can you guys give me a list of good marriage behavior and why do you think that is a good behavior for a loing lasting marriage/relationship...
thanks guys!
2007-08-23 08:57:12 · 10 answers · asked by mish_leigh_16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try to talk the issues out, don't make it an arugment that you have to win. Leave your pride outside the door when you enter. The willingness to listen and love unconditionally. Above all repect each other and the relationship you share together.
2007-08-23 09:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It has to be a relationship between two independent individuals. People who know exactly who they are and what their needs are as well as the needs of their partner. In a successful relationship both partners work hard at meeting those needs. Your marriage becomes a team, you are together against the world. You owe each other your love, unquestionable loyalty and friendship. You need to learn to share your thoughts and your emotions with each other every day of your life. You will have arguments, because you came from two different backgrounds and had different life experiences. It has to be handled with respect ( no name calling, screaming , throwing things etc. ) for yourself and your partner. Don't ever go to bed angry, take care of your family's peace of mind. Make sure that there is no subject your partner can not discuss with you. Be his very best friend first. Share your responsibilities, and make it fun for each other. Get creative at anything concerning your family, make sure both of you want to be there for each other and for themselves.
2007-08-23 16:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love - obvious
Respect - again, obvious
Communication - b/c if you can't talk to your spouse you don't have a relationship worth anything
Honesty - obvious, but if it's not, why would you give yourself to s/one and then lie to them?
Compromise - s/times there will be s/thing he wants to do or watch or buy or whatever and she doesn't want to, well, compromise and figure out how both can be happy, there no need in indulging in s/thing to make yourself happy if your spouse is going to be unhappy about it. Try to make it a good thing for both.
2007-08-23 16:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsay G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty, love, understanding, support, trust, affection, consideration, compatibility, communication, compromise and effort to make each other happy. That is the material to a happily long lasting marriage.
2007-08-23 16:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually don't recommend books because I hate it when people recommend them to me, but I honestly wish I could buy "Love & Respect" for every married (and engaged) person I know. So try and hear me out...
It states that a woman's driving need is to feel loved and when she feels loved she feels happy. A man's driving need is to feel respect and when he feels respected he is happy. When a woman feels unloved she acts out disrespectfully to her husband, and when a man feels disrespected he acts out unloving towards his wife and the crazy cycle begins.
If this is setting off any light bulbs for you read on...
"I wrote this book out of desperation that was turned into inspiration. As a pastor, I counseled married couples and could not solve their problems. The major problem I heard from wives was, "He doesn't love me." Wives are made to love, want to love, and expect love. Many husbands fail to deliver. But as I kept studying Scripture and counseling couples, I finally saw the other half of the equation. Husbands weren't saying it much, but they were thinking, "She doesn't respect me." Husbands are made to be respected, want respect, and expect respect. Many wives fail to deliver. The result is that five out of ten marriages land in divorce court (and that includes evangelical Christians).
As I wrestled with the problem, I finally saw a connection: without love from him, she reacts without respect; without respect from her, he reacts without love. Around and around it goes. I call it the Crazy Cycle - marital craziness that has thousands of couples in its grip."
I am not even half-ways through the book and workbook, and while my husband is not studying the material with me it has already worked miracles in my no-longer-failing marriage.
If you do believe in God I highly recommend this biblically based book. It's not a "religious freak" book or anything but it's nice to know that it is based on things in the bible and not just some theory or pop psychology book, and it's been a #1 seller for over 2 years now... it's working for thousands of couples!
2007-08-27 08:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by THATgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long talks and surprises will help keep the communication going and the spark of the relationship alive
2007-08-23 16:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Treat your man like a King and you will be his Queen.
2007-08-23 16:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
love, respect, honesty, communication, understanding,
2007-08-23 16:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do as you're told
Put out on demand
Don't chatter on and on incessantly
Don't talk at all during football season
2007-08-23 16:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
love ,respect.
2007-08-23 16:02:51 · answer #10 · answered by shellysd 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋