I need some advice?

Question

I am 24 years old married have 3 kids. I want to start hunting with my cousin, my wife is opposed to guns and said she would divorce me because she doesnt want the kids to get a hlod of them and get hurt. I told her i would get a combination safe and leave the bullets out of the guns while they were at home. Ive already given up my playstation because she didnt like that i played it every now and again. Is this a way for her to try and control me or something i dont know. My kids will be knowlegeable of what the guns can do, so how else can i convince her to let me get them i am all out of ideas.

Answer 1

My husband hunts and we have a child...we were both raised around guns and taught to respect them! I think as long as you make intelligent decisions about them it should be ok...your wife must understand that a person needs a hobby or something were they can go and relax....hunting is not a bad thing and neither are guns...they are only bad is misused! you shouldnt have to give everything up for her...but just ask her about keeping the guns at your cousins house...that might make her feel better about the situation...and let her know that once your children are old enough you can take them to hunter ed. courses! That also helps teach kids about guns!

Answer 2

This is such a tough question. If she hadn't already made you give up your playstation I'd be firmly in her camp on this.

The thing is she has valid concerns about guns in the house with small children. It's a recepie for disaster.

On the other hand, I know people who keep guns in their homes and who hunt, they put meat on the table for their families as well as the wife and husband hunt together and have a great time sharing the experience. Their kids have survived with no ill effects.

It's such a personal decision. Maybe if you explain to her how much money you can save by eating venison and elk, as well as the leather that can be made from the hides she'll change her mind. My friend's husband makes venison sausage that is just divine. While I would never have guns in my home, it works well for them.

Of course I also know a couple wherein the husband insisted on having a gun and the wife finally agreed to it but insisted on learning how to fire it because she wasn't having a weapon in the house that could be turned against her or that could accidentally go off and kill her. She went to the firing range and became a pretty good shot but she never forgave her husband for forcing the issue. They're still married but I bet he's never forgotten what she said the day she got her sharp shooter's certification: "There, are you happy? You've got a gun and now you're just as much at risk from it as I am."

Answer 3

You need to go to counseling with your wife. She cannot ask you to give up everything you want to do. I am assuming here that you spend time with her and the kids otherwise. Guns can be handled safely and there's no reason for you not to have one. Does she have hobbies? Do you have to approve them? Marriage is give and take. Do you have things you do together, just the two of you? Making her feel secure might open her up to "allowing" you to hunt.

Answer 4

I don't really like guns in the house either. When I married my husband, I had two young boys, and hated the idea of it. He showed me how he could safely keep guns in the house. He kept them (still does) in a locked safe with the exception of one that is kept in the bedroom. Our bedroom was, and still is off limits to my boys (now grown). It's all worked out. I'd never dream of telling him he could not have a gun.

Answer 5

just tell her look im the man of the house and if i wanna gun for hunting i will get a gun like it or not and tell her the kids will strictly not go near any of the guns and say hey do i ever make u not do something u love doing yeah she is trying to control u and that really sucks i say do that anyway get the guns i descerve a little fun too

Answer 6

I grew up around guns. My grandpa was in the National Guard and hunted. He took us for target practice and we knew about gun safety. We also knew if we were ever found touching one - the gun going off would've been the least of our worries.
Maybe you could start smallish and take a class with your wife and leave the kids out of it. If you can take some of the fear out of it for her, she might ease up a little bit. BUT, if your kids will not obey your request to leave the guns alone - they don't belong in your home.

Answer 7

I hate guns....and we would have a problem with the hunting thing.

However in a marriage you have to compromise and pick your battles.......so I would apologize and tell you I was OK with the PlayStation....but no guns.

Don't make her be the mother.....nothing is 100% safe but you've got responsiblities now and accidents do happen.

She's got to ease up a bit about the other stuff.

Answer 8

If you never bring the guns home, but keep them at your cousins, would she still argue about hunting?
Find out...maybe the issue is deeper than the guns at home, and if it's not a deeper issue, then keeping them at your cousins should solve the problem, yes?
Some women are just opposed to guns in their home. I am one of them.
But I'm also not pro-hunting. I think the deer need to leave out bags of mcdonald's for days and days...oh, and bottles of scotch and beer too...and then wait in a tree quietly one morning with a loaded gun waiting for the men to come back looking for more cheeseburgers and booze. lol

Answer 9

You can't. Some people are irrationable about guns. The safe, makes them safe, of course. You might find a friend/family member to store them. You have to decided if this is worth the possibility of divorce.

Answer 10

Well thats one way to ask for a divorce.......... hmmm sounds like she is using any excuse she can.... I grew up around guns, I married a great guy who used to go hunting, but still shoots, if taught properly its safe....... Guns dont kill people, people kill people.......... and by the way, get the playstation back out, and enjoy it with the kids.... let her sit by herself alone somewhere. like in another house....