So I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, and I feel like I love him, we're both in college. I feel like we both are each other's best friends, in fact I know that we are. I sort of feel like we're getting into that attached stage though. Where I always want to be with him, and if he doesn't call, I worry that something is terribly wrong, and we both seem to get jealous and paranoid. At least for me I overanalyze every situation when it comes to him and another female, and he gets a little jealous when I hang out with a group of people and guys happen to be there. I know that it's not healthy. He is also the only person that is truly involved in my life. I don't hang out with any of his friends because a.) they go to college far away b.) when they're home im in my hometown and c.) they're all guys that i dont have much in common with. At college we pretty much hang out with each other and that's it. What should I do to keep our relationship healthy at 20 years old?
2007-08-09 11:11:07 · 5 answers · asked by LateBloomer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're just overthinking the situation. Just relax, enjoy life, and take things as they come. You'll be happier in the end.
2007-08-10 18:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Consultant 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing...just keep doing what you're doing so you learn from the mistakes that you're both making right now. i learned that lesson when i was 18 or 19 and i have never been in a relationship with someone that is jealous since. and the minute they act jealous, i'll put them in their place...nicely of course. jealousy is the first thing that will rip a relationship apart. ask yourself, why are you putting so much time and effort into being jealous or dealing with jealousy from his side?
2007-08-09 11:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow a bit down. Don't worry too much. With you not worrying so much, he'll probably stop as well. After college, marry him, sounds like you two have a great relationship.
2007-08-09 11:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by Weston 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This probably not what you want to hear, but you need to slow down and relax over this relationship. There is nothing a guy hates more than a clinging vine for a girlfriend. You are bordering on obsession here, and obsession is not love and it is not attractive to your man.
2007-08-09 11:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
MARRY HIM --YOU'VE got a catch. The Jealousy thing is very good. It means you love one another!!!! Congratulations! You have said I love you without even words! :))
We call it gheira when we speak about it in the Islamic context.
2007-08-09 11:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by MaryHadALittleLamb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋