How do u know he's the one. we have issues like everyone else, we're getting to that pont and I'm pushing away

Question

If you love someone but you do things to them to push them away because your mad at things they've done in the past . do you have hope for a future, or cut your strings while you can?

Answer 1

The following is my answer to another question, but i think it works here almost as well:
(the question was asked "why do ppl fall out of love?"
I think it is because they dont understand the fundamental underlying principles of love. 1. To be loved one needs to feel special and wanted. 2. To increase love you must learn how to serve the other person ( I am not just talking about sex, but about the little things like opening the door, cooking diner after a hard days work, flirting to show you care, and generally doing things for your significant other even when you dont want to.) 3. Love is made from trust, break the trust and what is left is a broken hollow thing.4. You need to care about your significant other as much as you care for yourself. 5. You need to care enough to figure out what their needs and wants are, and fulfill all of the needs, and work on the wants.
If both partners do this, then you will never fall out of love. I am not saying that there wont be hard times, but they will be fewer and far between.

Answer 2

If you are only dwelling on the past and cannot forgive, you will not be able to have a good relationship with this person or even the next. What has to happen for this person to earn your trust and forgiveness? Can it happen? Talk to him/her and work on it.

Answer 3

These short questions usually have extremely long complicated stories behind them which can't be answered but in the vague manner in which the question was asked.

Answer 4

it's an issue that you will have clairify 1st with yourself, and maybe even talking it thru with that person, if you want to be happy you have to be happy with yourself 1st, the rest will come into play