You was with a guy for almost 5 years. Within that time frame he hasn't had to good of luck with a job or keeping one, he has a slight attitude problem, he is dependant on you. Besides, those negative points he is a pretty descent guy. Would you want to stray or stay?
2007-08-09 18:54:12 · 12 answers · asked by Promise 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You say he is a "pretty decent guy" . That in itself is an interesting way to describe someone you have been with for five-years. If I were you I would look at a few key questions.
1.) Can you see yourself marrying him, would he be able to take care of you and a family if need be?
2.) Does he treat you well? Does he give you what you need emotionally?
3.) Are you happy with your relationships, or do you have doubts if you love him/or if he loves you?
4.) you said he has an attitude, does he have this towards you or just in general?
Me , personally, I would stray, but if everything but what you listed is GOOD, not just decent, I would stay, talk to him about getting counseling, or figure out, why he can not keep a job, why he has this attitude problem, those are things that can be worked on. If things do not change, you need to make a decision to go or stay, but do what is best for YOU, regardless.
2007-08-09 19:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by J A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he can't hold a job, has an attitude problem, and is dependent on you, he is too immature to be in a relationship. Get rid of him. He is not a real man.
2007-08-10 02:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shun nice guys and are attracted to sorry men. You are not going to leave him, you just want people to tell you to "work it out". Lets review here:
1. Can't keep a job
2. has an attitude problem
3. De-pendant on you
If you can't realize this guy is crap, then keep him. You will be doing a public service for other women by keeping him off the market.
2007-08-10 02:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by B 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would not want to stay in a relationship with someone like that. He should be trying to get and hold a job, contribute to finances for both of you, and ditch the attitude. Sounds like one of my exes!
2007-08-10 01:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by sassylass 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't ever be attracted to a guy that was dependent on me and had a problem keeping a job. Is he going to be able to maintain a family financially by "being a decent guy"?
2007-08-10 01:59:41 · answer #5 · answered by C S 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That description sounds like my ex-live in boyfriend. I put up with supporting him for almost 3 years (I was young and stupid). As it turned out, he had a gambling problem and in the end he stole $3000.00 out of my savings and I never saw him again. I've searched for him and have involved the courts and police but I still haven't had any luck. I would never put up with a guy like that again. You are being taken advantage of and you deserve better. Leave him.
2007-08-10 01:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's up to you which you decide to do.
However --either way-- he sounds like he may have a very common --but often unrecognized or misidentified-- disability*1.
You might want to help him to get the help that he needs, starting with appropriate testing for his age, for actual emotional development...
The disability I refer to is one of brain function, & can have one, or, several different causes*2. But, it is a true disability, not the person's choice.
2007-08-10 02:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a lot like my exboyfriend. I'm sure glad he's my ex, because I ended up finding my TRUE love less than 2 years later.
2007-08-10 02:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years? Please make up you mind..... There is a lot more good guys out there more capable n hardworking than him. You should look for a guys whom you can depend on in certain matter not the other way round he is depending on you....what are you going to do ? feed him n take care of him for the rest of your life? please for god sake...
2007-08-10 02:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by evon s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay but ive heard of this problem...
girl when u give men 2 much power they step on u you even if he wears the pants in your realationship u gotta make sure ur needs and wants are stated loud and clear!
=) !hope i helped! =)
2007-08-10 02:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by holly babe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋