I have been married 4 about 12 yrs and we have really nothing left but I care about what he is doing knowing he has been doing it (cheating) 4 along time how do I just LET HIM GO!!!!!!!!
2007-08-23 14:08:59 · 11 answers · asked by luvin2hard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is very difficult to get him out of your "system" or body. In marriage yo become flesh of his flesh and bone of his bone. In marriage there is a good soul tie. Therefore, the good soul tie has trouble. You are still one flesh. Anytime a man and a woman cohabit they become one in mind , soul and spirit.
That is why marriage was meant to last a lifetime. Therefore you have to be shore who you are getting married to.
There are good soul ties and bad soul ties. Therefore every one must be careful who the hang with sexually because you become one with that one or that person. Thus they live with you for life.
2007-08-23 14:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by EarthRover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you ever get a spouse out of your system especially after a long marriage. I was married for 36 years and he cheated on me and wanted a divorce. I still think of him all the time, however, definately not with care or love.
Not after what he did to me and my family. You can care, you can try to let go, you can find something else in your life to take the place of your ex, but don't forget he was a huge part of your life and you would not be expected to forget. Just try to move forward any way you can. Find a hobby, job, voluneteer, friends. Friends help alot. Good luck.
2007-08-23 21:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to care about someone, especially since you married him. Have you 4given him for cheating or is that the reason you're splitting up?
Time and some new social companions of your own will help you let him go. Make a conscience effort to only make contact once a week then once a month then ... you see where this is going.
2007-08-23 21:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by slave2art 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean HOW?
It should be so simple for you, because you haven't been married for 12 years. You've been played the biggest fool for 12 years. All you have to do now is make the biggest fool legal and file for divorce.
2007-08-23 21:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
youre gonna care for a long time. the trick is in relationships and marriages breaking up is to keep yourself VERY busy. Thats the only way to get him or her out of your system!
2007-08-23 21:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a simple thing to think of but hard to keep to , all you have to is remember that any relationship must have trust and respect if thats not there your not doing yourself any good and it only gets worst the more you allow it,as a person your only as good as you get so get people in your life that are good for you
2007-08-23 21:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by wilco254 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have anything left, why is it so hard to let him go? Maybe that is the question you should be asking yourself. Good Luck to you..
2007-08-23 21:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You care about him cheating and knowing that he's cheating?
Walk away and don't look back.
2007-08-23 21:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you figure that out can you tell me , I still have my man in my heart even though we sleep in seperate rooms and he cheated on me and lied about it and still treats me like crap .
2007-08-23 21:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start realizing what you need and DESERVE. Obviously he's not meeting your needs. So why are you pretending that he is???
2007-08-23 21:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋