me and my husband bougth our own house, then came my mother in law , loosing her job made my husband decide for her to live with us. I definitely can`t get along with her we have lots of opposite ideas because of the fact that I'm a foreigner .
2007-08-23 14:42:11 · 9 answers · asked by TRE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well the situation is simple but can be complicated. Here you have your husband’s mom who deserves all the respect in the world for who she is, but don’t you please forget this is your house now and the rules are yours and your husbands only, she doesn’t have to agree with all your ideas but she does have to Respect them since like I say this is your house and family. There is always a way try to find the best that can suit your case and good luck with all this, hope this could help
2007-08-23 14:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by SusyQ 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would not except that because he should have spoken to you before making the decision to move your mother in law into your house. I do not get along with my mother in law because she is picky and very old fashion. Every thing that I do is a problem. I remember it was really hot out and I was wearing a skirt and the skirt was not even short. She made a comment about me wearing that skirt and it should be down to my angles. My own mother does not tell me what to do, who the hell did she think she was? I told her it is like 99 degrees there is no way that I am going to put on a long skirt. She told my husband that I was being mean and disrespectful. We are no longer speaking because I can't take her and I totally hate her and she hates me too and I do not have to visit her old a*s. Excuse my french, I am just still pissed off about it.
2007-08-23 22:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad situation,........ two women in one house is a recipe for disaster. If you have a garage,why not look into putting an in-law apartment over top. Or an addition with a private entrance. Your husband will still be able to help his Mother out...and get her out of your house.....everybody needs their own space.
2007-08-23 22:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her like you would you own mother. . .I know that is hard. If she is not accepting of it then sit down and have a talk with her. Teach her your cultural ways and try to understand hers. If she interferes this will cause problems and you may have to talk with your husband. Is the house large enough to divide the space so you have you private space and she has hers? Perhaps it is only temporary.
2007-08-23 22:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by flowernthesnow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Same situation! We bought our house, MIL loses job, going through 4th divorce, moves in- supposed to be "temporary", now living w/ us almost a year. I disagree w/ one of the responses above about putting a room in garage for her- we built a little studio in our garage for her and she stills comes out and hogs our big screen, yells at me and my kids-
Unless she moves out of state... it's never going to work my dear. Only way I'm tolerating this situation is w/ vitamin P
_PROZAC!!!_
2007-08-27 18:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wont work.. you cant put 2 families together and think it will work very long.. if she is able to work and be on her own she needs to do that.. and your hubby needs to tell her.. she has not rights to how you run your home or childern if there are any. shes a guest and she needs to act as a guest. now if shes ill and cant take care of herself you can check into other ideas as well. and if none of that can be done she will need talked to by both of you what the rules are in your home. also your hubby should stand by you and put a stop to the argueing and not getting along. i wish you well. good luck
2007-08-23 21:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
she is in your home and she needs to respect that.
if she doesnt like you, she needs to get out. you were kind enough to let her stay w/ you, remind her w/o you she wouldnt have a roof over her head.
tell her to keep her comments to her self, and you will do what you chose to do, you are an adult, and are married and dont need anyone telling you what to do or how to do it. you moved out of your house and away from your parents for a reason
2007-08-23 22:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by Brandi M. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be respectful and kind to her no matter what. Remember, this is your husband's mother and without her, he would not be here.
2007-08-23 21:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would make sure that she knew that it is your house and your rules and make sure that your husband stands behind you..otherwise things could get ugly....
2007-08-23 21:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by jls2007 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋