Listen i have this friend who i email he's going through a seperation and i'm married. Ok! i explained to this guy in the begining that i'm married. So he emails me saying he thinks i'm hot and when am i going to go to lunch with him and give him a massage. I always was serious with him, but this time i got creative to shut him up i said. "Ok! one day i'll make you an awesome dinner at your place and give you a message there. He emailed me back thinking that he would respond to what he wanted to hear he said" what about my two sons what am i supposed to do leave them and go out. Nah he said i'll stick with the going out to lunch and emailing each other. Its funny ladies or guys you tell a guy what they want to hear and they backoff. Maybe that will shut him up right. My curiousity is why did he back off to that offer now. When before he was hittin on me left and right. Not that i would go that far, i love my husband but i just wanted to see what this guy would say.What does this mean?
2007-08-23 06:58:38 · 19 answers · asked by Rain 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He backed off because now he's waiting for you to keep your word. If you don't, he will be back at you, even more than before. And if you break his heart, don't be surprised if he tells your husband too.
Why are you leading him on? Why are you toying with him like that, especially since he's going through a separation? What kind of "friend" are you anyway?!
You shouldn't be emailing him in the first place, but you already know that, right?
Ever see the movie "fatal attraction"? If you don't do what you said, I see a rabbit stew in your future.
2007-08-23 07:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by Frinn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could mean that he is concerned about his kids and bringing someone new in their lives that might not stay. He could be very protective about his children and I would agree with him on that.
The next reason could be that he hasn't gotten a divorce or separation and wants a good time seeing that he clearly doesn't respect your marriage further more for his.
Lastly he could be concerned on taking baby steps or having second thoughts or even found someone else.
I would stay away from him because he is searching and you are not and you are on his wish list so far. Be faithful to your husband and love him more as time passes by.
Wish you the best
2007-08-23 14:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They like the chase. When I was engaged I worked in the office of a company that was primarily male. This one guy would not leave me alone. Every break he got he turned up in my office, he hit on me constantly. He knew I was engaged, knew I wasn't interested. This went on for about 2 years, I couldn't stand it anymore. One day I told him that I thought he was the sexiest thing I had every seen and that my fiance was coming in this weekend (he was out of town a lot) but would be gone the next and I would be all over him, we would go out, party, get a room... that done it. He knew he could have me if he wanted me and I was no fun anymore. Of course I wasn't serious because he was slimy as he!!.
2007-08-23 14:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by tan0301 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure because of what he is going through and is 'flirting' with you to prove to himself he still has it. Next time just say, "I think you are a great guy, and I'm sorry for what you are going through, but I'm not interested in cheating on my husband in any way." Just saying you are married is not saying to some people that you aren't available. I had a similar situation with a coworker, and it was clear he had low self-esteem because of his wife leaving him and he was overcompensating for it.
2007-08-23 14:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by Linda K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'r playing with fire, why should you be emailing to this guy and playing games just to see how he reacts? If your houseband knows about it you will regret it.
Besides I think you are trying to show to the rest here that you are such a serious woman and yet you are telling us that you answered to this guy like you did. If you were a serious lady who loved and respected your houseband you should have throw away this man's e-mail adress and never answer to him after his intentions (real or not).
2007-08-23 15:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by M. V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it means you shouldn't be emailing guys in the first place. you're married....he's not legally divorced? and what part of this whole thing sounded like a good idea to you? what would you do if your husband was doing this with another woman? seriously...grow up and get a conscience!
2007-08-23 14:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys like the chase.
2007-08-23 14:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
will the only thing u can say is plz and to leave me alone thats all u can say and say i dont like u i love my husbin more than u but we can be friends and or be rood to him or be sick to him if it works email me and tell me wats up withhim kk take care. rociopena97@yahoo.com please do u think we can be friends?
2007-08-23 14:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's still married and she lives with him...no separation. Going out is safer for him.
2007-08-23 14:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by extra_37 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He only wanted to call your bluff.Being creative as you are,you turned the tables and called his.
2007-08-23 14:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by yp_will_chicago_369 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋