Is it best be alone than in abusive relationship.because your alone anyway .?

Question

we all get lonely but if we are not with right partner we are alone. relationship doesn,t work,

Answer 1

The answer to this seems quite obvious and I'm not sure why you would have to ask. Anyone that stays in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship is sad and far more lonely than a lone person could ever be. People should be in and stay in relationships for the right reasons (love,trust, happiness), if there aren't any right/good reasons then there shouldn't be a relationship.

Answer 2

YES. We all know that being alone is no fun and can be very depressing at times but it beats getting abused. I was married for 17 years with two daughters and my husband beat me frequently. I left the marriage with 5 broken bones and many memories and years of abuse. When I filed for divorce and moved into an apartment it was the first time I had ever lived on my own as an adult. I was scared to death that I would not be able to do it, financially or emotionally. Now it is 8 years later and I am doing great. I have a husband that I love very much and is not abusive at all. I also have a life that I always dreamed of when I was a little girl. No one has the right to abusive another human being. Get out while the getting is good and although it might seem that you can not make it. In the end you will be happier and you will be a stronger person. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

I got out of a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship a few years ago. My life is more peaceful, happier, and I am learning a lot about myself - good stuff.

Yes, I am sometimes lonely. On the other hand, I've learned to enjoy "alone time." And I have a circle of dear friends - old and new - that helps a whole lot.

And looking back - even when I was in the relationship, I spent a lot of time being lonely. And hopeless.

Now I have hope, and look forward to years of a much better life. You can too!

Answer 4

Staying in any abusive relationship only lowers one's self esteem and makes them unhappy. If you can't be happy alone then you have other problems. You have to love yourself before you could ever truly love someone else. So yeah it is scary being alone but at least I would know that I am not treated like a piece of crap and then you have the chance to go out with some friends meet someone new that is actually worth your time.
Or you could stay let the abuse get worse and then be in a worse situation then you already are.

Answer 5

Its best to be on your own than be in an abusive relationship. I stayed in my marriage for 17yrs rather than be alone and I stayed for the kids sake too. But my husband was never good at intimacy, I couldn't trust him after he had an affair and he's addicted to porn which made me feel even more alone. He even hit me once when I argued with him about his girlfriend. The last straw was he had began to get rough with our oldest son (15 yrs old) about school issues--grabbing him around the neck to intimidate him. One month ago he finally moved out.

Sure, I have my bad days when I feel alone but I also feel free from the emotional abuse, the constant worrying and the lack of trust. Life is less stressful now than "sleeping with the enemy". You don't have to be alone, you can find someone who will respect and cherish you. Value yourself first though, above all others. If you begin to honor yourself everything else will fall into place.

Answer 6

Use your head sweet heart. Yes, it is so much better to be alone than in an abusive relationship. Take it from someone who has been there.
I was in an abusive relationship for 3 1/2 years. I was afraid to leave because i was scared to be alone so i stayed up put up with the abuse. I was put into the hospital 3 times, he had broke my ribs, broke my nose, bruised my internal organs, stabbed me with a knife, dislocated my shoulder on 4 seperate occasions and fractured my wrist and so forth, i still stayed with him because i thought being alone was going to be worse. Finally one night he came home buzzed, he started hitting me with a bat and then..he hit my dam sister. right then and there i'd had enough. I kicked him as hard as i could, i grabbed that bat and i called the police. He was put in prison and i had gotten my life back. I couldn't tell you how happy i was, yes i did feel bad because even though he hit me i still loved him but i moved on, i fixed my life, i rekindled the relationship with my family, i met a wonderful man, we married and our first child is going to be born next month. I have never been happier, my husband is the sweetest man ever and my life is just great.
If your in an abusive relationship, get out befor it gets worse, befor he ends up killing you.
You never know what lies ahead of you.
I never once thought i would be as happy as i am today!
You could too...
good luck!

Answer 7

Would you rather be alone and healthy - metally, physically, and psychologically - or with someone (who obviously doesn't love you) and constantly get hit, yelled at, and ridiculed?

People abuse others to feel powerful. Abusers don't love the person they are with, they are with them because they see them as weaker and insignificant and take advantage of them.

I would much rather be alone, healthy, and happy, then be stuck in a loveless relationship that did nothing to further my well-being.

Answer 8

Why does everyone associate being alone with being lonely. It is the best time for personal growth. Getting a better understand of who you are. I treasured the time I had alone.

Answer 9

It's always better to be alone and lonely than in a relationship, lonely and abused.

Sheesh.

Answer 10

You don't have to be alone. I'm sure you will find someone who loves you for what you are and remember not everybody is in an abusive relationship.The abuser should be left alone not the victim. Good luck.