Do children pick up habits from their parents?

Question

A lot of people relate their morals / manners from their parents. Do you think people follow in their parent's footsteps? Such as if their parents are together, they feel they should 'make it work' with thier partner because their parents did. If their parents were divorced, they feel their marriage, relationship has little to no hope? Or if their mother was a stay at home mom and the dad was the main provider (financially), they feel this is the way they should live? Or do you think it's the opposite?

Answer 1

Absolutely you pick up habits from your parents. I am a jokester and my little boy will do some of the same SILLY things that I do. My daughter makes up silly words and does silly little things that I do. I make the same "angry" face as my father. I go to church like my mother. I also stay at home with the kids because my mother did and it was wonderful.

You learn from your parents too. I do not drink, smoke, curse like my father. I would NEVER put my children through this. I chose a man that has the same principles that I do concerning this matter too. My Mom does what my father says. I go to the extreme on this to be different. If my husband were to EVER tell me that I cannot or will not do something, I would do it to PROVE to him that I would. I also find myself making decisions and telling my husband about the decision without including him, so perhaps I see part of my father coming out too............

Makes you THINK!

Answer 2

No. I still have some hope for getting married and having a good relationship even though my parents are divorced and i am divorced. I know its a billion ot 1 chance but im about 99% sure it will happen to me eventually.

I have a friend who is more jaded about men than i am (and thats kind of hard to believe because im still ranting about my ex) She has never been married and her parents have been married for 30 years and still hold hands.

My ex's parents were a traditional man goes to work, woman stays home family and my ex believes thats the way it should be but my grandmother and grandfather were like that also and their 3 daughters are successfull in their jobs while the sons never got married and arent doing too well financially.

My cousin is very career orriented while her sister and her sister in law are SAHMs.

Answer 3

A good parent takes thier own mistakes and try to show thier children ...do not make the same ...This is good communication . Although the apples do not fall not far from the tree ,the tree has many branches and the seeds are spread by the birds .:; the birds that fly free... experience life . We all make mistakes but the good things in life stay. We all take the good from those we love...and try to leave the bad behind....... Then sometimes we end up just like they did....and sometimes not!!

Answer 4

It could go either way. There are no absolutes in life. My mom wasn't a stay at home mom, but I am, my parents divorced when I was 8, but I have been happily married 8 years now, with no thought that it's ever going to end.
My husband's mom and dad divorced when he was 3, his dad was hardly ever around him and he really never had a male roll model, and my husband is an awesome father. His dad also never held down a job for long and my husband started my own business.
My husband's uncle was brought up with a christian up bringing, loving parents and was taught good values, but he tuned into a pot head that won't work. He sponges off of people for his survival.
We are all responsible for ourselves. You can have a crappy upbringing, but a great life, or a great up bringing and your life can be in the toilet.

Answer 5

There are basically two drivers in a human's behavior:

1. Genetical. Thr character of a person is driven by the genes of their parents. The character will determine how the person will interact with other people, no matter what experiences he had in the past.

2. Learned morals / manners. This has of course a big influence in a person's behavior and it's very hard to break patterns. People tend to repeat what they have seen and experienced in their home but it is not a determinant factor.

Answer 6

It's all indevidualistic. I know of alcoholic parents whos children see the affects of alcohol and the kids want nothing to do with it. Both I and the wife smoke. The non smoking government and radical anti smoker groups have brainwashed our 2 kids and they have been after us to quit since the oldest was 8. So that indicates to me that outside influences have more value to children than we thought. The early years, 6 mo to 6 years are the only time that parents have to instill their values on the kids. Take the kids out and they pick up attitudes and habits that run counter to the beliefs of the parents.

Answer 7

It is said....Manners begin at home and parents are the first educators of their children. While some children become like their parents, some others turn out to be different because they probably want to live life differently. We have to practise what we preach I guess. I've seen people who have come from broken families who don't want to continue the same way and they make things work for them because they don't want their children to go through what they went through. So, to answer your question....Yes and No.

Answer 8

My younest grandson walks like his dad, and has his mothers habit of when he is annoyed he puts his hands on his hips. She said my oldest grandson has one of my habits, I get very intense when working on an art project and I bite my tongue. She says he's doing that now when he's drawing. I guess those are ok. They could have picked up some that arent so good. Their fathers language, it's getting better now that they have a bad-word jar. It costs twenty-five cents for every bad word. The grandsons have only had to donate fifty cents each, my son-in-law is probably at $5.00 or a little more, my daughter is at $3.25. So they are working on the bad habits.

Answer 9

I know from experience that children learn by example. We are LARGELY influenced by our childhoods. That doesn't necessarily mean they grow up to repeat it. On the contrary, there are two types of people. A.) One that will repeat the cycle that was "done to them", and B.) one that will do everything in their power NOT to do what was done to them, and spend their whole lives trying to make it better. The interesting part, is I have not figured out how that part is determined. (Which ones will choose A, which ones will choose B) I had a really bad childhood. I chose B. I did NOT want to be anything like what I grew up in. My brothers however, sadly chose B. They are living up to the very low standards of what they were told they'd be (amount to). The choice is clearly up to the individual.

Answer 10

In my opinion many of the things parents do the children acquire as part of the characters but as they get older, some seem to take the good, and clean up the bad habits some of us parents have, and then their are others that live horrible and blame their parents only after they get themselves in trouble