I am going to divorce my husband and i need your opinion?

Question

I am going to divorce my husband and I am very depressed right now because I really love him but he is not showing me love at all.

Do u think I have a chance to find a guy who wants to have a relationship with me?

I feel like my destiny its to be by myself :(
Here are some pics of me and hubbie

http://picasaweb.google.com/zhaindell/BrianKirbyAndZaindellKirby

Answer 1

Well darling , I think your gorgeous. Hey you'll be OK as long as you allow the time to heal between relationships. Your husband was a lucky man, Was is the key word. Now someone else is going to be even luckier. Get yourself with God and find peace in him . Put a smile on your face cause your beautiful.

Answer 2

I looked at your pictures and felt like I was snooping in your private life. I see a lot of love in those pictures, what happened that you want a divorce? What has caused your husband not to show you any love right now, have you discussed this with him? If not do so, if you two love each other then it will be more than worth it to work it out..my goodness don't give up on your relationship if it is important to you at all, fight for it, fight for the both of you as I will tell you it is no fun to be alone and if you have found happiness with your husband and I see that you have in the past by the pictures, then really think if you want to give all that up. Is your marriage not salvagable at all? I hope that it is and I hope that the problems you are having can be talked and worked out. You look like such a nice loving couple that I wish you all the best that this life offers..

Answer 3

Well, first of all, it is sad you are getting a divorce, I been there twice. It's especially hard when kids are involved. I have two kids, a son and a daughter and both are doing real well.

I think what you need to focus on right now is getting through the divorce, this is not a good time to get into another relationship. Trust me. The whole divorce process is a very difficult time, after all this is someone you shared your vows with.

You are a very lovely lady, and after this is all over, I am sure you'll be fine. I hope it all works out for you. Take care.

Answer 4

I don't see a smile on his face on any of the pics (except for the ones with a kiss). You don't have a chance with another guy because you're MARRIED and "really love him". If you went with another guy, your heart would truly be with your "HUSBAND".
Whats changed, obviously something is different about the relationship than when you were dating. Take a step back and look at it from a distance. Have you become demanding, jealous, are you putting out (lack of intimacy is super common for unhappiness with men)?
He was happy with you when you were dating (thats why he asked you to marry him). What changed? It might he him, hesitant with now commitment... be Strong,
Ask good questions and get real answers (even if you know they're gonna hurt!). Good Luck!

Answer 5

I always have said once you met one man you have met them all. If you love him why divorce him? unless he cheated. but what ever problems you are having with him I am sure they will carry over into your next relationship. I have also always said that a woman does not need a man to survive. I think it is normal for some men not to show love for them it is showing weakness I know my husband is this way. I have been with him 17 years and I have l love him and know he loves me, but I go do my thing and he does he's thing and we have a date night two days out of the week where we do something together and it seems to work for us. Their is no cheating allowed when we do our own thing if their was I would not be with him. I am sure you tried talking to your husband but he doesn't want to hear it. he needs a wake up call and I also noticed that in your pics I did not see him smiling once but I seen you smiling. If you divorce him do not jump right into another relationship if you do your only looking for trouble time the time to get to know you and what you want in life.

Answer 6

Honey, of course you love him. But I know you love yourself too. I can tell, because only a person who loved themselves would know that they deserve better, and by getting a divorce thats what youre doing. Youre telling him, yourself, and the world that you deserve unconditional, unfaltering love. And dont worry. You are not destined to be alone. Maybe this is happening because its the right time for you to find "the one" If youre feeling depressed, I recommend renting and watching "the secret" if you havent already seen it. If you keep an open mind, you'll really see that you can live a happy life. You'll realize you deserve a happy life. And you do. Youre a beautiful person, who is evidentily sensitive and kind, but also strong. Youre going to be ok, i promise. Keep your head up. Feel everything you need to feel. dont be afraid to be sad, but know that with time, it will be ok. Youre soulmate is out there waiting for you. Good luck.

Answer 7

You question is very personal. I hope you have spoken to someone who knows the dynamics of your relationship. Family, Friend, Pastor, Therapist? You asking the question on Yahoo! on such a public forum shows that your not addressing the situation with the people affected. Sometimes it YOU and YOUR behaviors that cause the dysfunction. If you divorce you husband and don't resolve the underlining issues. Your bound to meet the same type of person and end up in the same situation with someone else. Good Luck and focus on you and the underling issues.

Answer 8

Divorce is a big step. And to tell you honestly if you go through with it you should consider not seeing anyone for a year afterwards. The reason being you'll have alot of issues to deal with. If you start a relationship "on the rebound" it won't be a level relationship your recent divorce will effect the relationship. You'll need time to go through the things that go with a divorce. T4

Answer 9

Well does he not love you or doesn't know it needs to be shown? Did you tell him you don't feel loved? He looks like the type who doesn't know how to show love. Maybe you still can teach him? Believe me, divorce is a lot of pain, a lot.

Of course you have a chance to find a different guy, if you decide to do so.

Even if you're by yourself it is better than to be stuck in a misearble marriage.

Answer 10

I don't see any justification of divorce here. Your love him but he doesn't show you his love towards you. Is he abusive? Which one would you prefer, passionate love or rumantic love? Some men are just like that that the don't show how much they love there wife and to be honest with you its you to make this marriage work instead of walking out of it. Perhaps changing you altitude if you have any towards him, staying focuse on you responsibilities, discovering his needs and wants. Always being happy even if it means you have to force yourself. Just change the whole mode, mood towards your marriange and look at it in a different angle of happiness, open talkings with him, going outtings, widow shopping together and see how your marriage will turn. Regroup and remodel your marriage