My parents fight constantly and my mom keeps talking about divorce. my brother is only 9 and he doesnt know what is going on. how do i make the fighting stop or if divorce happens how do i cope with it
2007-08-23 14:25:36 · 13 answers · asked by craftin_crazy12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get your mom to go to loveandrespect.com and order the cd sets for Love and Respect and Cracking the Communication code you can also buy the books by Emmerson Eggrich. Next be there for your mother in any way you can (wash dishes and clothes, sweep , mop vacuum) But let her know that her marriage and her children are worth enough to give it one more shot. Good luck honey I'm so sorry you are going through this I wish there was more I could do for you but you can lean on the shoulders of God who loves you so much and wants to be there for you in all your sadness, Good Luck and May God bless you with his peace.
2007-08-23 15:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make the fighting stop. Your parents have differences with each other and not you and your brother--that's the first thing to remember. If counseling wouldn't help then your parents need to do whats best for them.
It would be hopeful that if your parents do decide on divorce that they sit both of you down and explain this to you.
The best thing you can do for your brother is to be there for him.
If your parents do get a divorce try not to let them play you and your brother against the other parent or each other. What I mean by that is asking questions before you say anything about your weekend--who's dad seeing and visa-versa.
You never know, your parents may make better friends with each other than being married to each. They need to find the problem--not you.
2007-08-23 21:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mignon F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom and dad how you feel.. if you cant just talk to them. then write it down and give it to them to read. then have them talk to you about all this.. kids are not dumb they know whats going on around them and the pain the see hurts them as well and sometimes parents to think before they speak. they shouldnt be doing any of this where you guys can hear it. ask them about seeing someone to talk there problems out. as least you know you have tried to do what you can for the good of everyone. sometimes people find out later in life that things just wont work out and they have to go in different ways. but they must keep you kids out of it and make it a loving home when your around them.. even if they divorce. divorce can be a good thing also.. i have seen kids do so much better cause the fighting has stopped and now have 2 loving parents in 2 different houses.. and when the parents are happy then you will be happy also i am sure.. i wish you well. good luck
2007-08-23 21:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have absolutely no control over your parents behavior. But you can let them know how you and your brother feel.
Parents fight sometimes. They say things they should not say, especially in front of their children. But they don't always get divorced.
Sit down with your parents. Let them know you are scared they are getting divorced. Make them understand what they are putting you through with their behavior.
Good luck and God Bless!
2007-08-23 22:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by justanotherone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you mother is in an abusive relationship. Therefore, if you can talk to your mother to get counseling on here actions to divorce. However, you also need to speak to someone a pastor or a priest .
However, when they are fighting go into a room and if you can pray pray for them.
I wish you well. Take good care of yourself.
2007-08-23 21:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by EarthRover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should not be fighting in front of you!!!
I went through this at a young age. I was devestated but I recovered enough to get through school anyway... Now that I am an adult I see that while I had a hard time, I am now a stronger person because of it.
Maybe you should try talking to your parents about your feelings. They need to realize they are changing your life too.
2007-08-23 21:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by MARE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
understand that over time people just don't get along anymore. if your parents married when they were young, maybe they married for the wrong reasons. thats why it is so important not to commit to someone when you are still young and trying to figure out yourself and life for that matter. if your parents do divorce, you need to not take sides. I am sure they both love you, it would be worse if they fought over you and your brother. you should go talk to them and see what they have to say and tell them your feelings. they are your parents and they love you and would probably love to hear what you have to say.
2007-08-23 21:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by girlygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need counseling or a divorce .The fighting hurts children more than the divorce does .
2007-08-23 21:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should tell your parents how their fighting is making youfeel. Chances are they really don't have a clue that it is affecting you as much as it is. I was 17 when my rents split and it was still hard and still is to this day. Idont' think it ever gets easy. Just love them and realize that they will be much happier apart.
2007-08-23 21:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling and make them pay $ for it.
You can't make the fighting stop but you can tell them (over and over again) how awful it makes you feel and how you wish for your younger brother not to be exposed to this dysfunctional behavior. Involve outside family members, church, school counselors, anybody you trust into their fighting as it is destructive and inappropriate.
good luck to you and your brother : )
2007-08-23 21:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by slave2art 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋