My husband has cheated on me more than once (many times in fact). I know that he would give his life for mine and we will never divorce. I know that no matter who comes along we have a special bond that could never be replaced. We have been together since he was 18 and I was 26 (5 years now, I know big mistake). He tells me that he loves me but can a man cheat and still love you?
2007-08-23 04:28:51 · 12 answers · asked by allie s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. You can look at this situation in different ways. Cheating in my opinion is really wrong and hurtful. It shows many things like self centeredness, no respect for their partner....however when a guy is 18 there are many things that they haven't experienced. Most guys need to work through the spice of life so to speak before they settle down. Apparently you guy wasn't ready to settle down. I believe that he probably loves you, however - is this what you want?
2007-08-23 04:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could not honestly answer because if a guy cheated on me which has happened before I met my husband I did not sick around I dumped him that is why he is my ex boyfriend. If my husband cheated on me I would not be taking it as well as you are and to be honest I don't know what I would do as no one can give you an honest answer unless they are in that situation but, I can say if it was more then once I would be gone as what is the point of being married?
Have some self love and respect, no one should be a door mat. If he has done this more then once he is making a jerk out of you.
2007-08-23 11:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you accepting this ridiculous behavior from your husband? Why did you get married?
I don't know if he loves you or not but he certainly doesn't respect you, the marriage or him self. I would suggest that you really figure out if this is the kind of marriage you want to be in the rest of your life.
Don't settle! If you're okay with an open marriage then go with that. That means you can do what ever the hell you want to too! If not, then you need to make that clear to him that you don't want him cheating, take a stands for your self and DON"T SETTLE!!!!
2007-08-23 11:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by honeyb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. nor does he have any respect for himself.
he is a cheat on all levels. get away.
your only in to the relationship for 5 years.
when there is a cheat involved, there is no trust.
if there is no trust, no relationship can survive.
my ex wife was a cheat. very disappointing. but i am happy i am away from a woman who could not be trusted.I'd Rather Be alone for the rest of my life than live with a cheater.
who knows what else they cheat on.
2007-08-23 11:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by Stingray 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can. This is not a popular answer because women think that I am being a male chauvinist pig, but it really goes for both men and women. It goes back to whether or not a person believes that sex and love are two different things. Sex can be an act of love, but it doesn't have to be. Its probably a bad analogy, but if you are playing someone one-on-one in basketball everyday, eventually you want to play someone else. Not just men either...women do it too.
2007-08-23 12:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u sure he is not cheating because u are so dumb. he loves u are u crazy. i don't think u know what love is. bond could also be a friend but a life partner there ain't no god damn bond if he cheats to u then u guys bond and get stronger then he cheats on u again. i hope one day u wll be able to walk away. god bless u
2007-08-23 11:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think someone can cheat and still be in love....If he did, he would not do what he is doing! Why do you want to be treated that way? He might love you, but he is not in love with you. He is doing you wrong!
2007-08-23 12:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its seems like you have figured it all out and that you are ok with him sleeping around. If the question is about love, yes he might love you but he DEFINITELY does not respect you ,himself or your marriage.
2007-08-23 11:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO I don't think so!!! he loves the easy life to have a house, a cleaner, a cook, that it is why he will give his life for you, you are cheap worker for him. I'm sorry for you, Dump the crap!
2007-08-23 12:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by brasil 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not love and you are old enough to know that. If you like being his doormat then be my guest and stay with him. If you have an ounce of respect for yourself then kick him to the curb..........
2007-08-23 11:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋