Marriage & Divorce - 9 August 2007

lately i have become more "attached" not sexually to my wife's sister. i don't even know if she realizes it but to me it feels like shes thinking of the same thing. i still love my wife very much, but i am starting to love her sister the same. i know it's not a good thing for me to be falling in love again but i cannot help it.
i always compliment her on her beauty or her being sweet, she blushes and then i'll smile and look deep into her eyes. i feel like she loves me too but its kind of a forbidden thing beings that im already betrothed. everytime we touch it is as if someone has shocked me with a stun gun and my heart starts racing. i still love my wife very very much and i don't believe in divorce, i mean i will not divorce her ever thats just the way i am. is this real or am i just wishing. and if so is it ok to be in love with more than one person.

2007-08-09 23:54:23 · 9 answers · asked by lonedesertfox 1

a man was engaged for two years and then his finace dies. since then has been in several relationships since most at the same time. as many as four women at one time. tells all he is deeply in love with them but vague on commiments. Who's to know if he serious and which one. or is he so hurt that he feels he should play around with everyones feelings. i feel he knows its selfish but doesn't care and now testing the waters on the other side.

2007-08-09 23:50:55 · 9 answers · asked by Marina 1

I have beened divorced a couple of months now and went on a friendly date with another girl...my ex found out and started making wild accusations about me - total lies - even filed a protection order against me! I am a police office and she knows this could end my career and she says "I dont care!" Anyone else ever experieanced a crazy ex? How did you handle it?

2007-08-09 23:14:30 · 11 answers · asked by Never Regret 1

My husband has been having an affair for over 2 years. We filed for a divorce, but he said he didn't want it the day we went to court. I told him to break up with his mistress if he wanted to work on our marriage.

He said that he wishes that things could go back to the way the used to be with us. He regrets the affair and the pain it caused our daughter, me and our family. He also said that things are awkward between us.

He could not break up with his girlfriend then and still hasn't. If he really wishes we could go back to the way we were, why did he give up on us? Why does he still have the girlfriend instead of me?

2007-08-09 23:02:57 · 11 answers · asked by blue eyes 2

My husband is a machinist, he works very hard. He recently started a new job at a well known food company he works everyday seven days a week. anyway jobs are hard to find right now otherwise he would go to another one.
Last week they shorted him a days pay which is almost 200 dollars. And that is alot to a family of five. So it went on about a week him asking his boss i need that money. in the mean time my children needed school supplies and we needed food.
He boss would say oh ok be right back and never come back. nno im sorry or anything just be right back and then he would be gone for the day. so finally my husband went over his head and his answer was sorry we cannot help you thats his job you will have to talk to him. this morning my husband came home with another check once agin shorting him almost 200 dollars. the check hasnt been cashed yet . I am so upset. in the meantime our mortgage is waiting. i even thought of going to the media with this. but then agin we cannot afford

2007-08-09 22:53:36 · 4 answers · asked by jerry w 1

Me and my Fiance where together for about 10 months before, in a fit of rage i Hurt him and broke up with him, he was so deeply hurt he didnt talk to me for 3 weeks after and didnt see eatch other for 2 months.

well we just saw eatchother on the 5th of this month where we both instantly connected and got back together. but he said that he didnt want to have sex for at least a year. needless to say i was crushed, not just becuase of the obvious need for pleasure, but i want to make love with him, thats very important for me.

Its hard to go from a intensly sexual and loving relationship to somthing so dry. We still have extremly heavy "petting" sessions, even to the point where we have been both nude, but before we go and further, He stops it

This hurts me Emotionaly. at times The hurt has been so intense that i have cried to him, and i can see the hurt in his eyes, but he still wont make love to me.

Is there any fix for this, what is the problem? he wont tell me?

2007-08-09 22:52:58 · 10 answers · asked by Raven Ty Marx 3

Where do you get started as far as financially when your considering divorce? How do you afford your own place to live when you know your job doesn't pay enough?

2007-08-09 22:51:09 · 6 answers · asked by ldelgatta 1

I love my husband very much and we have great sex (although not as spontaneous as it was in the early stages of our relationship) but I still fantasise about other men.

I've never cheated on my husband and never would but since we have been together (7years) I think I've had about 4 crushes on various men from friends to work colleagues. I like the fact that these men found me desirable which makes me desire them. Never ever goes any further than I little harmless flirting though. I know my husband finds me attractive but its quite nice to have someone else look at you in that way.

Is this natural to fantasise about others even as a married woman? I hope so because I quite enjoy it!

2007-08-09 22:48:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

So my long time boyfriend recently asked me to marry him. The trouble is we don't know how to tell our families. We are young, I'm 18 and he's 19. We're not even planning on getting married until after I've graduated from college. Its not really my family that we are having problems telling. His side of the family is a little judgmental. So does anyone have any ideas on how to tell our family? Thanks!

2007-08-09 22:39:23 · 16 answers · asked by Kassie 2

2007-08-09 21:52:13 · 15 answers · asked by Blue_Blur 1

My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 years. Not long, I know. We care for one another and even love each other. The problem is, he's from another country (Brazil) and I'm from here. We have many different perspectives, opinions, and values in life, especially when it comes to a woman's role in a marriage/relationship. He's very jealous, possessive, & sometimes verbally abusive, but more in a "passive" way (never phsysically, however, but still not good, nonetheless --I know). He doesn't try to have a relationship with my 7 year-old son (from previous relationship). Logically speaking, we BOTH know that we shouldn't be together, but why is it so difficult letting go? Furthermore, he wants children now and I don't. I feel if I let him go that we'll both suffer greatly, so sometimes I think we should just tough it out. Am I wrong? Why do I feel this almost need to make sure he doesn't get hurt? I feel an aching in my heart. I don't know what to do. Any advice?

2007-08-09 21:09:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have never really had a boyfriend, and I am 20. A guy likes me, but my friends think he is creepy, and I don't know what to think now. Besides the fact he isn't my usually fantasy type, he is pretty low key and we had an almost normal conversation. But I have this idea of the perfect guy in my head, but now that I have gotten to know him, I wouldn't mind being friends with him. I guess my question is, if my whole heart isn't into it, is it bad to think about dating him... not being in a relationship... but... er I am so bad at this. I just want love to be easier you know... and I am tired of being single... I just want to know what it is like to date. The guy really likes me... or seems to at least. He persued me before school ended and we had a chance meeting outside the library. I just don't know if this is the right thing, part of me wants to listen to my friends, the other part wants to at least try it out. Don't know what to do? It sucks being single.

2007-08-09 21:01:31 · 9 answers · asked by Alexis Plancings 1

My husband gets jealous even if I walk out of the office building chatting to a male colleague. He starts with all these weird questions. On the other hand, he has been emailing his ex (who is also married by the way) and calls her by her nickname. Yet when asked, he says it's nothing! I don't have an issue with him talking to her. But the double standards don't make sense. What's going on?

2007-08-09 20:35:06 · 10 answers · asked by Sarah 2

we meet them and they feel we need to help there family!

money support help moving fixing there problems working on there houses or cars you name it

i just dont get it

2007-08-09 20:21:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

there is one condition ,if she leaves the house then never comes back in house till death.very hawke condition i think.whats yr opinion.her son is in 7th std.and have only one child.if she stay at home she become alone.husband do job.

2007-08-09 20:20:40 · 7 answers · asked by anjali s 1

im 14 and my parents are divorcing after 24 years of marraige wwhat should i do

2007-08-09 20:20:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

(1.)are you cheating on your boyfriend or girlfriend? (2.) what do you consider to be cheating? (3.)why are you cheating? (4.)is it with someone in general or someone specific? (5.) how many times have you cheated on this person? (6.)do you plan to let your mate go or keep them hanging on while your having your cake and eat it too? (7.)Do you have a history of cheating or is this your first offense? Inquiring minds wanna know!!!!

2007-08-09 20:09:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

It isn't for me though... its a survey.
Need it for the informative speech text...

2007-08-09 20:08:21 · 5 answers · asked by il padrino 3

2007-08-09 20:03:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Though they are having good spouse, still they want another close person in their lives ? why?
Are they looking for love, sex, personal attention or something else?
What you guyes think on this?

2007-08-09 19:57:21 · 33 answers · asked by ~Essence~ 2

we have been married for 14 years have 3 kids together.a few months ago my husband had pencreititus and was told not to drink alcohol, he is! also he had been going to a methadone clinic and while he was sick was able to get off it but now i think he is using again cause i see all the signs his mom is sick and needs care at home so he is there alot hes not working and just has a ton of time on his hands to do things he shouldn't be i sometimes miss him when hes taking care of his mom but when he is here he is just so annoying i think he is hiding over there so i dont see what he is up to i love him but i really dont like him at all lately i dont get excited to see him anymore its sad cause i think its over but i dont want to make any rash decisions, please help SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY!!!

2007-08-09 19:55:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am deciding if I should move in with my mom (like 2 states away) or stay with my dad. I have had a great high school experiance thus far, lots of friends and sports etc. But I really hate bing so far from my mom and the school where she lives is AMAZING. Should I leave my friends and my whole life and plunge into the unknown at a brand new school halfway though high school? I am really outgoing and like meeting new people and I think it would be an adventure in a new place, but I don't know if i can leave my life behind me. But I know I'll be leaving for college in two years anyway. Any serious advice would be appreciated. Thanks guys.

2007-08-09 19:49:06 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-09 19:46:12 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am 25years old chinese girl
i married my husband( canadian swedish ) year before, he used pretended him as a very nice guy and he was 43years ,i firstly was forbidden by dad but he keep on contact me and treat really like a queen then i agreed feel happy and positive to the future.after i moved to sweden from hongkong ,everything changed ,i first looked up a document by accident that he used be in prision for 5 years for rob and have been sent to certain place for his drinking problem and drug problem which he never TOLD me about ,and he used told me he never been a criminal!!he is a lier.then i found that he owe a lot of money about the rent of house and tax and etc....and i got a mortage refund from our post i dont know what did he done even !
i feel scared aboutfuturei have a stable work,he just do nothing just get warefare,i want to divorce but he will of course refuse,is it hard for us to divorce?i have to pay for the money he owe since we married one year?pls help me,pls

2007-08-09 19:45:33 · 15 answers · asked by lily z 1

He says he is unhappy in job, house and other areas of life, but "doesn't know" how he feels about much else. I am not sure how to cope, just looking for some insight.

2007-08-09 19:44:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Even though the guy has used excuse the three times that you have conversated with him, excuse meaning, his phone going dead, he did only call you back once. That 's when you called and he wasn't there. Not even thirty minutes he calls you back. After that he hasn't called yet. When we was on the phone he kept telling me that he wants a baby, asking about my relationship with my boyfriend. Do you also think it's possible giving his a jealous guy that he is upset because the times I did call was always around the same time and not different times giving that he probley know I have a man?

2007-08-09 19:25:07 · 3 answers · asked by Promise 2

I am going to divorce my husband and I am very depressed right now because I really love him but he is not showing me love at all.

Do u think I have a chance to find a guy who wants to have a relationship with me?

I feel like my destiny its to be by myself :(
Here are some pics of me and hubbie

http://picasaweb.google.com/zhaindell/BrianKirbyAndZaindellKirby

2007-08-09 19:15:45 · 32 answers · asked by LOL 3

You was with a guy for almost 5 years. Within that time frame he hasn't had to good of luck with a job or keeping one, he has a slight attitude problem, he is dependant on you. Besides, those negative points he is a pretty descent guy. Would you want to stray or stay?

2007-08-09 18:54:12 · 12 answers · asked by Promise 2

Ok, so my first date with this hot girl didn't go well.. I need advice. She cut the date short and then texts me 7 messages talking about how she felt it went wrong.. stating that it was me who wasn't talking or anything, but she barely said a few words too.

Well I asked her if there was physical attraction... she didn't answer me really. She said that would be decided if we had a next date. She said she wanted to friends if nothing else.... She said there was chemistry and I have a great personality but was holding back tonight... we only talked on the phone, never met.

What does this mean? Fact she mentioned "friends" aint good...

2007-08-09 18:53:08 · 5 answers · asked by andrew a 1

I was married for 9 years. When we arrived to US, he let me for his first wife. He didn't want to get me the sign to finish the legal process because he told me he didn't want to let me go.

2007-08-09 18:38:51 · 13 answers · asked by Irene C 1