Marriage & Divorce - 9 August 2007

My wife and I are at an impasse about our three year old daughter's bedtime routine. The routine itself is something we can manage if we can agree on how to handle it, but the real issue is that my wife thinks I'm doing it all wrong and she won't back me up. My approach works just fine when she isn't around, but of course it will never work as long as she undermines it. The kid seems to understand that and plays us against each other.

So here's my question: what's a fair way to prevent my wife from undermining my parental authority? I had a talk with her, and made no progress getting her to agree to back me up. I'm considering refusing to participate in the bedtime routine until she agrees to work with me, but I know that will just piss her off. What to do?

2007-08-09 12:35:13 · 6 answers · asked by rainfingers 4

Say your in a committed relationship and it just feels kinda lack luster. If you don't have a lot of excitement due to daily trials and tribulations, and every day is just another day. When "I Love You!" seems to be just a sentence he repeats.
Any suggestions?

2007-08-09 12:22:44 · 14 answers · asked by mendnjoe 2

The paralegal also said I do not have to split Ca. lotto and/or Vegas winnngs with her (spouse). She said that since I filed and I am seperated (living in an apartment) and she bought me out (the house)-house in her name already-she was served with divorce papers already and we split property 50/50-the main question would be-do I have to split the Ca. lotto/or Vegas winnings if I do win???? I am on step 3 of the divorce process-I have completed 2 so far (paperwork). Any help would be greatly appreciated...Thanx in advance!!!!

2007-08-09 12:21:38 · 10 answers · asked by ManyMilez 2

Alcohol. I was just thinking, He's a man, he likes sex, He's an alcoholic but maybe I can get him not to drink every night, I can give him a blo job and sex. Instead of drinking have sex with his wife. Do you think it would work?

2007-08-09 12:10:26 · 47 answers · asked by Golf Chick 3

My husband left about 2 weeks ago - we are still on friendly terms (we have a 4 year old daughter) we can still talk and in fact talk better now we are apart than we did when we were together (no there is no chance of reconcilliation)

Just recently I have been thinking about my wedding ring - I sort of want to remove it but I have had a ring on that finger for 10 years 3 years engagement ring and 7 years wedding ring and I just feel like I would miss the ring on that finger.

My question is for those who have gone through separation or divorce - when did you remove your ring and what made you take that step to remove it?

2007-08-09 12:04:18 · 29 answers · asked by ♥Kazz♥ 6

2007-08-09 11:58:47 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and i got in an argument because he was at the bar and instead of coming home he went to a mutual couples house that we hang out with. well, he decided to go out with the girl friend while the guy friend stayed home. I did not know this because he would not answer his phone. i just happened to call my girl friend to see if he was with the guy friend. she did not answer the first time either. well i called her again and she said that they were on there way to the bar. I became irrate and told him to come home. She refused to bring him home because they were almost there and she already had these plans. So, I went to the bar to confront him after yelling at him I left and they still continued to stay at the bar and party together until 1:30am. They both said they thought it would be ok because we are all friends but i feel so hurt that they did not care how I felt. How can a husabnd and a friend continue to party together when I am so upset. Any advice

2007-08-09 11:37:06 · 10 answers · asked by meadow230 2

We have been married for almost a month now, but I'm feeling like our marriage isn't going to last. My husband isn't affectionate toward me any longer... he doesn't want to wear his wedding band and he doesn't hug me when he goes to sleep anymore. Lately, we've been having argument and before marriage, we were doing fine. He convince me to marry him right away, but I told him we should wait. Now, after being married... things have gone down hill. How can I help this marriage to last since we are already married... what can I do to make it last?

2007-08-09 11:36:34 · 8 answers · asked by julie Robert 1

2007-08-09 11:34:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

well i am a olive or tan complexion. i was always proud of it . my culture prefers peple with really light skin even though they mite not be pretty but just because they are light skin they are considered god sent beautiful creatures. but since gotten arranged married to a man. i always feel from my inlaws side that he is better looking. his cousins are always commenting on how handsome he is or women at work flirt with him. he says all thses things in front of me and my husband, my husband just smiles or laughs like he is sooo happy that women like him at work. now I WANT U TO KNOW I AM PRETTY CUTE MYSELF but when it comes down to it he is fair. so why is his family even mom and dad saying good things about his looks but never said oo we found a perfect daughter in law. my husband doesn't like dark skin either he sometimes makes fun of people from our culture who have dark skin. and i can't get it out of my mind when he makes love to me how can he?? its hurting me inside more....

2007-08-09 11:26:54 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend of 3 years has asked me to marry him, recently. I love him with all my soul. And, I said "yes." My best friend of 18 years has asked me to marry him, again recently. Granted, he has asked 5 times, and I have not given him an answer. He says he will leave me forever if I choose my boyfriend...I said "yes" already. How do I break it to him gently? What the hell should I do? I'm f***ing scared to lose either of them. :(

2007-08-09 11:26:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am still close with a man I dated *T*. We were involved well over 12 years ago--we discussed marriage, but in the end things didn't work out. We have been friends the last six years. My husband, to whom I've been married to for 10 years enjoys being with *T* and has no problem with us staying close. T called me on Monday to tell me he asked his live in *D* to marry him the night before. Hubby and I are very happy for him--they're going to Vegas. *T* wants us there, his fiancee (whom I've met once--at his father's funeral) is opposed to it. In all honesty I've never really spoken with *D*, My feeling is, if he's happy, then I'm happy. I do NOT want to come between them or cause any friction. I'm probably going to be 'unavailable' for that weekend. Any suggestions? Am I doing the correct thing by being 'unavailable'?

2007-08-09 11:26:15 · 15 answers · asked by Jen-Jen 6

This is so backwards some people say that you should leave home at 18. Very reasonable(not). And then you have the side that says you have to make 16 dollars an hour to move out. I live in georgia how am I supposed to make 16 dollars an hour right out of high school.

Now I am re asking both questions.

How old should I be to move out?

and How much money do I need?

I currently make 11 an hour?

2007-08-09 11:18:37 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am a single mother of a 12 year old - have custody now - went to trial last week - judge is making decision next week the 15th-
wants a last rebuttle from me- ? what do I say ??
Sincerely, Ladybug

2007-08-09 11:13:41 · 6 answers · asked by butterfly 1

When my girlfriend told me she was pregnant, I decided to end our relationship. I never wanted to be a father. My daughter is 3 years old and I've never seen or spoken to her. I do realize I have a financial responsibility, so I pay child support without any problems. She could look me up when she's older if she wants, but right now I'd rather have nothing to do with the situation. Is it fair that some people call me a deadbeat?

2007-08-09 11:13:13 · 30 answers · asked by Spike 1

my mom decided that she wants to split up with my dad and she has this new boyfriend. now mind u the guy is kinda cool, but there are days that i just don't know how to feel. i meen ya i want to see my mom happy, but i miss my dad at the same time. me and my dad are like best friends. now i recently had a baby two weeks ago and my mom, my moms boyfriend, and my dad were there, but it was awkward. and when my dad visits it is just weird to try and talk to him about my mom because when he asks a question about her i cant lie to him so i tell him the truth and then i see the hurt look in his eyes. i just feel like sometimes my mom dosent see how i feel about the new relationship and that she never will. i want to move out and live with my boyfriend, but im only 17 i don't have a job and i don't want to make him feel like im living off of him with the baby. what should i do about my situation.

2007-08-09 11:12:20 · 5 answers · asked by *Tinkerbell* 1

So I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, and I feel like I love him, we're both in college. I feel like we both are each other's best friends, in fact I know that we are. I sort of feel like we're getting into that attached stage though. Where I always want to be with him, and if he doesn't call, I worry that something is terribly wrong, and we both seem to get jealous and paranoid. At least for me I overanalyze every situation when it comes to him and another female, and he gets a little jealous when I hang out with a group of people and guys happen to be there. I know that it's not healthy. He is also the only person that is truly involved in my life. I don't hang out with any of his friends because a.) they go to college far away b.) when they're home im in my hometown and c.) they're all guys that i dont have much in common with. At college we pretty much hang out with each other and that's it. What should I do to keep our relationship healthy at 20 years old?

2007-08-09 11:11:07 · 5 answers · asked by LateBloomer 2

I live in Germany and my husband is American living in CA. We got married there almost 3 years ago. I made up my mind that I want to get divorced and he told me that I should file for it because he's not the one who wants to get divorced, but he's going to sign the papers either way. Well, I thought I had to call an attorney but then someone told me I could just get a clerk. But I'm not sure how to find one online, meaning don't know what to look for, I searched for "divorce clerk" but that doesn't seem to be it. Can someone tell me how to find one?

Oh and for the haters: I didn't married for a greencard, I cancelled the application right after I told him that I want the divorce.

2007-08-09 11:06:03 · 3 answers · asked by The baby penguin 5

I am a recently divorced father who has one young child. He occassionally tells me that he wants to see his mom and cries about it. I tell him that mommy and daddy dont live together anymore and that we both love him very much, but he needs to spend time with both mommy and with daddy. I will not take him to his mom when he does this, I just keep telling him that I love him. It hurts alot, but what am I to do if this keeps happening?

2007-08-09 11:03:59 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for almost four years, and I don't believe in divorce, but I am at my wits end.
My husband doesn't love me!! Literally and Figuratively!
He is short with me, distant to me, unaffectionate and almost mean. When we are out in public, he has to be the center of attention - but often does this at the cost of putting me down. Our friends have told him how rude he is, and have told me that I need to move on.
Together we have gone thru some pretty traumatic events in our 5 short years together. His brother died, my Dad died, He is fighting alcoholism (successfully), He has almost been sent to prison for DWI's so that helped straighten the alcohol abuse out.
We have struggled since we met, and I keep thinking that this is what couples do, but now he has pushed me even further away.
I need affection, I need attention, and I need it from HIM. It has been months - literally - months, since we did …well you know.

I miss my husband.

2007-08-09 11:02:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I called my husband late at night when he was staying away and he said he was in the motel sleeping. When I got the phone bill, I checked it and the call origination was different than the other times I called him at the motel. I called Verizon and they said that he had to be in the town that the call originated (which wasn't the town that usually comes up when he's at the motel) and they even checked with technical support. My husband says he was at the motel but verizon said there's no possible way. Who do I believe?

2007-08-09 11:00:52 · 15 answers · asked by sundragonjess 5

What is your faveorite position in the bedroom??

2007-08-09 10:57:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

There was a promise to only go to these kind of sites together.

2007-08-09 10:51:16 · 11 answers · asked by Christine H 1

I am 24 years old married have 3 kids. I want to start hunting with my cousin, my wife is opposed to guns and said she would divorce me because she doesnt want the kids to get a hlod of them and get hurt. I told her i would get a combination safe and leave the bullets out of the guns while they were at home. Ive already given up my playstation because she didnt like that i played it every now and again. Is this a way for her to try and control me or something i dont know. My kids will be knowlegeable of what the guns can do, so how else can i convince her to let me get them i am all out of ideas.

2007-08-09 10:44:28 · 19 answers · asked by amr3169 2

2007-08-09 10:42:05 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-09 10:38:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-09 10:30:52 · 10 answers · asked by mariaaa 2

got lucky you or your spouse?

2007-08-09 10:22:03 · 12 answers · asked by daljack -a girl 7

I have been married for 4 years and I think i don't love my husband anymore. I dont sleep next to him in bed(SEPERATE ROOMS) and we havent had any sex close to a year now.
It would be really nice if your partner would do simple things for you, like flowers or even just knowing my favorite color.
He hasn't done any of that but he tells me that he loves me.
Basically the relationship I believe has lost its focus and slowly drifted away or at least I drifted away.
I met someone new and really enjoy his company. He doesn't need to be told what to do, he just does it. I know it's the first 8 months and i need to know what I want.

Why am I staying in this marriage? Do I still love my husband or do i just feel bad for him? HOW WOULD YOU KNOW IF YOU STILL LOVE A PERSON OR JUST FEEL SORRY FOR THEM? I am stuck and don't know where to start. I don't know if I still want to work on this marriage and I am just having mixed emotions.

2007-08-09 10:13:45 · 11 answers · asked by Aileen 1

If you love someone but you do things to them to push them away because your mad at things they've done in the past . do you have hope for a future, or cut your strings while you can?

2007-08-09 10:05:19 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous