How can mutual respect be regained?

Answer 1

With communication, hard-work and honesty--yes it can. But it takes immense effort on both sides.

Answer 2

it takes two, in every marriage, in every relationship. so if you're in a situation where the mutual respect has lost, first off you have to set a common ground on why you still want to stay with each other. let's just say the common ground is "love". try to discuss about positive things that have happened during the entire course of your marriage, maybe kids, the personal growth of each other and of the two of you, maybe the success of buying a nice house. reminisce on good times, and LOOK AT GOOD TIMES ONLY.

now that you are happy (or at least trying to be), begin to talk about why the respect has gone, was it infidelity, dishonesty, or other reason. let's say it's dishonesty, then you both make a resolution that from now on, you will try your best to be honest with each other, doesn't matter how hard it is. and stick to it.

things like respect is a very vague conception, you can only feel it, but you can't see it. slowly but sure if you stick to your resolution and during those times you look at good / positive things only, you will feel that the respect start to come again.

loosing mutual respect is a very fragile situation. so if you handle it even slightly wrong, you might end up running the risk of ruining the entire thing, so be very careful, keep your head clear and balanced, if you're religious do pray, and most of all, good luck to you.

Answer 3

Thru compromise and a THOROUGH understanding of each others position on things. Making sure life balances between the 2, communication, and being there for one another thru the sh!ttiest of situations.

Answer 4

I usually don't recommend books because I hate it when people recommend them to me, but I honestly wish I could buy "Love & Respect" for every married person I know.

It states that a woman's driving need is to feel loved and when she feels loved she feels happy. A man's driving need is to feel respect and when he feels respected he is happy. When a woman feels unloved she acts out disrespectfully to her husband, and when a man feels disrespected he acts out unlovingly towards his wife and the crazy cycle begins.

If this is setting off any light bulbs for you read on...

"I wrote this book out of desperation that was turned into inspiration. As a pastor, I counseled married couples and could not solve their problems. The major problem I heard from wives was, "He doesn't love me." Wives are made to love, want to love, and expect love. Many husbands fail to deliver. But as I kept studying Scripture and counseling couples, I finally saw the other half of the equation. Husbands weren't saying it much, but they were thinking, "She doesn't respect me." Husbands are made to be respected, want respect, and expect respect. Many wives fail to deliver. The result is that five out of ten marriages land in divorce court (and that includes evangelical Christians).

As I wrestled with the problem, I finally saw a connection: without love from him, she reacts without respect; without respect from her, he reacts without love. Around and around it goes. I call it the Crazy Cycle - marital craziness that has thousands of couples in its grip."

I am not even half-ways through the book and workbook, and while my husband is not studying the material with me it has already worked miracles in my no-longer-failing marriage.

If you do believe in God I highly recommend this biblically based book. It's not a "religious freak" book or anything but it's nice to know that it is based on things in the bible and not just some theory or pop psychology book, and it's been a #1 seller for over 2 years now... it's working for thousands of couples!

Answer 5

no definite answer.

depends on the 2 of you.

just be yourself and be real, open and trusting.

Answer 6

How was it lost?