Am I about to in-danger our family????

Question

What if you think you have stumbled onto evidence of a relationship that could ultimatlly indanger the entire family? Something that is so bizzarre that you yourself can't believe it could even happen on television?? I am currently writing down all the evidence I have that my wifes therapist could be either having an affair with her, or he is setting up dates for her with other men... Either way, if caught, he would lose his liscence. And the star wittness???? My wife.

My wife was diognosed with bi-polar disorder. I have read many articals and books on the subject, which makes me half dangerous! LOL I have too many facts to even try to put down in this....as a matter of fact, I have even thought of going to the police. But al I have is circumstantial. It would not hold up in court...unless....my wife testifies.Read my other questions for some background. Would you want to expose this scheme and endanger your existance, or leave it alone and kiss your wife goodbye?

Sorry I can't spell!!! I have now set the privacy so you can read my other questions. If you email me, I will send you some disturbing information of the effects of bipolar disorder.

Some may think that I am paranoid....maybe....but I have revealled most of what's going on to MY therapist, and he thinks my conclusions are justified.

As for more evidence? I had tried to get that, but I could get in trouble for staulking(sp?) in this state, even though we are still married.

U asked how this all may endanger my family? This psychologist has lots of money...drives a 250k merecedes, and has everything to lose if caught with doing something illegal. So thanks to everyones replies. If I could get just one voice mail off my wifes cell phone with this guy giving her directions, I could nail him....She has been very careful erasing those messages, but the phone records show him calling her (on several occations) before she heads out the door. But she can't hide everything.....

One more thing... I have prayed to God that I am wrong on all of this. Bipolar disorder victims are suseptable to suicide, and in fact, my wife was hospitalized for that twice now. This therapist had been treating her for depression for a couple months before she ended up in a psych ward. And I guess it would be easy enouph to write me off as a over jealous husband, with a motive to off my wife.

This is what scares me. This therapist has my wife convinced that I am a threat to her and our children. He also has her convinced that I am a over controlling spouse, and that I have abused her emotionally, physically, and sexually. My wife is a prime target to be taken advantage of.

Who would suspect her of doing anything that she is doing??? After all, he has hypnotized her on several occations, had not charged her one penny since last October, and as soon as she quits seeing him , we get a bill for all their "sessions." He has contacted her several times on her cell!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

If your wife is bipolar then clearly her thought process is askew. The therapist, if what you say is true, is completely in the wrong and should be held liable for taking advantage of her and her condition.
I would seek legal advice and begin collecting as much evidence as you can. I realize that may be difficult if most of the evidence is circumstantial but write everything you know to this point down and continue taking notes on everything you see and hear.
Don't know if you've tried to talk to your wife about it or if it's even a good idea.
Hopefully your suspicions are incorrect but if they are not, the best of luck to you.

Answer 2

First of all I did not realize Doctors made daily phone calls to their patients.. I do not think he can Bill her unless there is Office Visits. You speak of your Wife's disorder, but why are you seeing a therapist? Can your Mind be playing Tricks on You? If you are unable to look at your Wife's phone, how do you know her Therapist is calling her? Maybe its another Man and shes using her Therapist as an Excuse? Instead of driving yourself Nuts over something you obviously cannot control, it would be best if you and your Wife went your separate ways. You Both have issues and they do not seem to be working out, with you Both together..

Answer 3

I'd say your family was already in danger. So the next step would be to do what it took (legally) to get your family to safety. I don't know anything about bi-polar conditions, but I would consider your wife as a possible victim in all this. After all, her therapist is the one at fault for taking advantage of the situation and overstepping that boundary. See a lawyer or talk to your doctor and see what options are available to you. Consider what is your main objective. Is it to help your wife and family or is it to punish this therapist and your wife? I wish you and your family the best. This is not going to be any easy road which ever path you take.

Answer 4

Your questions are "private" so no one can read your prior questions....

From what you have said on here....it sounds to me like you might need some mental help yourself. You sound paranoid or either you are very gullable and believe everything your wife tells you.

I really feel sorry for your kids....

Here is some advice, stop feeling sorry for yourself and get some balls and make your life better, don't blame your wife for spending your money, you shouldn't have let a bipolar, drug addicted wife have access to it in the first place. Be a man and make a better life for your kids before something more serious happens.

Everything is in your control and YOU have allowed all of this to happen.

Answer 5

Have you asked your wife what is going on? What if you got it wrong? - With the evidence you say you have you can do 1 thing: Employ a private detective to get the evidence for you need then approach medical board and police. It could well be that the treatment that is being given to your wife is not right allowing her to be taken advantage of. If she is the willing partner in crime and the therapist is involved - then they get what they deserved

Answer 6

That's a crazy situation, being that I dont know your wife's personality, you have to decide would it be in her character to do something like that? if so then yea look into it but dont go to hard so if it comes back that shes not doing anything wrong you dont sketchy or bad, if you start to catch onto things then dig a little deeper into her where abouts. Other than that if you feel like your wife wouldnt do something like cheat on you then go with your instinct and let it all go, maybe you're just being paranoid about the situation?

Answer 7

It sounds to me like you are surrounded by dysfunction. EVERYWHERE!!!! Monetarily, emotionally, spiritually.....the list goes on. Read some things about spousal abuse...you are a victim of emotional abuse, no question in my mind about it. Your self worth has been diminished to the point that you are a walking puppet it seems. Of course you should report this doctor. The board will conduct investigations....this is serious. She is spending all of your money, seemingly demanding more and more, i am certain from the sounds of things that your time isn't at all for you in any shape or form at this point. Your primary focus is her. This is very, very bad. You need to take some steps to recognize the damage that is being done to YOU. Take care of YOU and then you will be better equipped to handle this nightmare you call your life.

Answer 8

I guess I would have to say, why are you letting your wife do these things? Does she know that you know? I would do both, kiss your wife goodbye and expose the therapist! If your wife is doing this, to me she isn't in love with you as you think she is, even if she has bi-polar disorder or not.

Answer 9

Can't read background as your Q&As are Private. How would exposing the doctor endanger your existence any more than just leaving your wife? If he is doing things like this, he needs to be stopped.

Answer 10

I say take what you know and run with it, you need to move on and get yourself emotionall, physically, and financially back on track. She might or might not be doing what you think, but with the surrounding circumstances with money, and pills, and the bipolar issue I think you are making a big mistake to try to wait it out. You also have to think about the children, how are they making out through all of this. Take the kids and move on before you are hurt any more.