my mom decided that she wants to split up with my dad and she has this new boyfriend. now mind u the guy is kinda cool, but there are days that i just don't know how to feel. i meen ya i want to see my mom happy, but i miss my dad at the same time. me and my dad are like best friends. now i recently had a baby two weeks ago and my mom, my moms boyfriend, and my dad were there, but it was awkward. and when my dad visits it is just weird to try and talk to him about my mom because when he asks a question about her i cant lie to him so i tell him the truth and then i see the hurt look in his eyes. i just feel like sometimes my mom dosent see how i feel about the new relationship and that she never will. i want to move out and live with my boyfriend, but im only 17 i don't have a job and i don't want to make him feel like im living off of him with the baby. what should i do about my situation.
2007-08-09 11:12:20 · 5 answers · asked by *Tinkerbell* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your home has to know you ar not comfortble with the boyfriend being in on your baby situation. Tell her it is awkward.You ned to set some boundried in the home you live in now. Tell you dad, please don't ask about mom, I feel like some kind of spy. Tell you mom your can't wait until you are able to live with the father of your child and how nice it will be to get away from your parents drama, but emphasize the drama just a tiny but more than the baby's father. Her ears might burn, but a least she will know the situation she put you in.
2007-08-09 11:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by so tired 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 17 and with a child what you need more than anything is a stable situation. It sounds like the bf thing isn't stable at all, so wait, give it a chance with one of the parents, take your time, and in a year or two the world will, and yes this is true, be a lot different, and a better place for both you and any children you may have.
2007-08-09 18:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. Tell your dad that you don't feel comfortable about talking about your mom or drop some hints that you really hate it. My mom always wants to know about my dad and then she feels really bad and then I feel really bad and it's just bad. Tell your mom how you're feeling. Really I think all your problems can be solved by just talking and being more honest with what you think. Sit down and eat dinner with your family and talk then it'll be easier to talk about things like this. So far as living with your boyfriend goes, I wouldn't do that if I were you. I would just continue living with my mom or even going to live with my dad and make sure that you get the child support you need from your boyfriend. I hope this helps. Good luck with everything!
2007-08-09 18:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by Chelsea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should live with your father and keep him company. Your baby will make him smile too, and keep him young.
Your dad will be there for you like your boyfriend can't, not only financially, but emotionally in ways that your bf doesn't understand, which is--unconditional love.
Don't live with your mother, she's preoccupied with her bf.
You need money, your dad needs company, nobody will lose in this situation!
2007-08-09 18:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait it out a year or two, get out of highschool, get a job, and then move out.
2007-08-09 18:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by Weston 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋