Marriage & Divorce - 23 August 2007

so angry with me these treatments make me feel sick all the time anyone have any advise for me that would be great.

2007-08-23 07:15:24 · 15 answers · asked by julianneciechoski 2

I'm talking about the low-down kind. The kind of person that scrimps, cheats, saves, and takes from others while not giving of themselves.

There was this true story of a lady (not married and childless) who wore the same black dress everyday, and at the time of her death she was worth 500K which she gave to the Catholic Church and needy. Tell, me folks is it worth it to scrimp and save like this? Also, do cheap people have a hidden agenda for why they are cheap?

2007-08-23 07:02:33 · 16 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5

Listen i have this friend who i email he's going through a seperation and i'm married. Ok! i explained to this guy in the begining that i'm married. So he emails me saying he thinks i'm hot and when am i going to go to lunch with him and give him a massage. I always was serious with him, but this time i got creative to shut him up i said. "Ok! one day i'll make you an awesome dinner at your place and give you a message there. He emailed me back thinking that he would respond to what he wanted to hear he said" what about my two sons what am i supposed to do leave them and go out. Nah he said i'll stick with the going out to lunch and emailing each other. Its funny ladies or guys you tell a guy what they want to hear and they backoff. Maybe that will shut him up right. My curiousity is why did he back off to that offer now. When before he was hittin on me left and right. Not that i would go that far, i love my husband but i just wanted to see what this guy would say.What does this mean?

2007-08-23 06:58:38 · 19 answers · asked by Rain 4

I was going to give it another try with my ex...I put in for a transfer from one store to another and even gave my landlord 30 days. My ex came up to help me move back with him and then he hits me with this piece of paper asking me to sign over rights to our little one. I have custody and he has to pay child support...I was willing to drop the child support, but not give up custody of her b/c of how he can be. I have two other children (pre. relationship) and he wanted me to sign over rights to them as well. I didn't do either. Now I am fighting for my job back and have to move in with a friend. I know I did the right thing...as a mother, I did the right thing. He is also trying to be all "lovey dovey" now too. I just dont' get it. Why do men do these things? We have lived apart for 3 years....I was willing to give it a go b/c he kept telling me how much he missed me and wanted his family back...and then he does this. I am at a loss.......

2007-08-23 06:57:41 · 15 answers · asked by Latino Heat 4ever 5

My husband and I just had a baby girl 3 months ago. I feel like our marriage is slowly slipping away. I feel no attraction to him anymore, my hormones are all messed up, and I had postpartum depression, so I am gussing this is why. Also with a baby I am so tired at night I just dont want to have sex, I have no desire to be intimate with him at all, I know that is horrible. I love him dearly and want to know if any of you experianced this and how to make it better. Thanks!

2007-08-23 06:39:28 · 32 answers · asked by wondering 2

2007-08-23 06:30:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Time after time I see women asking,

"Why is my husband wanting sex more than once a month [when I'm not in the mood.]"

Time after time I see women answer:

"Who does he think he is? Does he think he can demand sex when you don't want it?"

"Sex isn't the glue that holds a marriage together!" those same women say.

I think the women who answer in this way probably have husbands who are 'cheating', or husbands who will one day cheat.

If a man needs frequent sex, but loves his wife and kids, he'll sometimes pick the lousy option. Same as a woman picks a lousy option by believing it's not important.

What a man 'should do' is a matter of conjecture. What he probably will actually do is a matter of near certainty.

Maybe it isn't 'right'? Maybe it isn't how it 'should be'?

But isn't accepting reality over wishful thinking sometimes preferable?

2007-08-23 06:18:50 · 25 answers · asked by Jack P 7

what if the ex girlfriend and your boyfriend IM each other about once a week and occasionally she removes clothes. Also your boyfriend has some videos and pictures of her from when they were together that he masturbates to and that the ex does not mind that he has kept. Keep in mind, she(the ex) is also in a relationship with someone else, and lives literally thousands of miles away in completely different time zones. How is this any worse than masturbating to Playboy magazines, or internet videos; would you also consider that cheating?

2007-08-23 06:16:42 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband like most can be an ***-no ones perfect but I constantly have his sense of feeling his arms around me, his lips, his scent what can I do to concentrate on something else- I could be focused on a project at work or my kids or anything else and yet he has to pop into my head.

2007-08-23 05:41:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have no money and will be on the street soon (he threw me out and only gave me 500 dollars.) I am scared and have no job yet because we just moved here so he could take a job. I have an abcessed tooth and can hardly chew so Im basically wasting away. Please I need good answers. Thanks.

2007-08-23 05:41:05 · 33 answers · asked by keanumc 1

my indian bf already separated with his wife for 5 years.
now we are planning to get married.
please tell me about indian muslim marriage rule, coz I don't want to have a problem someday if it's against the law.

2007-08-23 05:31:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

at the moment im working in a bank doing a job that i enjoy but i dont rush to work on a morning - basically i enjoy my work mates best. however, ive been married just over a year to a fab guy who i wish i could do more for. he earns in excess of £80k working as a self employed property developer and my income is rubbish so my contribution to the house is minimal.

i wish i could have a lovely tidy house; always have the clothes washing done and make nice meals every night but i physically cant as i dont have time.

my husband knows ive not been happy for a while and i was off ill for 2 weeks, last month and although i was ill, everything at home was perfect. therefore we were BOTH happy. he has a stressful job abd when he's finished a project he'd lv to relax abroad for a couple of weeks but we cant 'cos of my job.

is it "acceptable" to become a housewife when you dont have children? would people look down on me and think i was being lazy?

2007-08-23 05:22:30 · 25 answers · asked by Pretty Polly 1

1. They constantly accuse you of cheating (when you're not)
2. You discover that they have profiles on dating websites
3. You discover that they are still in love with an old flame
4. You are not able to be yourself around them
5. They text you to tell you that they're cheating
6. They tell you that you're crap in bed
7. They want a divorce after every argument
8. They suffer from mood swings

Please be honest and frank

2007-08-23 04:40:31 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been separated for 1 week and I need to get the rest of my stuff out of that apartment. He's informed the office to "watch out" for me because it would be trespassing if I came up there to get MY things. Do I have rights to go up there and get my things? There are things my 16 month old son needs, and I haven't been able to get the rest of my stuff because my mom has cancer and my brother has been sick. Can I call the police if he doesn't let me get my stuff out? We are still married, he can't do anything if I have a key and my stuff is still in there, can he?

2007-08-23 04:39:17 · 10 answers · asked by MomOf1boy 2

I think her (MIL) background is important to understanding her: She was adopted by a couple as an infant. She is their only child. Her adopted mother passed away a few years ago, and she has little to do with her dad. She became pregnant with my fiance (F) at a very young age, and raised my F without the help of her parents. Since my F was born she has been divorced five times, and married six. According to what my F and the MIL have told me, the five guys she divorced were all jerks who were totally abusive in one form or another. F is all MIL has; F is the only stable relationship she has, and she is neurotic about it.

MIL is constantly asking my F to do huge favors (do her college homework, help her while F is on vacay, bring a cell charger across town during rush hour). Talking about this is touchy for F, understandably. I want my F and I to compromise on how we politey deal with MIL, since MIL is obviously not changing. I don't want MIL to come 1st in my marriage to F.

2007-08-23 04:36:55 · 13 answers · asked by ? 2

My wife and I have had this long running dispute over her hugging and kissing other guys when we go out.

These aren't close friends just people that go to the same things we do.

She says she was brought up to give people a hug, but she also likes to kiss them on the cheek.

I said I don't mind the hugging part for ones we know better but lay off the kissing altogether.

To me that's only for family and really close friends.

What do others think, am I being too strict?

I know if I did it to other women she would be furious.

2007-08-23 04:35:11 · 18 answers · asked by PokerPlayer 2

What if you think you have stumbled onto evidence of a relationship that could ultimatlly indanger the entire family? Something that is so bizzarre that you yourself can't believe it could even happen on television?? I am currently writing down all the evidence I have that my wifes therapist could be either having an affair with her, or he is setting up dates for her with other men... Either way, if caught, he would lose his liscence. And the star wittness???? My wife.

My wife was diognosed with bi-polar disorder. I have read many articals and books on the subject, which makes me half dangerous! LOL I have too many facts to even try to put down in this....as a matter of fact, I have even thought of going to the police. But al I have is circumstantial. It would not hold up in court...unless....my wife testifies.Read my other questions for some background. Would you want to expose this scheme and endanger your existance, or leave it alone and kiss your wife goodbye?

2007-08-23 04:33:46 · 35 answers · asked by not for now 2

2007-08-23 04:30:17 · 19 answers · asked by myworldwillneverbewhatiexpected 2

My girfriend and I have been dating since last X-mas but, at the time she just got seperated from her x-husband. I didnt know at the time that she was married but finally told me that she just got legal seperation.

Now, she has brought up my name to her mother and family(a few days ago). I have never met them but, spoke to her older sister once over the phone.

Now, I feel that they don't like me because they think I'm the reason for their seperation. But, in actuality I had no hands in it at all. She has told that I had no part in their seperation because I didnt even exist at the time.

Her x-husband is a close family friend and of course favored by the family. Well, the situation just made me look really bad and i don't know what to do with her family. They are very conservative (chinese) people who basically made up their minds and most likely cannot be changed.

I need advice on how to deal with this type of situation please.

SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY PLEASE.

2007-08-23 04:30:14 · 10 answers · asked by Cerealkiller 2

My husband has cheated on me more than once (many times in fact). I know that he would give his life for mine and we will never divorce. I know that no matter who comes along we have a special bond that could never be replaced. We have been together since he was 18 and I was 26 (5 years now, I know big mistake). He tells me that he loves me but can a man cheat and still love you?

2007-08-23 04:28:51 · 12 answers · asked by allie s 1

your spouse looking at an ex boyfriend naked on the web cam? and she was on cam as well wearing lingeree? Here is most of the whole story... There is this man, who makes 400,000 a year working in a "plane tower" directing the planes as they come in. He buys his wife everything, and daughter too. She, however, spends some of that money on lingeree and shows her ex boyfriend this, on the web cam, and he strips for her, I think they do more than that... but, what would you do if you found your wife doing this when you came home from work early??? The ex boyfriend wants to see her in person, but, she says no, it can't go further than this. Does she not worry that her husband will probably dump her for even just doing this??? sigh... he works hard for her and she makes him look like a fool behind his back =(...

2007-08-23 04:22:19 · 59 answers · asked by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6

the hooker is 25 and my ex is 36

2007-08-23 04:19:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does your man drink beer or other alcohol on a regular basis. and if so are you worried that they will become an alcoholic?

2007-08-23 04:07:11 · 50 answers · asked by fiona t 4

i am fearful from the future,from financial problems that might occur,i don't want my future wife to feel betrayed ,don't want her to hate me for money problems,i want her to live comfortably and happy with me and not in misery,i love this girl,should i marry or not?
what shall i do?
please serious answers

2007-08-23 03:59:22 · 72 answers · asked by dan d 1

I'm a mature guy, married for many years but she stopped love-making when the dreaded menzies came along. Since then has never allowed me to touch, cuddle or fondle her, you name it, for the last twenty ( yes 20) years
She has gained a bit of weight, no real problem, and has the most fantastic boobs, I'm a boob man. But she won't discuss her problem go see a doctor, nothing. It drives me nuts.
Been searching for a lover for years but where do I look? I've been going out of my mind for someone to hold and be with a few hours. Don't want to leave her.

2007-08-23 03:59:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

we all get lonely but if we are not with right partner we are alone. relationship doesn,t work,

2007-08-23 03:44:23 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

A lot of people relate their morals / manners from their parents. Do you think people follow in their parent's footsteps? Such as if their parents are together, they feel they should 'make it work' with thier partner because their parents did. If their parents were divorced, they feel their marriage, relationship has little to no hope? Or if their mother was a stay at home mom and the dad was the main provider (financially), they feel this is the way they should live? Or do you think it's the opposite?

2007-08-23 03:44:17 · 30 answers · asked by Me 3

Child Support/Custody Battle.

My husbands kids are 9 & 12. They currently are under both parents supervision (shared parenting). However, their mom is talking about moving 2 hours away to take a job and fly across the crounty to do training....

This is a great time to take her for full custody, but she has money and so does her family, we are a low income family and still pay her support, what are the chances we will win?

2007-08-23 03:39:58 · 8 answers · asked by Kari S 3

Long story short. My mother passed away last week. My ex husband and I were married for over 17 yrs- so yes I knew he was going to be at the services. I didn't ask the man I have been seeing for 4 months to go because I knew the ex was going to be there. My boyfriend showed up at the wake anyway and sat next to me for a while, my ex glared at him the whole time. As my boyfriend, left my ex followed him outside and watched him leave. I know my ex is manipulative and that the reason he did that was to scare him off. He is confrontational and obsessive. I have moved on and want nothing to do w/him but we have 2 children together and unfortunately he is going to be in my life. My boyfriend is patient and the opposite. (reason I fell in love w/him) I feel that any more of my ex's scenes (this is the 2nd time he's done something like this) might drive this man away. I don't want to lose him.......but what can I do???

2007-08-23 03:36:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I got married two years ago and we have a great relationship. Lately we haven't been having sex - he works alot two jobs and that includes alot of nights. Even on vacation he told me he was wanted to have sex but never made a move.
I just think its weird - I haven't gained weight, we haven't been fighting and I don't feel comfortable initinating because I know he likes to.
I don't know what to do I can't figure it out- I also know he isn't cheating on me - (he doesn't have time...).
I have asked him about this and he says he is tired - but he said I should read about what we should do. so I gave him some articles that say to schedule sex if you are busy to make sure that bond is still there. Still nothing..

Any thoughts......

2007-08-23 03:32:59 · 73 answers · asked by Megsee25 3