Marriage & Divorce - 23 August 2007

i'm sick of him being up my butt 24/7. we need to have some space. i've been encouraging him to hang out with the divorce` next door, but he won't budge. i want to drink beer with my friends during the day and he is cramping my style.

2007-08-23 17:45:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been dating a German man long-distance for 2 yrs and we see each other very frequently, in Germany, the US, and we travel very often. He is now moving to the US to be with me and we have talked about marriage. Amazing man and the one I love.

However, he has a 5-yr-old child from an ex-girlfriend who got pregnant against his wishes. To him, this child is an accident. He pays child support and plays with his child but he says when we start our own family, we will be the real family he cares for.

This is incredibly difficult for me because I know it is not his mistake that he has this child, it's because of a crazy Ex...but I don't want the child to visit the US often (which he is OK with) and I don't want my future children to meet him. I wish that our children would be his only children. The child lives with the Ex and the father sees him every few weeks. Am I being wrong and selfish here? Or is it normal to react like this in this situation?

2007-08-23 17:29:09 · 23 answers · asked by lemansgts12987 1

If your child's mother/father was a good parent, but couldn't afford to financially provide anything in the way of child support...would you still let them see the child, or would you tell them that if they couldn't pay...they had to stay away?

(this is a debate I was having with a couple friends of mine, and I'm undecided on what I would do...I'm interested in hearing other people's opinions and reasoning)...

2007-08-23 17:18:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-23 16:50:59 · 33 answers · asked by mariaaa 2

My 15 year old daughter lived with her daughter up until a few weeks ago in another state. He moved due to job reasons. We divorced about 5 years ago.

She came to stay with me in the summer with the hope that her Dad and I would get back together.

However, I still feel that he is controlling and micromanages each issue. He can also be verbally mean.

He has asked me sell my furniture items in storage. I said these are my things, don't worry about them. He said "You still have not changed and still think in terms of I and we."

I feel like if I go back and live with my ex-husband again, I will be stifled and not have the freedom to live and grow.

Yet, my daughter is not happy with me here since I still live with my parents.

I want to do what pleases her. But, I don't want to sacrifice the rest of my life.

2007-08-23 16:47:21 · 13 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

I'm looking for some words of encouragement right now as I am feeling weak and I need some strength! Long story short - Was with b/f for 3 years, have a 3 month baby together, found out he was cheating on me with at least 2 different girls, now we're apart. He works out of town for 3 weeks out of the month but is back in town tonight. A friend of his decides to tell me my ex is seeing someone new. I don't want to hear that. I just want to know what are the chances he's going to hurt her too. Apparently he has a history of cheating on all his girlfriends but it feels like he's getting away with what he's done to me and his baby girl. I know the best revenge is to go on and be happy and believe me I want nothing more than to forget him...Am I selfish to not want him to be happy? Do things that go around really come around?

2007-08-23 16:44:42 · 24 answers · asked by J-doll 1

my mom is getting married to a guy that i dont really like... it aint that he is a bad guy because he is awesome but my mom is 33 and he is 24... now i dont hate him but what should i do do try adn enjoy his company a little but more

2007-08-23 16:38:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

he yells at her, won't let her leave the house and took away her credit card, he treats her like **** and i he hit her a few times, i saw him do it once thats how i found out. It made me soo mad. But my sister asked not to tell my parents, she knows that if my parents get involved that they will definately get a divorce, but she has a 1 year old, and she doesn't know what to do. She's so unhappy and her in laws are doing everything in their power to make it worse. She cries every day thinking she made the biggest mistake of her life, and she's only 23. I don't know what to do, im afraid to bring it up and ask her if she wants to tell our parents because i don't want to remind her and make her even more unhappy. Im really in a pickle and i don't know what to do. What do you guys think?

2007-08-23 16:23:04 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My best friends parents are seperated, and i'm not really sure what to do to help them. they never want to talk about it, but today they said they don't think i even care. i really do care, but i don't know how to show them that i care. i know their going through a rough time, but i'm not sure what i can do to make it better! help me please

2007-08-23 16:21:04 · 5 answers · asked by ME 1

My husband feels like he is only needed for his paycheck. While it is true that his income is a major contributor in the household and we couldn't make it if he did not work, I wonder if I do too much. A list of my responsibilities in the home: clean, cook his lunch and supper on his workdays, take care of 3 kids, take care of the pets, do the laundry, take out the trash, buy the groceries, take the kids to their appts, foot the bill on everything extra that is not in our budget, study for school, take the two oldest to school and pick them up every day, run all the errands when needed, buy all the kids clothes and supplies for school. The list could go on and on. I wonder, do you think he is only good for a paycheck because he doesn't do anything else in the family? He gets up, takes care of his toiletries, eats, gets his stuff together and goes to work. On off days, I have to get myself and all 3 kids dressed and the diaperbag packed so we can go out. How do I get him to help?

2007-08-23 16:12:45 · 22 answers · asked by rhainnedroppe 3

While working out of town, my wife and I were both having affairs. We both found out about each others wrong doings about the same time. We fought made up and I quit my job to come home to save our marriage. I moved home to find out she is still talking to the other guy. We are now separated, I tell her that I am willing to do anything to make our relationship work. She says she cant get over what I did to her. What should I do to try to fix this? We were both at fault but she puts all the blame on me.

2007-08-23 16:06:58 · 21 answers · asked by pie-boy 1

Here is the deal. I am a married woman who has a female friend that I know would be willing to have a romantic/serious relationship with both my husband and me. I really want to do this. I am sure that he is generally ok with the idea so long as he is confident that he will still be able to spend ample time with me (not necessarily in a sexual context). He is excited about getting to see me with another woman. I am too. I am also excited about getting to see him with her. For those of you who have experience with this, do you have any advice, suggestions, horror stories, success stories, warnings, etc.?

Thanks, Kat

2007-08-23 16:04:39 · 17 answers · asked by Katrina 1

2007-08-23 16:02:35 · 18 answers · asked by Armando A 1

My husband works second shift from 3pm to 1am (sometimes 3am) Monday through Thursday. I work on Saturday and Sunday from 7a-7p both days. Our only day together is Friday, which is our "gotta get everything done" day. We have 3 small children ages 7, 5, and 11 months. How can we find time to have a love life? I have to sleep so I can take care of the kids, take them to school, etc. He stays up half the night because he says he needs "wind down" time. He doesn't get up until 12:40pm every day. I had a previous question about his porn addiction. One of the answers was maybe I was frigid and controlling. So do tell me where do I get the time to make him perfectly happy in the bedroom?

2007-08-23 15:43:06 · 12 answers · asked by rhainnedroppe 3

No I am not married. My guy friend is having marital problems, and I can tell he is thinking about that other grass. How normal is this, he has been married for about 9 years.

2007-08-23 15:32:20 · 19 answers · asked by LuvinLos 5

I love her, but she has been having an affair since May. I think it will die out, but I don't know how long that will take. She has talked to the guy on the phone for two years, but they just became "romantic" in May. She says she isn't sure if she wants a divorce or not. We've been married for 13 years and I want to stay married. But I can't just look the other way. Should I give her a few more months, for instance?

2007-08-23 15:10:36 · 95 answers · asked by Anonymous

he has primary custody . she gets every other weekend etc . they did divorce & make a settlement . he continues to ask her to sign away parental rights , and to tell these children goodbye . he calls a lot to annoy /harass . he wont do stupid threats but .....he knows how to push her buttons . she has suffered from mental illness . she is doing very well with therapy and medication . she is /has been diagnosed as depressed. initially she was diagnosed as bi polar on discharge from a mental hospital . a forensic psychiatrist saw her and was able to determine she was depressed and not bi polar . his testimony is what helped her to be allowed see these children . ohh yeah a lot of this was brought on by the traumatic loss of her vision , she had surgeries and anti rejection meds . mental ilness showed up later . side effects of meds ? the s-i-l knows he can say stuff to cripple her . she is strong .but it gets to her . she does have good therapy . she needs apro bonolawyer in dallas

2007-08-23 14:48:33 · 20 answers · asked by Mark H 2

Sounds like a sham of a yahoo question but its not. I'm really interested. I want to marry this girl because she is so sweet and kind. However there is an age, experience and intelligence gap. Its pretty substantial. I do feel compatible when with her but sometimes I am amazed/dumbfounded by let's say, her level of not comprehending something that seems pretty elementary and basic.

Was your marriage like that? Is it still going ok? I am scared because this is number 2 for me and number one had her own shortcomings.

2007-08-23 14:47:05 · 24 answers · asked by Delay 5

me and my husband bougth our own house, then came my mother in law , loosing her job made my husband decide for her to live with us. I definitely can`t get along with her we have lots of opposite ideas because of the fact that I'm a foreigner .

2007-08-23 14:42:11 · 9 answers · asked by TRE 1

2007-08-23 14:38:09 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

or a foursome? I have done both a few times and loved it . how many of you out their have done it and loved it?

2007-08-23 14:37:57 · 16 answers · asked by butterfly41281 3

Do you know can my new husband adopt my son without his biological father's permission?

2007-08-23 14:32:19 · 8 answers · asked by Samantha 3

My parents fight constantly and my mom keeps talking about divorce. my brother is only 9 and he doesnt know what is going on. how do i make the fighting stop or if divorce happens how do i cope with it

2007-08-23 14:25:36 · 13 answers · asked by craftin_crazy12 1

and decided to keep the child? any regrets?

2007-08-23 14:22:39 · 11 answers · asked by Danu 6

Is there some type of temp guardianship papers i can obtain so a relative will be able to register her in school, i wont be leaving for another 6 months, so it would only be for a short time.

2007-08-23 14:21:35 · 2 answers · asked by ladybea1970 1

I had a friend that I can no longer talk to because of the life she chose as a mistress. This has been going on for 3 years. I have never met the boyfriend due to our long distance relationship. But came across the wife online due to common interest. I have access to her email and am so close to emailing her to follow her husband or hire a private investigator. The couple has 2 school age kids. I don't want to ruin the wifes life but I think enough is enough.

Please tell me why I should or shouldn't contact her and if I should what should I say so she doesn't go to her husband?

2007-08-23 14:16:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married 4 about 12 yrs and we have really nothing left but I care about what he is doing knowing he has been doing it (cheating) 4 along time how do I just LET HIM GO!!!!!!!!

2007-08-23 14:08:59 · 11 answers · asked by luvin2hard 1

There was no major problems, ie. Violence, Cheating, etc. Just a lot of smaller issues. I believe I was wrong and understand that now. I was hoping to pray to a specific Saint for our reconciliation. And maybe you could pray for us too? Any help would be great. thanks

2007-08-23 14:06:06 · 19 answers · asked by bosco_industries 2

WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU WERE MARRIED TO THiS MAN?
HE IS AN OBITCHAL (CAN'T SPELL IT) LIAR
HE IS 47 YEARS OLD
HE PEES IN THE BED
HE HASNT BRUSHED HIS TEETH IN 30 YEARS
HE LOOKS UP UNUSAUL PORN
HE TALKS ABOUT PEOPLE BEHIND THEIR BACK
HE PICKS HIS NOSE AND HIS FACE AND ROLLS IT
HE THROWS DIRTY DIAPERS UNDER THE BED AFTER HE PEES IN THEM
HE SMOKES 4 PACKS OF CIGARETTES A DAY
HE DRINKS 3 POTS OF COFFEE A DAY

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20 minutes ago
YES.. I PROMISE ON MY LEFT PINKY TOE THIS IS TRUE...MY MOM IS MARRIED TO THIS MAN... HE IS MY STEP DAD

16 minutes ago
BETTER YET, MY MOM MARRIED HIM TWICE

2007-08-23 14:02:14 · 22 answers · asked by yahoocraze 3

Four years weve have been together it hasent been easy but I have stuck in thier because I had feelings more like love but thru the bumps and bruses I have tried to stick it out buy being respectfull and faithful, even when some one says that they dont want you I still stayed but after buying a ring and asking her to marry me she says yes but dose she really mean it. and things are still the same whats a man to do walk out on his family never me i swore I really wanted this to work but between diferent men and alcholic and a very unstable relationship I guess its enough Ive tried to walk but always end up back here but things arent changeing although she says that whe loves me i dont feel it. how much should I take before I walk its seem to be the hardest decesion of my life this is not my first but i wanted it to be my last. WHAT NEXT

2007-08-23 13:59:47 · 6 answers · asked by CJ 2