My boyfriend broke up with me 5 days ago. I'm not looking for sympathy just answers.?

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I have no money and will be on the street soon (he threw me out and only gave me 500 dollars.) I am scared and have no job yet because we just moved here so he could take a job. I have an abcessed tooth and can hardly chew so Im basically wasting away. Please I need good answers. Thanks.

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S My boyfriend broke up with me 5 days ago. I'm not looking for sympathy just answers.?
I have no money and will be on the street soon (he threw me out and only gave me 500 dollars.) I am scared and have no job yet because we just moved here so he could take a job. I have an abcessed tooth and can hardly chew so Im basically wasting away. Please I need good answers. Thanks. Adding...I am 41 male. I am very distraught and scared. I have no family. We were together 3 years and his family were all I had.

I AM NOT A FEMALE... aND i DO NOT HAVE ANY FAMILY

Why did people stop answering when I said I was a male?

I am in orlando florida and to the person who said i dont have time to sit on the computer i am looking for a job.
thanks for everyones help please keep answering

Answer 1

first get a job...2nd find a dentist that will accept monthly payments...see if the local Y has a place you can stay for the next month while doing 1 and 2

Answer 2

Man or woman, you first need help financially and you need
your tooth fixed. So you need to go to the county welfare and
see if you can qualify for the state aid program. They should
give you temporary help.
You surely have job skills? See what jobs are listed in the
state employment office. Tell the welfare clerk that you are
looking for work, but that you've been supported all this time
and you need some temp help til you can find a job.
What about the gay clubs you went to? Can't you make
some contacts there? Spread the word among those you
might know, that you need work since you were kicked out.
And that you're willing to work for room and board and a
smaller paycheck til you get on your feet.
Find a job as a wait person, and then you can earn tips
the first day if you work hard at pleasing customers. Some
of the best waiters are gay because they seem to care if
they please people. I used to have a good friend who was
gay, by the way, and he was more trustworthy and caring
than any of my female friends. No kidding. I was glad to have
had the chance to know him and learn things from him that
way.
I don't know what type of work you qualify to do, but instead
of working on YA, Google for jobs in your city or look up the
newspaper there and search for jobs listed online. If you get
desparate enough, you will find a job. It might not be the one
you'd like the most, but something to put food in your mouth.
And that's another good thing about working in a restaurant.
You usually get a free meal there during your shift. So stop
feeling sorry for yourself. And do something rather than sit
and brood over your loss. By the way, if you've been thrown
out, where are you using the computer?
I just had an idea. Salvation Army has fully equipped dental
coaches that provide free dental care for those without ins.
They have one that visits our city twice a year. Inquire there
at their main office and see if they have one where you are.
And then tell them you need housing and food and a job.
Sometimes they put people to work for them who need it also.
They have programs that help alot of people. I know because
I once worked for them in one of their best stores.

Answer 3

Well if you have $500 bucks my first piece of advice would to go to the library, go online, and find the nearest Hostel to you. It's similar to a hotel, not as luxurious, but much cheaper. That will take care of a place to stay, showering, and probably breakfast. Secondly, you need to find a job. I'm not sure what you've done in the past, but at this point anything that will give you a paycheck will work. As far as your tooth, you might be able to find a dentist that will work with you or a dental clinic. (Again check online for those) If you hop to it and don't spend a lot of time lamenting the situation, you will be just fine. Best of luck!

Answer 4

Guy' stop and think. get a job, to get back on your feet. but do not waste your time, in worry. that will get you no where.

If you really want to get threw this, you need to lain things out. but, you do need to get your thoughts back together. I do not know how old you are, but stop with the, crying.

things are only, as bad as you will let it be. you are on your own now. this is how life really is. you need to try are hard as you can to pull threw this.

do not waste what money you have. you will need that for food, until you get a good job. then think about a room and other things, later. you can pull threw something like this. any one can, if they are strong, and have the ability to try.



but use this to go by:

(1) get a job
(2) soon as you get money. get a place to stay.
(3) work as much as you can. save all you make. (work late, when ever you can)
(4) when you feel you have enough money. buy some cloths. nice things. that will help you, to look nice for a better job, more pay.
(5). you should be able to say you have pulled threw now.

You will then be, own your on.

You may not see this now, but this experience will make you a stronger person. this seems as if it is something, that is meant to happen to you. maybe to help you grow up, I do not know. but I know, things like this happen for a reason.


Good Luck, and my thing be a lot better for you.

Answer 5

go back home or wherever your support system is. i'm not sure how old you are. if you're in your 30s or above, then you should have known better. if you're in your 20s, mom and dad will probably at least give you a place to stay while you find a job and get your tooth fixed. DON'T ask for a loan to stay in the town with the boyfriend. ask your parents if you can stay with them. present them with a timeline in which you plan to find a job and move out. realize, that the job you find might not be your dream job, but you have to start somewhere and it is easier to find a job when you have a job. don't be picky about your job prospects. the goal is to regain your independence and get back on your feet. remember what happened here, and don't make this same mistake in the future.

never move for a man. if that man isn't your husband, it is too easy for him to leave you on a whim with no financial or legal ramifications. plus, if you aren't married, then he hasn't made any commitment to you, but your moving shows that you have made a gigantic commitment to him and the relationship. that means you are more invested in him than he is willing to be in you. do not combine finances with someone you aren't married to and perhaps still keep a separate acct (not secret, separate) so that you have control of it.

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Answer 6

At 41 you need to have more than 500 dollars. Quit drinking as I know that is what your problem and if it is not that quit the drugs. Any one who is sober would have their lives pulled together by 41. About your abscessed tooth get a job and stay there for the three months it takes to get insurance. Get off your woh is me routine that you have pulled for many year and start doing for your self. Quit depending on others to bail your lazy *ss off. It is gays like you that make the rest want to puke. What a piss poor reason of a person. Life is what you make it and you have not made anything but crying that you have nothing. If I kicked you out I would have given you a boot in the *ss while driving 100 miles an hour down the freeway.

Answer 7

Try checking with unemployment or whatever they might have in Florida that can help, I know in Utah it is called Workforce services, and in Ohio and California it is called ONE Stop.
It is a government service to help people find employment, training for employment, and housing and even financial aid if U qualify, sometimes U can go to a church and they will help U out for a short time too, keep an open mind and don't give up! Definitely....try and take a lesson from this time in Ur life...for some reason it was meant to happen that way it is happening! Good Luck!!

Answer 8

First stop feeling as if the world is caving in on you. It is time to plan a quick move and use what you got. I am not saying sell yourself short or anything but you need to contact a friend or a relative and tell them the deal. You can bargin if you need too. I have 500 dollars and I need to get to safety. Can you help me and we will work an agreement to make sure that I get whatever back to you. If not, then you can contact a women's shelter and they can assist you. They can help you find living and a job if you are wanting enough. As for your tooth, you need to find the nearest comprehensive health care facility that can assist you at low to no cost to you. You need antibiotics so a doctor can assist you if you cannot get to a dentist. Plan Plan Plan. That is all you need to do. DO NOT make a move until you can make a move. If you just got to ask your ex dude to give you a few days to make it happen. It is not unreasonable to ask him because he took you along for the ride an dnow he is trying to unload. Do not make it easy. DO not fuss or argue about it or nothing just be calm and talk to him confidently and securely and assure him that you' ll be out of his hair shortly. Stay Strong! Best Wishes-MD

Answer 9

My suggestion is to find a job. Even if it isn't the sort of job you want to keep forever you must start somewhere. You could try places like Wal-mart, local grocery stores, convenient stores, mall shops, etc. It will at least bring in some money for you til you can find something better. Concentrate on getting your life back in order and forget about that guy. I know it will be hard but keep busy and stay focused. It will get easier as each day goes by. Good luck.

Answer 10

It is time to face life. That means from the 6 am till midnight your looking for a job. Don't spend money you don't have to. Look for a boarding house and rent a room. And stop acting like your the only person in the world who has a problem. Think there was a reason he threw you out. Maybe you need to change.

Answer 11

With your $500.00 try and find an inexpensive hotel to move into, one that charges a decent weekly or monthly rate, then get busy and look for a job, any job, even if you have to wash dishes or mow lawns. Also, would it be possible for any one in his family to help you during this time, or maybe a friend? I am sorry you are going through this and I do not understand the circumstances as to why he actually threw you out, but I do wish you well. Take care & God Bless!