or any other attributes that you feel is very important.
2007-08-07 08:48:15 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-08-07 08:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, I've done both. I had a ltr with a guy who loved me and I didn't love him. I had no respect for him. I actually feel bad about letting it go as long as it did. Then, I moved on to the man I married. I loved him-to the point where I let him treat me like ****. I just kept trying to gain his love and approval. I was worse than a dog. He doesn't love me, because nothing was ever good enough for him. It got to the point where the abuse and neglect were too much, and I cheated. The best thing I've heard is-Don't marry someone you can live with, marry someone you can't live without!
2007-08-14 09:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by Hick Chick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should be both I want to love someone and I want to be loved right back! That is most important along with TRUST, COMMUNICATION, HONESTY, RESPECT. Love is about two people putting there heart together as one whole person and doing everything they can to become stronger and to be there for one another. It's like a life long best friend that you can be completely open and honest around. Love has to be about both people and both people need to equally work together. Hope this helped!
2007-08-14 06:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should be both to love and be loved equally. But there are several other factors that come into play when choosing a spouse. Such as trust, honesty, respect, attraction,belonging, friendship, loyalty. I would never marry anyone just because "I love them" or because they "Love me". I have to be able to trust and be trusted, to respect and be respected by my spouse. I need to feel like that person is my best friend as well as them feel that I am theirs. I need to be able to give myself to that person completely and them do the same. If I was just looking for someone to love me or someone that I could love I would just get a pet.
2007-08-14 11:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee, you need to love her and she needs to love you...it is also helpful if you are great friends with good communication skills. Having similar feelings on life in general helps as well. Recognize that each of you are individuals and will not always agree on everything. Add in a good sense of humor and you should get along fine.
2007-08-07 08:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by missyj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is more important for me to love. I could never be with someone I don't love. But I also need that person to love me in return.
2007-08-07 23:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the personality of your spouse is the most important to be compatible with your's , second his/her morals . and the love will come latter
2007-08-07 09:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by mafhh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both I love my partner and the fact that he loves me back is great they work together there is no point in giving without recieving as that can cause resentment. Partnerships need to be equal in all ways including love.
2007-08-14 20:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first you have to like'em before youi can Love'em. To say you love someone is'nt really true, to love is to live for your spouse , Love always gives and never is "What about Me"
2007-08-14 09:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by Edit My Profile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with rebossry 2003......and a few of the other comments...being loved as much as you love them....and even when there is a disagreement, talk it out and work through it.....
2007-08-15 07:07:50 · answer #10 · answered by shortstuff68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in choosing the right spouse- for sure to be loved, I am sure of my feelings for someone before I make a decision like marriage, I just want to give him time so he can be sure of himself as well...............
2007-08-07 17:56:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋