Marriage & Divorce - 7 August 2007

My boyfriend told me that he gave his ex a pair of diamond earings before. I asked him what made diamonds so special and he said, their sentamental value. He said one day you might get a diamond from me and I got scared.

I didn't know what to say, I didn't know how to react, I was just so taken aback.

I managed to play it cool though thankgod, see here's the thing, I have lived in a shelter before and have lived in poverty all my life.

I have eaten from the food bank and am used to living with the bare neccessatity's.

A diamond is just beyond anything i can imagin, i mean I'm not used to it at all!

I remember somone would give me a plant or a coat and I'd be happy to keep warm.

I don't know what to do? How do I take this in and feel like I deserve it, when all I've done is live in poverty for a long time and never felt like I deserve something as nice as this!

And, I feel like running away from him, but I know I don't want to, this is so hard!

Please help!

2007-08-07 11:08:45 · 8 answers · asked by Purple Vengeance 2

My wife and I have been married for a short time and during that time, we had so much stress with financial stuff that I might have said something to upset her. There were also lack of affection between us. One day I cam back from business trip, she said she wanted to take time off and be alone. I was hurt but said Ok. Recently I found on her phone text messaging that she been exchanging with one of my very good friend. This guy is a truly gentleman in the eyes of many girls. In the text they said they miss each other and my wife use the "love" word in there. I confront my wife but she said she pick him to purposely hurt me for what I've said to her during our arguments. She also does that to prove that she still can get men fall for her. She said nothing physical happen between them though she really like the way he treats women. She said she still love me and ask me to forget. She said she still love me. Should I forget and work on our marriae

2007-08-07 11:01:43 · 36 answers · asked by heavyd 1

Could be your kindness, money, not helping with clean-up after dinner, it could be many things--- Just looking for somefeedback. Thanks for your answers.

2007-08-07 10:59:12 · 13 answers · asked by cruisingalong 4

Okay so my ex & I split up, we have three children together. He fights me tooth & nail to have the kids 50/50 but mainly because he doesn't want to help me out with anything. I buy all their clothes, shoes and even get our son's haircut cause if I ask him to do it he says he doesn't have money. Well I'm currently in school & last semester he took them on tues/thurs. & everyother weekend well now he will not do it for me this sememster, he says too bad that I need to deal w/ the kids on my own if I'm in school the nites I have them. He will not be flexible at all. There is no court order & Im scared to petition to go to crt. bcuase he works when he wants w/ his dad's co. & was recently on UIB. I make way more money then him & run the risk of having to pay his sorry a** but he's so hard to deal w/ I think I just need to take him to crt. Is it wrong for me to ask him to switch days? it's not like he's doing n e thing n e way. I'm finishing school to provide better for our kids yet

2007-08-07 10:56:44 · 18 answers · asked by justbeingme_ 2

My husband and I have been separated for the past 18 months and we have a 3 years old son. I want to have my family back but my husband doesn't want it. I feel he no longer loves me and has totally moved on but neither of us finalizes the divorce. What can I do to make him love me again?

2007-08-07 10:53:46 · 19 answers · asked by mona 1

If you were sick of your wife would you be rude to her,, talk to her and try to make things better,, cheat on her and have her still watch the kids, hoard money or lie to her and try to find someone new then kick her to the curb????

2007-08-07 10:52:51 · 5 answers · asked by cruisingalong 4

Is it true or is it just a myth? And they said when they are pregnant with a black kid the rate of miscarrige rises 54% than same race. They also said it only applies to BM/WW while all others are normal.

It made my girlfriend upset because she wants to marry me and have 4-5 kids.......

Sounds stupid to me but is it true?

2007-08-07 10:44:13 · 21 answers · asked by The Truth 2

Put it this way, without the kid I would definately not be with her. But, I want to see my kid everyday. I want him to be under my roof where I can take care of him. If we split, I would have him half of the time at best.

2007-08-07 10:28:23 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

my bf is 33 years old and is legaly married to his wife she is about 59.we have been together for a year and a half and we have a daughter together.i have two daughters from a previous relationship...he's the only one working and has two cars.they didn't have any properties or anything like that..she has section 8 and is working a job right now.my question is if she ask for alimony will she get anything from him? at the time they were together she didn't work and they don't have any children.all he has is like 40,000 in debt...but will she be able to get money or one of his cars?

2007-08-07 10:16:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just tuned into this form, and i already see alot of questions about how to stay in a marriage because she or he is bored or not feeling the same anymore. i will share some of my suggestions but i like to hear some of you experiances. first of all marriage is a 50/50 deal, there must be give and take. respect each other is a must, communication always, have lots of sex this is a reflection on all the above, stay in shape and compliment each other, its ok to check other girls or guys out its only normal ! for good sake that how i found my wife in the 1st place

2007-08-07 10:11:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

It was hard at first had depression and a nervous breakdown as I loved her so much she was my first everything 15 years together highschool sweetys. Now I'm happy for her and I hope she finds what she wants in life and I have no bitterness . We share our two boys everyother week together and there is NO drama of any kind. I'm very happy and comfortable now. I'm told that I'm a very easy going guy and tooo nice could that be why I'm so happy for her? ps I don't think shes that happy though. I can see looking back that she was a selfish lover and person but I can also see where I messed up. She needed lots of affection and we grew up together but also grew apart. I hear how so many people stay so angry with an ex that cheats and leaves so why am I so freakin happy!

2007-08-07 10:10:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

If so what was the worst effect on you personally?

Thank you.

2007-08-07 10:01:37 · 14 answers · asked by KatsLoveBug 3

2007-08-07 10:01:26 · 19 answers · asked by mercury31 1

Told you one the phone "Oh, you will get over it and forgive me like you always do" I think it means that he is saying he can get away with anything. He said he didn't mean it that way...he said he meant it like I'm a very forgiving person.

Oh and by the way the reason I was mad at him was because a girl answered his cell phone and he grabbed it from her and said "Baby, can I call you back?" then I hear the girl in the background go "Baby?" he said she was a friend that didn't know he had a girlfriend...but I think he is full of crap!

But I am a very forgiving person and I am more hurt about what he told me on the phone then the girl...I will never know for sure if he was telling the truth about the girl anyways.

2007-08-07 09:59:01 · 17 answers · asked by Courtney [gimpy] 2

I've distanced myself from them and have had no interaction for about 2 years now and seem to find it easier to live my life that way without the added "drama". it all started when my husband then (47) and me (31) with 3 children decided after 3.5 years of dating to get married. We decided amongst ourselves to never have children. When we announced our intentions, my sister in law was not favorable to the union and did not make it hidden. We've been together for 8.5 years and married for 5 and are happy together. Am I wrong for distancing myself from a hopeless situation?

2007-08-07 09:58:58 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had a friend who is not my friend anymore take her wedding rings off at my bacholorette party and pretend that she was not married and didn't have a family all night long, she was also making out with guys and groping and stuff. So here is my question, would you ever take your wedding rings off and pretend you weren't married for free drinks? Also she told me that her husband said it was okay to take off her rings and that it was his suggestion. So my other question, do you know any guy that would tell his wife its OK to take off her wedding rings and makeout with other guys to get free drinks? I don't, its called honoring your husband, right? As far as Im concerned guys are pretty possessive of their women and I don't know a single guy that would tell their wives to do that. What do you think?

2007-08-07 09:56:53 · 18 answers · asked by kimandandyjennings 2

If people know that cheating is wrong..........why do they still do it?

2007-08-07 09:53:50 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-07 09:52:38 · 8 answers · asked by Taysha (TJ) 2

I've never given it much thought but I get tired of people making Bill Clinton jokes to me. Clinton what do you think of that name? Should I go by Clint instead? thanks Clint(on)

2007-08-07 09:50:58 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

we saw him alot until then and all of a sudden nothing, no job , no visits, no $$$$$$, no nothing. the cops won't help because we were not married, but we have 2 kids together. he almost lived with us; he came over for almost every dinner and stayed the night when he did. he never mentioned leaving l.i. but he quit his job and none of his "people" have seen him in 6 months or more. some people say he had a girlfreind that got a job in calif. and he went with her but nobody is sure. he's from upstate and swore never to leave and one day return to his hometown. so where did he go and why? without a word, not even to his kids. that's not right!

2007-08-07 09:48:00 · 6 answers · asked by janet k 1

Here is a quipit of my situation as of right now. My husband and I met last January, got married in April. We did the whole immigration process and he was approved in November. He left me in February. I asked that he handle the divorce since he wanted it, and I still have not received any paperwork from him to sign. I have seen a few of the documents that he had to send back to LegalZoom.com because they said that we owned property together and such, but that was at least a month and a half ago, and I have not heard from him since. I do not know what I can do to get answers from him, and since he filed for the divorce, no one will give me any answers. I'm getting towards the end of my rope going round and round with his family to get him to call me. Is there anyway that I can legally get information or am I pretty much screwed? My 2nd question would be, if he just up and left, and only left me with apx. $300 for bills (that doesn't even cover 1/2) is there anything I can do?

2007-08-07 09:45:33 · 1 answers · asked by adorethasp 3

we have been together for 2 months.
we love each other with all our hearts.
his mom knows but mine doesn't.
i'm scared to tell my mom.
he has the ring.
we are seeing each other this friday.
he is giving me the ring friday.

2007-08-07 09:42:46 · 105 answers · asked by thalia s 1

I am married now but on the second day of marriage I found out that when we start dating each other, he was into sex date,where you meet for sex. I was so hurt because he didn't told me and he was looking for someone just to have sex. he was on couple dating websites. I talked to him and asked why didn't he closed the account. he said he forgot. before me he got breakup with his ex 2 yrs ago. means in 2 yrs he wanted just to have sex. I don't believe in dating sites but I felt bad. But there is still a question that bothers me that can men live without sex for little while. i was virgin when I met him. we married in 6 months. I still thinks why he was into sex site. i even saw his naked pics on that site. I asked him abt that first he got so irritated then he said he is sorry that I saw his naked pics on that website. then he deleted those pics. God I still wish that I should never saw that website. if he told me abt that i would never feel the same way.

2007-08-07 09:33:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I come home and she sahuts the screen down quickly. or I catch her watching videos. Why does she watch those guys on the video and not me. It makes me mad she hides it. As a christian I beleive it is wrong. The bible says so. How do I stop her heathan ways? I would divorce her but the bible says I can not do that eaither. I am just a dumb male. Help.

2007-08-07 09:24:52 · 25 answers · asked by Shootsscores 3

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2007-08-07 08:48:15 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you knew your wife, who is openly cheating on you . Ended up getting pregnant with the other guys baby.
Now she is telling me to tell others its ours.
Look I know I will love it like my own , its just that she cheats and I put up with it. Now I am supposed to act happy about this too.?

2007-08-07 08:35:22 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

We were supposed to adopt my 3 month old nephew who was severly abused by his mother and father. He decided to back out and then also decided that he thought we were better off apart. Because said this I moved out. It's about a month 1/2 and I haven't heard anything from him except for closing accounts and such. No "I love you's" have been thrown my way. He has made it possible for a no contact clause to be into affect since we both work in the same unit. (He's military, I'm a civilian employee...we don't work in the same building.) He even attends the same church as I do and it's hard seeing him every Sunday without wanting to go and hug him. I miss him.

How can I let him know how I feel about him if I can't contact him? Did I make a mistake? If so, what do I do?

2007-08-07 08:29:00 · 17 answers · asked by Leaving on a jetplane 3

When I go to the community pool with my kids I wear a t-shirt in the water because I'm self conscious of my stomach. I'm not bad, but I'm carrying a "few extra pounds" and I'm not very muscular. I haven't been "skinny" since high school, but I would like to look a little better so I can feel comfortable taking my shirt off. Also, it bothers me when their are "hot" women in bikinis. I want to look good.

2007-08-07 08:14:08 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had an on-off again affair with a guy for three years - recently, he said he doesn't want to email as much during the day. That is was taking a lot of focus off his work and that we were emailing more so than many husbands and wives. Now he just emails me once a day and says "how's it going?" Is he not interested in me anymore - he claims he is a lot...

2007-08-07 08:05:40 · 21 answers · asked by kittygirlwhoilove 2

im dating a girl who is divorced because she cheated on her husband, who she has no kids with. I recently found out that she has not removed the names of the guy she cheated on her husband with or her ex husband. I asked her to remove them because it bothered me. She didn't, even after several times asking. She said she wont because she felt it was on principle that she shouldn't and that it felt like i was telling her what to do...am i wrong for asking her to remove the #'s or should i just let it slide and trust her? thanks for your responses everyone!

2007-08-07 08:04:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous