so angry with me these treatments make me feel sick all the time anyone have any advise for me that would be great.
2007-08-23 07:15:24 · 15 answers · asked by julianneciechoski 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hes gonna have to brave it out and stand by your side.
2007-08-23 07:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mergler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand something here you are doing nothing wrong and you shouldn't have to get advise from people you don't know in order to find a way to please your husbands sexual appetite. Shame shame on him for even bringing it up and making you feel bad for not pleasing him. I'm really appalled at him and every other man who would expect sex under these conditions and there are many men who would. Not all men but enough thinks of one thing sex,sex,sex, my god where does it stop where do you men draw the line. His thoughts should be on getting you better and nothing else but that,yes he has needs but he also has a hand that can get the job done until you get better. Good luck Sweetie I hope everything works out for you. PS tell your husband he is a real a s s hole.
2007-08-23 17:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest a few options. Get some counseling and understand the anger. Find other creative ways to satisfy his intimate needs while your are sick. Be playful about it as much as you can. Men need playmates and they get very cranky when their wives are not fufilling that role. Unfortunately those expectations extend to us at times where we have trouble meeting them.
Get well first and foremost and I am so sorry he is acting this way with you. Do your best.
But...in sickness and in health, means we have to do our best.
Finally, although its contreversial. Have you considered another friend or partner that your husband could enjoy intimately and not behind your back? You could be present and it could actually strengthen the bond between you.
2007-08-23 17:16:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On a very personal note, there are other things you can do to satisfy his sexual needs. I hope my answer doesn't get bleeped, but a hand job or oral sex can be just as completing. Don't make it seem like a chore, tho it may be because your ill still. And then lay down with him afterwards and cuddle and take a nap. Sleep is what you'd like to do right now while your'e in treatment!!!!!
2007-08-23 14:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by zen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not fair. Your husband of all people should understand what you're going through. There's no reason for him to get angry with you over it. He needs to grow up and realize that what you're body is going through is 50 times worse than him not getting sex. He should be there for you during this time. Sit him down and talk to him. Tell him that you don't appreciate him getting angry with you when you're going through cancer treatment and just need him to be there for you.
You continue doing what's best for you. It's your health and your body. Best Wishes. :-)
2007-08-23 16:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by Peatea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get into some marriage counseling with him. He's focusing on his needs and ignoring yours. Sex in marriage is very important but so is understanding and respect. Those two things appear to be missing from his thinking right now. Best wishes to you.
2007-08-23 14:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, don't make excuses, your husband needs to grow up. you're sick with a disease that could kill you and he's more concerned about not having sex. i wouldn't touch you in anyway that was hurtful to you. maybe you need to re-evaluate your marriage and identify what your role is as a wife and a woman. husbands need to honor and respect their wives, you're not a sex toy for his pleasure only. take care of yourself, love yourself and i hope you'll be well soon.
2007-08-23 17:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Maybe your husband doesn't know how to handle his emotions over the fact that hus wife has cancer, and his way of dealing with it is by getting mad at you over the fact that you can't have sex right now?
You could smoke some pot to see if that helps your feeling sick and/or you could give him oral sex?
I don't know.. it sounds like he needs to talk to someone about his emotions. I am sure he is terrified and this is maybe his way of dealing with it.
2007-08-23 14:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Fist of all my heart goes out to you and your husband got married for better or worse. if you cant have sex then he must understand this. It makes you feel bad because you cant satisfy your husband needs. if he still truly love you than he can bear with it.
best of luck
2007-08-23 16:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about you r cancer I hope everything turns out ok, as far as your husband goes if he can't whack it and be there for you through this, then he's an a__hole
2007-08-23 14:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by Todd V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋