My fiance and I have been together for 2 years and like 2 months. We're lived together since March 2007. We are both young, I'm 18 and he's 21 and we're planning on starting school soon. I really want to be married to him, because I want to be able to call him mine, and I love him so much. We were going to get married June of 2008 but we didn't know if we were going to have the money. Should I push get married, or just wait until we know everything will be financially ok?
2007-08-23 07:26:30 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldnt rush it. With school and all things may change. You never know...dont go digging into debt either.
2007-08-23 07:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It really all depends on you. Don't let anyone on here tell you, that you are too young, That is crap. I was 18 when I got married and I am still married to the same person and we have been married for 7 and half years. Now if money is an issue then if you chose to marry later so you can have everything that you want at your wedding there is nothing wrong with that or if you want to get married now that is fine too. You can go to school and be married, there are a lot of people out there doing just that!
2007-08-23 07:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by Hi 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why should you have to 'wait' until you know everything will be 'financially okay'? My husband and I were 'beyond flat broke' when we got married ... our whole wedding cost under $100 (and that was for a reception that fed over 50 people and was 'catered' by his friend, a chef' as his 'gift' to us, with us paying for the 'food') ... we've been homeless, and we now have a 'good income' ... but we KNOW that we are 'together forever and beyond' and are WILLING to 'be together' through 'thin times' as well as 'fat times' financially, in health or 'ill health' ... so if you are 'worried about the finances' enough to wonder if you should 'wait' or not wait, I think that perhaps you and your 'fiance' need to sit down and have a 'long talk' about your 'marriage' ... because 'finances' really should have 'nothing' to do with 'love' if the love is 'right' ... and it's BOTH OF YOU who need to make that decision, not just you or just him. BOTH of you. TOGETHER.
2007-08-23 07:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are already living together and there is no child to consider then I would wait. College allows you to meet all kinds of new people and experiance new things. This year of growing up will help you to decide if you really want to do your growing together with eachother or with someone else. As far as the money holding you back, I have news for you, there is hardly ever enough so don't think that there will be a perfect time. It never happens.
2007-08-23 07:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it from someone who got married at 16..wait. you have so much to do in your young life. You two will have plenty of time to say I do and to get married. Finish school get a good job. Make sure he does the same. Its important for a couple to both get on there feet mentally and financially before making such a big commitment so young. I think back now how much I wish I could of went away to college, went out with friends graduated traveled got a good job and saved so I wouldn't be just know at 32 going to college divorced from that young marraige and struggling with children on my own. And I missed out on all that not that I am complaining god gave me beautiful children, a new good job, and a grant to go to college. But my kids are getting older and I just wish I would have had more for them and to give them while they were growing before getting married and getting pregnant with them. And yes once your married that usually follows shortly. Please I know you love him but if you two love eachoter you both can wait and just be you and have fun and get financially secure.
2007-08-23 07:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would wait until you both have lived a little more.
looking back at myself when i was 18 i was soooo not ready to be married. i liked the idea and i talked about it with boyfriends, but i'm soooo glad that i waited until i was 25. the whole 21 thing with bars and friends and otherpeople......
even if you don't do it now, you'll wnat to do it at some point in your life and i think down the road you'll regret marrying so young.
just live together and declare your love to each other. he's yours, marriage doesn't change that.
2007-08-23 07:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's great that you're asking yourself these questions. Very mature of you. I'm sure you love each other very much, but it would be smartest to let that love grow for a while before you decide to get married. Even though you've been together for 2 years now, people change a lot as they get older. Stay together, enjoy your time with each other, and get married when you're more stable. Best of luck to you both :-)
2007-08-23 07:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by Vbonics 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is yours........are you in love? are you two a couple? are you living together? If so the only thing missing is a piece of paper. Waiting will definitely make it better, most relationship don't last because of money, or being apart. Don't chance it for a piece of paper. The timing will be right once your confident enough not to have to ask this question.
2007-08-23 07:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should absolutely wait. He is yours already, no need to rush. Even though you have been together for awhile, I think it is good to live together awhile too. You are young, so take your time. Start school as soon as possible, do this for YOU and him. June 2008, will be here before you know it. Finances are very very important, so please wait.
2007-08-23 09:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're already living together so wait. Since finances is one of the things many couples fight about, why not be sure you've got yours in order before you take the big step? You're either committed to each other or you aren't. An official piece of paper doesn't make him any more yours than he is now.
2007-08-23 07:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by stevijan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am ALWAYS an advocate of financial stability & security.
One of the BIGGEST factors in marital discord that almost always contributes to break-ups and/or divorces is financial hardship.
I would seriously recommend that you stand back and take a mature look at the situation. You are already mature enough to recognize that finances aren't great...stay on track, get your education, THEN get married.
2007-08-23 07:32:36 · answer #11 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋