factor in this is, we have a great relationship, a great marriage, great sex life, we've only been married a year and a half, I stay home with our girls, I cook, clean, take care of EVERYTHING, in my eyes he had no reason to do this. And I am a very desirable woman. Men, help me out here!

2007-08-23 09:20:33 · 17 answers · asked by Janessa 4

can you guys give me a list of good marriage behavior and why do you think that is a good behavior for a loing lasting marriage/relationship...

thanks guys!

2007-08-23 08:57:12 · 10 answers · asked by mish_leigh_16 1

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2007-08-23 08:44:01 · 17 answers · asked by joeice345 1

My husbands ex girlfriend of some 6 months emailed him the other day asking how he is etc.

She has given him her home & mob phone number so they can catch up and meet up for a drink.

She is married too.

Is this harmless pleasentries or not?

Would you let your partner have his/her exs phone number?
My husband or the lady do not have children between them.


It's been a few years since they saw each other.
Also i'm not sure if her husband knows, and what about if my husband did call and her husband answered the phone, could she be using him to help her let her husband know she is not happy?

2007-08-23 08:42:36 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

One day I went for my regular massage but my massage therapist was on vacation so I choose a male massuer instead. This is my first time being massage by a male. I got aroused when he massage my inner thighs and breast.
Uncontrollable I begin holding his bottom and eventually I made him make love to me. In no time I frequently went to meet him and each visit we made love.
The problem is that I am a 28 year old recently married woman and I know what I did was wrong but I really can't resist the happy moments with him. On the other hand I don't want to leave my husband because I love him too. My husband is also a great lover in bed. Can someone tell me what should i do?

2007-08-23 08:40:18 · 18 answers · asked by glorious 1

I have a lovely husband and 3 beautiful children and another one on the way. My husband is very attentive, loving, complimentary etc and we do have a very nice life. I am a little insecure though and I have always made it clear that it would upset me if he looked at another woman. He tells me that he only has eyes for me and that he is really lucky to be with someone 10 years younger but I just hate it when he sees other attractive women in real life or pictures. He says that I have to accept that there are other attractive women in the world and that you can't help notice if someone is good looking, the same as you can't help but notice if someone is black, white, fat skinny etc but I just really struggle with the idea of him finding other women attractive. He also knows that I would hate him watching porn so he says that he wouldn't, but I know that before me he occasionally used to watch the odd movie and said that it was never about watching the women but the sex. what should i do

2007-08-23 08:37:19 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

About 3 weeks ago my husband told me he'd met his soulmate and when he looked at her she also knew he was 'the one'. He regrets telling me now and said it was only the drink talking and nothings ever happened between them. I am heartbroken but he's just carrying on like nothings been said. I can't seem to forget what he said and wonder if I will always feel like his second choice. I can't see my feelings about this changing also we haven't so much as kissed since. How can I get over this or am I fool for trying to?

2007-08-23 08:28:45 · 78 answers · asked by ilovemondays321 2

Like about A:
We have a serious emotional connection.
She has a sense of humor
She looks great
We are both philosophical in nature
Our value systems are similar (not necessarily compatible)
We have similar interests
Adaptable

Dislike about A:
She has had physical relationships in the past
Her family background is different from mine
She has a liberal upbringing (mine is more conservative)
Reasonably compatible goals and ambitions (less than B)

Like about B:
Similar family backgrounds
Both of us have conservative upbringing
Similar values (possibly compatible)
Compatible goals and ambitions

Dislike about B:
Doesn't look great
Not really connected emotionally
Reasonably compatible interests (less than A)

2007-08-23 08:27:49 · 58 answers · asked by gametime 1

I'm living with a man who claims that a notice was posted in the newspaper in Boluxi, MS. . .and since he didn't respond. . .his ex wife was able to legally divorce from him.

How can I confirm that?

How can I do it FAST?

Fory

2007-08-23 08:22:55 · 21 answers · asked by ? 3

My mum and dad always argue. And me and my dad have never got on. Sometimes i jus feel he never really wanted me around. He nags, moans, and never smiles at me, i can neve remember when we emotionally connect, thats possibly because we never do. I go round my bofriend or friends house and find things so happy it makes me want to cry. Iv even told my dad how unloved i feel. Well basically my mum cant take anymore , as her marriage is falling apart, they row aswell and now my mum has decided to break up. We stuck ina tricky situation with bills and debts and my dads walked out without telling us where he's going. Does it sound horrible when i say that i am happy hes gone? Hes my dad , shud i love him? Deep down i jus feel i really couldn't care, i feel like mayube things could get better. Should i feel guilty for this?
Any help wud b appreciated

2007-08-23 08:22:25 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 6 years and spawned 4 beautiful children. The problem is that I married for the worng reasons, and at a young age (18). I feel that I have been robbed of my youth, and my relationship is not progressing any more. I love my wife, but its not the same kind of love I had when I married her. I don't think I am attracted to her physically as I was once. I understand that having children does change your body, but we really don't have anything in common with each other to build a realtionship on.
I hear and see my friends, and they are always going on about the chicks that they have been going out with and the fun that they are having. I feel like I am missing out. Even when we do go out as a group of lads, I am the first one to go back home, as my missus has put a curfew on me, i.e. get back by 11 or else. I love my kids and will never hurt them, but is there a way I can get rid of this anger I am feeling, so hopefully I won't do something I regret ?

2007-08-23 08:18:32 · 26 answers · asked by dangermouse 2

I feel bad for my aunts new husband. All my aunt does is ***** all day about how a marrage is supposed to be a commitment, yet the husband works a 12 hour job and just wants to nap when he gets home.
They have a baby, and whatever suggestions the husband makes at my aunt, my aunt shreds his face with a wood chipper and says he is implying she does not know how to be a Mom. They argue all the time, and it usually ends with the husband sighing and shaking his head.
One time as they were walking inside, the husband grabbed me and said
"Listen kid, all women start out good, but NEVER GET MARRIED, or you'll end up like me!"
I was wondering if they will get a divorce...do you think so?
and what causes relationships to end up like this?

2007-08-23 08:15:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got married a year ago and kept my name, because we are having the ceremony/reception in 2 weeks so all our family can enjoy our happiness as well. (The first time was a court house marriage) So NOW I need to change my ssc, my drivers license, my name on my bank account, and I also need to get a dependant military ID and get registered for Tri-Care/DEERS ..... I have NO clue how to do any of this... my marriage license only has my maiden name on it, it does not have my new married name on it.... I have two weeks after the wedding (give or take) to get it all done... I have no idea where to start! I live in TEXAS-- Fort hood. Thanks everyone.....

2007-08-23 08:13:51 · 18 answers · asked by mrs.v 4

He admitted it after I found out & said he has always watched it since he was a kid. He knows it bugs me but he says it's normal. We don't have sex as often as we like because of kids, tired, etc. (we can go months at a time) And he says basically he's too lazy to make the effort to have sex with me (and too planned out if we set a date to do it) so he just watches it instead. I found out he's been spending up to $60/mth on sites. I know he has other e-mail addresses but, he refuses to give me the password so I can see what he's really looking at (he's ashamed). When he was a kid it was phone calls to girls. Then videos, then movies and Playboy, now the computer. I found a lot of videos he had downloaded on our computer when I was looking for some pictures of our kids to print. I was so po'd and hurt. He says it's not cheating (of course he'd say that) but how do I know it won't evolve into on-line sexual chats with other people?!? I am forcing him to go to counseling soon.Help!

2007-08-23 08:03:54 · 21 answers · asked by aloha 1

am happily married with a baby, but..
last night i dreamt abt this guy whom i used to work with, am asking him whether he is attracted to me, he says yes and we kiss, am not able to take this off my mind? what does this all mean ??

2007-08-23 08:03:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why does my sister think her life is all about herself? She told me she wants to get married with kids someday. Why does she have to be so selfish to not understand that I don't want her getting married because I don't want to be an uncle? Does she seriously think I have no feelings?

2007-08-23 08:02:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I appreciate all of your help and wanted to ask you a question.

How do you deal with comments from others about the kind of person that you are? My ex-husband keeps focusing on the fact that I was not "committed" and "loyal" in his eyes. I spoke to my father about this and he said that "I cannot be committed to anyone including myself." I did not know how to respond.

I start to think that maybe the problem was me and not my ex-husband entirely. If I had been more committed, maybe he would not be so controlling and rude.

Also, my ex-husband does not want my daughter and I to move into an apartment. He said that was the agreement when he sent her to me. He is asking her to take pics of everything in my storage to sell it so that the money can be used in for her instead. I am so confused.

I feel like why can't others adjust to their husbands and not me.

2007-08-23 07:56:53 · 3 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

Do you think it's a good idea to bring porn and sex toys into a marriage.

2007-08-23 07:50:59 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

To the married people, how did you propose marriage?

2007-08-23 07:44:56 · 9 answers · asked by Pumpkin 2

2007-08-23 07:42:44 · 40 answers · asked by Pumpkin 2

my dad has a girlfriend... and they are living together and are planning on getting married right after my parents get divorced... but my dad cant even pay the child support and he probly will go to jail in september.... and i dont even like his girlfriend! she is so rude to me! she yells at me all of the time... and she says mean things about my mom and half-sister... (my half-sister's dad died wen she was 7, but we have the same mom)

2007-08-23 07:42:31 · 10 answers · asked by Stephanie 4

to do on a weekend with your mate?
Night time or Daytime

2007-08-23 07:41:32 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is your idea of the "perfect wife?" What things can a wife do to be the best person she can be to her husband?

2007-08-23 07:41:11 · 18 answers · asked by allie s 1

He cheated on me an I found out, got mad but took him back (it wasnt the 1st time) an haven't gotten over it. I am very mean to him because he has never even so much as said SORRY or that he is thankful that I took him back.Its like he expects me to just forget about it.I moved out 3 months ago an just as soon as we moved out he moved in his parents, 19yr son an his sons 17yr girlfriend.I found that i cant make it with our 2 kids an no childsupport from him.I asked if we could come back an he told me NO!An its because I told him that if me an the kids come back that I want his son an his sons girlfriend to move out an so we can be a family.(His parents are not the problem I love them, an his son-its his sons girlfriend she is rude,lazy,an talks alot of crap).I have put up with alot from this man. He has 11 kids(THAT I LOVE) , 4 exs an is 10 years older than me (didnt know any of this til AFTER I fell in love).Should I just forget about them moving out and move back in? Or leave state?

2007-08-23 07:33:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married 6 years. We have a 5 year old son. We seem to fight over everything. Not now, but early on, our fights were sometimes even physical. Lately, I'm not even sure if I even love him anymore. I barely feel ANY sexual attraction to him at all. This obviously causes even more problems and fights. However, I recently saw an old boyfriend who happened to be in the place where I work. I was instantly attracted to him (nothing happened between us, we just talked for a few minutes). I have not felt like that with my husband for a VERY long time. My husband is a very good person and a great father. He can be very sweet and thoughtful WHEN he wants to. We have tried some online counseling and things like that, but we always fall back into the same pattern. I told him I want a separation. Am I just being ridiculous about this whole thing? Do other married people act like this?

2007-08-23 07:27:13 · 15 answers · asked by confusedgrlnnj 2

My fiance and I have been together for 2 years and like 2 months. We're lived together since March 2007. We are both young, I'm 18 and he's 21 and we're planning on starting school soon. I really want to be married to him, because I want to be able to call him mine, and I love him so much. We were going to get married June of 2008 but we didn't know if we were going to have the money. Should I push get married, or just wait until we know everything will be financially ok?

2007-08-23 07:26:30 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband asked for a divorce, and now my friends keep telling me to start moving on. It's only been about 2 months. Is it too soon? And would my husband be jealous if he saw me out with another man?

2007-08-23 07:24:29 · 16 answers · asked by Leaving on a jetplane 3